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48 Birmingham, UK Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:37am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
A little extra
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from high school
Less than $20,000
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Updated 31/08/2014:


If you have no empathy for mental health issues then there is no point reading past this point but if you do you then please read on!

I have been accused of being opinionated with this profile when I am far from it! ANYONE who actually got to know the real me without judging me by words on a page or my profile picture would find that out. I am just honest and truthful about things. I am a very loving, sensitive, emotional man and I would rather be me than a lot of cold hearted people out there. Anyway.........

I am a single parent and have been since 1994. My kids are all grown up now! I am not working at the moment due to health problems! I don't drive or have a fancy home. I don't have much money but I have an heart of gold, plenty of love to give and Kids and Grand Kids who love me back so that makes me the richest man on earth! I am looking to meet a woman between the ages of 30 - 45.

I find it amusing that this website tries to define if someone will be my enemy or not? Websites like this may predict how well you will be a match/friend for someone (although people shouldn't go by every word said on someone's profile as one persons point of view on here can easily be misunderstood) I may be able to accept but enemies!? You have to get to know someone first before you make enemies of each other, a website CAN NOT define that! At the end of the day dating websites are all about luck and karma, just like life. What is meant to be will be! Anyway, that said, If I were to give you a shorter version of information about me it would be as my Twitter Bio says:

"Modest, Open Minded, Caring, Free Thinker, Writer/Poet, Atheist Peace Believer, Patriotic Englishman & Honest Single Dad/Grandad Who Understands Mental Health!"

A longer version would be..........

For ages now I have been trying to write a profile for dating websites correctly, worrying if I say the right thing or the wrong thing! Well is there a right way or a wrong way? I don't think there is so I have decided to just be me, honest and it is a case of take me or leave me!

I have a Son (who is 26, not living at home), a Daughter (who is 23, also not living at home), and a beautiful Granddaughter and Grandson.

I suffer from depression and anxiety. Mental Health is as important as any other health and it is not infectious! I was on a very high dose of anti depressants that turned me into a zombie but I chose freely to not be on them anymore. I can think straighter, I feel more alert and I have been trying hard to read self help books as an alternative. I have learned to love (and respect) myself for who I am so therefore I would like the woman I meet to be the same with me as well! I shall respect and love her back just the same!

I am not political as such, I am not religious (but do believe in spirituality and I like the peaceful ways Buddhism promotes. I don't think you need a "God" to believe in this! My faith and hope is in humanity!), I just can think for myself without the media, the Government and the NWO brainwashing me into what they think I should be thinking! I respect people's right to believe as long as mine is in not believing. That said if you are religious then I am NOT the man for you!

I am a open minded, young at heart, honest, respectful, caring, romantic, kind hearted, misunderstood, lovable kind guy. People like to confide in me they say I am good to be around! I have varied interests like writing poetry, stories etc., going on Twitter (mentioned above regarding bio!) whilst Blipping the tunes on Blip FM etc. I love animals and nature. I am a strong believer of peace and helping people understand mental illness. I like having a decent conversation. I am a passionate Birmingham City and England fan. I do love football but I know it isn't the be all and end all of life so I don't allow myself to get into petty arguments over it! I am also a passionate Englishman who wants to see the pride back in England once more without being labeled a racist! It is unfair! I like to go on my PC when I am not chilling or watching TV. I am fairly quiet but I have a good, cheeky, sense of humour! I have a varied taste in music and, as I said, I am not religious although I like the teachings of Buddha and I believe in Karma! Yes I am an atheist but I do respect anyone's PEACEFUL beliefs as long as they respect mine, even if we don't agree and besides it is often best to agree to disagree! As a peaceful man, I do not believe in wars or fighting and shall always have hope in my heart that the world will be a better place to live in for future generations! I would love to live somewhere quiet and stress free like the seaside or countryside and just be me! I have never been abroad but i would love to visit New York amongst other places! Still NEVER SAY NEVER hey?!

I'm not a wimp but I know the sort of man I am and I am not going to be all macho or false to please anyone! There are enough of those types on here already so if the pretty boy "He-Man" bloke is your type then good luck searching, move on! I know I am a good man, I am not afraid to show my feelings, I know I have an heart of gold and I hope some lovely lady will except I am what I am! I have two grown up children who have left home now and I am free to do as I please! I have two Dog's and one Cat. If you want to know anything else about me just ask me! Give me a chance and you might be surprised!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am just taking life one day at a time right now, always with hope in my heart and trying my best to stay positive about things!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This you need to ask me or better still, find out for yourself! ;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am a warm, loving, friendly person to be around!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This you need to ask me or better still, find out for yourself! ;-)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Bored! LOL. ;-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This you need to ask me or better still, find out for yourself! ;-)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I guess that depends on who I would I like to meet and if you think you are a match for me or not!?

Well firstly, from the start, I believe in honesty and respect and will show the same back if shown to me so please be kind enough to have a photo on your profile as I have one as you can see! Another thing would be nice to meet someone with a basic grasp of the English language and grammar please! I CAN NOT stand text talk! It is LAZY! Now to say this! I am happy to make FRIENDS with ANYONE, ANY age, BUT I am on here mainly for a long term relationship with a woman! I don't want to go through life dating one woman after another or having one night stands etc. because I am looking for love not lust! I am not stupid and I am not shallow, I know we all probably have an idea of what someone should be like who we want to meet and generally in life we will probably meet the complete opposite of that idea! What I have written here is simply who I would like to meet, who I would feel comfortable being with, based on how my life as panned out so far and past experiences but I am NOT shallow. I live in hope but I know things can be different when you least expect them to! The thing I am saying is though is that we all should hang on to our hopes and dreams, they keep us alive!

Ideally (although life is far from ideal) I would like to meet someone like me! That would be someone who doesn't eat meat (but if you do you do), doesn't smoke (has I don't smoke), not religious (I can not believe or pretend to believe in something because someone wants me to! That would be hypocritical and that is just NOT me), someone preferably smaller than me, has kids over 18 or doesn't want kids because I don't want any more. Someone who is kind, lives in Birmingham (has I have mentioned above I don't drive so it makes life easier if we are as near to each other as possible) and who is honest, respectful, caring and, has I have said above, accepts me for who I am. I would like to meet someone who likes a good conversation about things other than what is on the TV or in the newspapers or celebrity magazines! If you think we may be good together then say hello but please be truthful from the start. It prevents the feelings of mixed messages!

Finally if you do message me and I don't message back please don't be offended. I am NOT a nasty or unkind person.
I would rather not waste your time with false hopes that's all. I have been patronised myself, I RESPECT people too much to do that to them. I would rather hear nothing back at all then have false hopes!

Take care. :-)