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38 Durham, NC Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Feb 15
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I recently moved to Durham after 11 years in SF and Oakland. I have a house now. I can't believe I didn't do it sooner. Let's find things to do in triangle that make me even happier about my decision...
What I’m doing with my life
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Freelance writing, working on a book, becoming a yoga instructor, curating a reading series.
I’m really good at
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Grammar, laughing at your jokes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My name -- it confounds all. Those who pronounce it correctly the first time win excellent prizes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Virginia Woolf, pretty much any Victorian novel, Flannery O'Connor, and poets: Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Catherine Wagner, Chelsea Minnis, Brenda Shaughnessy, Ariana Reines, poems by my friends.

I watch kind of a lot of BBC. Boardwalk Empire. Madmen is the best and most beautiful TV ever. I want to have Louis CK's babies. I saw a couple of movies I liked this year. Frances Ha, for one, was great.

Lately I've been listening to shoegaze revival band like Craft Spells, Small Black, The Depreciation Guild, Wild Nothing, Beach House. I'm a big 60's soul fan. Currently in an Etta James/Ray Charles phase. I listen to swing and gypsy jazz from the 30's and 40's, to which I dance a few nights a week.

Food: Southern.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends. The top five of them. And my delightfully insane cat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately: where to travel next, how to mess with syntax, translation/appropriation, meditation, anatomy, my family's ancestry, the state of West Virginia, the New Sincerity, how to decorate my apartment, how many unusual ingredients I can put in a green smoothie.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes at a reading or an art thing, dancing (swing - lindy, balboa), staying in trying to learn how to sew or some other new craft project, watching a screen in a dark room while eating popcorn.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For me iconic male sexiness = 1972 Burt Reynolds centerfold on bearskin rug.
You should message me if
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I’m generally attracted to people who are creative and who laugh a lot, but really what I mostly care about is this: It’s scary to connect with someone in a big way, but it’s also kind of worth it. I guess I'd like to meet someone who knows that, and who’s still wants to (carefully) go for it.