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37 F Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jun 17
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I grew up in Georgia, land of humid summers, impeccable manners, sweet tea, questionable politics. I moved around a lot after leaving the South, to England on two separate occasions, then to NYC, Barcelona and finally SF about 10 years ago. I got my MFA in poetry here in '06. I write freelance to pay the bills and am working on a couple of book projects.

I recently moved to Oakland, where the wonderful secret is it's FIVE DEGREES WARMER year-round. I have a backyard now. I can't believe I didn't do it sooner. If you're in Oakland, let's find things to do in the East Bay that make me even happier about my decision...
What I’m doing with my life
Freelance writing, working on a book, becoming a yoga instructor, curating a reading series.
I’m really good at
Grammar, laughing at your jokes.
The first things people usually notice about me
My name -- it confounds all. Those who pronounce it correctly the first time win excellent prizes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Virginia Woolf, pretty much any Victorian novel, Flannery O'Connor, and poets: Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Catherine Wagner, Chelsea Minnis, Brenda Shaughnessy, Ariana Reines, poems by my friends.

I watch kind of a lot of BBC. Boardwalk Empire. Madmen is the best and most beautiful TV ever. I want to have Louis CK's babies. I saw a couple of movies I liked this year. Frances Ha, for one, was great.

Lately I've been listening to shoegaze revival band like Craft Spells, Small Black, The Depreciation Guild, Wild Nothing, Beach House. I'm a big 60's soul fan. Currently in an Etta James/Ray Charles phase. I listen to swing and gypsy jazz from the 30's and 40's, to which I dance a few nights a week.

Food: Southern.
The six things I could never do without
My friends. The top five of them. And my delightfully insane cat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Lately: where to travel next, how to mess with syntax, translation/appropriation, meditation, anatomy, my family's ancestry, the state of West Virginia, the New Sincerity, how to decorate my apartment, how many unusual ingredients I can put in a green smoothie.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes at a reading or an art thing, dancing (swing - lindy, balboa), staying in trying to learn how to sew or some other new craft project, watching a screen in a dark room while eating popcorn.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For me iconic male sexiness = 1972 Burt Reynolds centerfold on bearskin rug.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 33–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
I’m generally attracted to people who are creative and who laugh a lot, but really what I mostly care about is this: It’s scary to connect with someone in a big way, but it’s also kind of worth it. I guess I'd like to meet someone who knows that, and who’s still wants to (carefully) go for it.