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39 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 3
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English, Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I lived in the Bay Area for 11 years before most recently spending a year living in North Carolina. Moved back a few weeks ago and am slowly rediscovering one-by-one everything I loved so much about California. Mild culture shock, but in a good, kind of familiar way. Let's do things.
What I’m doing with my life
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Just started an MA program in counseling psychology. Work as a freelance writer and have an MFA in poetry, working on a book.
I’m really good at
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Grammar, yoga, laughing at your jokes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My name -- it confounds all. Those who pronounce it correctly the first time win excellent prizes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Virginia Woolf, pretty much any Victorian novel, Flannery O'Connor, and poets: Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Catherine Wagner, Chelsea Minnis, Brenda Shaughnessy, Ariana Reines, poems by my friends.

I watch kind of a lot of BBC. Madmen is the best and most beautiful TV ever. I want to have Louis CK's babies.

Lately I've been listening to shoegaze revival band like Craft Spells, Small Black, The Depreciation Guild, Wild Nothing, Beach House. I'm a big 60's soul fan. Currently in an Etta James/Ray Charles phase. Listen to swing and gypsy jazz from the 30's and 40's, to which I dance a few nights a week.

Food: Southern.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends. The top five of them. And my delightfully insane cat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately: where to travel next, how to mess with syntax, translation/appropriation, meditation, anatomy, my family's ancestry, the state of West Virginia, the New Sincerity, how to decorate my apartment, how many unusual ingredients I can put in a green smoothie.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes at a reading or an art thing, dancing (swing - lindy, balboa), watching a screen in a dark room while eating popcorn.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For me iconic male sexiness = 1972 Burt Reynolds centerfold on bearskin rug.
You should message me if
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I’m generally attracted to people who are creative and who laugh a lot, but really what I mostly care about is this: It’s scary to connect with someone in a big way, but it’s also kind of worth it. I guess I'd like to meet someone who knows that, and who’s still wants to (carefully) go for it.