I am Spontaneous, Fun, and Weird. I like random things. I have ooooh-shiny! syndrome. Which basically means I get distracted a lot. I enjoy doing a lot of different things. I crochet and knit and like to go geocaching when I can. If the season is right I enjoy apple orchards and pumpkin patches, and on occasion I like camping. (Though most of the time, I hate bugs, but I love bonfires). I like watching TV, but I don't have cable. I use Netflix and stream crap offline.
I enjoy photography, and would love to have a better camera to do more of it. I like listening to a wide variety of music, and going for a long drive (the more winding the road, the more I like the drive). I like to bake and while I cook a little I find that it's not as fun as baking. I enjoy having a theological discussion as much as something silly about a TV show. I like walking in parks and I enjoy sunsets. I adore Lake Erie, and I've been to the Pacific Ocean, but not the Atlantic.
I've lived in several cities in my life. Chicago when I was in my late teens, and I lived in Seattle for about five years and I fell in love with that city. I adored it, but I moved back to Ohio because I wanted to be around my family. They're annoying but very important to me.
To get this out of the way.....if you're a "god-fearing" kind of person, we really won't be getting along, so don't bother. I'm not into god, you can't convert me. I was raised a Jehovah's Witness and then switched over to Pagan a long time ago. After doing that for a while, I realized I'm not a huge fan of any religion. I follow my own path now, which has no "name". So please, don't bother if you're "into" god. I won't be "into" it with you. I'm aware this might come across as being bitchy, but I am just being upfront and honest here.
I am looking for someone who can hang out with me, who likes to try new things, enjoys comfortable things and wouldn't roll their eyes at a chick flick or going to Chuck-E-Cheese, regardless if we take kids or not.
Someone who understands kids is a must. Of course, I'm not going to thrust them (I have two) upon you immediately, that would be insanity and even I am not that cruel.
I enjoy board games and some other games. I love Katamari Damacy. I have a Wii and a PS2 and a PS3, but mostly my PS3 gets used for Blu-Ray movies and Netflix. The kids use the Wii more than I do and the PS2 sits there collecting dust until I play Katamari. I used to play WoW, but I stopped when most of the people I know stopped playing. I don't like playing games like that alone. I'm dying to play more board games and have a game night. I love Euchre, but haven't played it in years. I love Cards Against Humanity and just learned a game called Betrayal at House on the Hill. Super fun. I'm always up for more game nights, but I have a hard time finding a babysitter.
I love animals, but I'm allergic to most of them. I have a pet snake. Yes. I said a snake. It's kind of a jerk, but we keep it anyway. It's a ball python. It eats rats. And I like to watch it hunt them. I'm slightly twisted too if you couldn't tell from that statement.
I hate chores like dusting, dishes and laundry, but they're necessary evils.
I enjoy cleaning out my car, and I love the automated car wash. (So do my kids. They call the rain-x unicorn poop.)
I have a weird sixth sense about stuff and I'm usually right about things, and about people. I have an overactive imagination and use it to think up the worst possible scenarios. I'm great in disaster scenarios as I have the ability to triage and do what needs to be done without emotion. Later, I crash and cry, but not until the crisis is averted.
I enjoy astrology readings for the fun of it and there's something to be said for tarot cards because I swear my friend has this deck and it's almost always creepy accurate. I don't live my life by it, but I think it can be entertaining on occasion to do a reading.
I believe that some people you mesh with and other people you should erase from your life because they are entirely too negative.
I've been through hell in my life, but I'm not bitter or jaded about it. And when I say hell, I mean I've been homeless, lived in shelters with my kids, moved across country alone, and I have had to work very hard for everything I have now. I'm very possessive of my life, and protective of what I choose to have in it. I'm lucky my hell wasn't worse. I know a lot of people who have been through so much more than I have and I'm grateful even more that what I have been through has taught me so much.
I adore thrift stores, and I'm super budget savvy. Almost all of my kids clothes come from goodwill and second hand stores as do most of mine. Heck, a lot of my furniture, accessories and pots and pans, artwork, knick-knacks, books and media can say the same. I like getting a bargain and finding deals. I've gotten some really cool artwork at second hand stores. You never know what you're going to find!
I have a classic sense of fashion and I pretty much hate anything trendy, which is in general why I don't like Hipster people. Life isn't fair, you aren't special, get over it. (Sorry, it's a recent annoyance. Still working through it.)
I can be negative sometimes, but I try to keep an overall generally positive outlook. I tend to rant and rave at things and go on about them for a while when I'm upset or mad, talking them through A LOT, and get everything out of my system that way. If that fails, I do have a journal. I journal obsessively in private and have a blog as well for public consumption.
I love holidays. Birthdays, Christmas, Halloween, 4th of July. You name it, I love it. I was denied holidays for my childhood (Witness in case you forgot) and I adore them now. So I make up for them whenever I can. If I had money, my house would look like Martha Stewart threw up in it for every holiday season. As a thrifty girl who lacks storage space, I basically have to use my imagination. One day though, I will have that house with an attic and a basement and I will get my holiday decorating game on.
I'm looking for someone who actively tries to make relationships work. I'm open to poly, when it's done correctly. I am currently seeing someone, and our relationship is awesome, unique and complicated, with a dash of occasional confusion thrown in. Poly isn't for everyone, and I don't expect people to just jump on board with it. But when done correctly, it has some pretty great rewards. If you want to know more about what kind of relationship I'm currently in and why I'm looking for another one, please ask me. Don't just assume you know why.
On the same hand, I prefer for people to understand the difference between poly and swinging. I'm not a swinger. I want real relationships. Not just sex. You also have to be ok with the fact that I will have other people in my life aside from you.
If you don't know a lot about poly, but want to, by all means ask. Each relationship set is different. Being in one poly relationship doesn't mean that being in mine with you will be the same as the one you've experienced. Communication is key.
I recently had a very negative experience in the poly world with a monogamous girl who didn't communicate what she needed and then things got very ugly in the end, with a lot of dirt flinging from her. Which is why I have NO interest in people who want to be "poly by proxy". You're either all in or you're not.
I'd prefer to avoid that again, so please be able and willing to communicate your needs and wants, and don't be afraid to say, "Hey that doesn't mesh well with what I'm looking for, even though I like you a whole lot, it's just not going to work." Instead of hoping they get across. Let's act like adults, not children. Thanks.
Anywho.....I want commitment. I'm not going to just go and have sex with you right away. I'm not looking for that. I want someone who is around, and might even meet and like the other people in my life. I don't care if you're a guy or a girl. I miss having a girlfriend sometimes, as it's been quite a while since I've had one. Women understand things differently than men do, and that aspect of things is enjoyable for me. I've often said I have a feeling my primary relationship in life will end up being with a woman. I could be wrong. Some guy out there might fit that bill. I've known several who I would have loved to, but they chose not to for their own reasons.
I want someone who isn't afraid of my children, though I'm not looking for someone to step in and fill the role of Dad to them. They have one of those. You can be an eccentric Uncle or Aunt perhaps, but I'm good in the parent department.
The idea of a big family unit does appeal to me, but in reality, I find that carrying that out would be next to impossible. I really enjoy having my own space and I'm fairly certain that I will never get married. I haven't ever been, and while I have a desire to on some level, I'm not sure that desire will ever find someone to make it work with. I'm also not sure how much of that desire is because society says I should. I think if I haven't met someone to marry by the time I'm 40, I'll buy the dress and throw myself a huge party and wear it. Then I'll take it apart, make it into strips and crochet something out of it. LOL.
I'm independent in my own right. I make my own money, I pay my bills, and I really don't need someone to help me do that. Granted, it'd be nice to have a bit more spending money, but at the same time, I think everyone can say that.
I'm fairly certain that there are very few people out there who will fit in with all of this. Most people see that I already have a boyfriend and peace out. Or kids. Or a weird life. But I do rather enjoy the idea of finding someone who can long term this with me/us.
If that sounds like something you are interested in, by all means, contact me. :)