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46 F Grand Rapids, MI

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:07pm
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs

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My self-summary
Intelligent, thoughtful, kind, friendly, classy, not funny myself but love someone else's humor....
Spelling. Grammar. If you send me a message with the wrong "your" or "too" , forget about it. Smart phones make punctuation a bit tricky, so I'm more forgiving on that front. I'm not kidding about this; If you can't communicate through writing, don't bother.
I'm not interested in teaching you about what makes me tick. You either understand it, or you don't. (See below)
On a weekend rainy day, I feel compelled to go root around used book stores, antique stores. On a sunny day, garden, walk a beach town, discover a new restaurant.
Please, if you contact me, be serious about your desire for a relationship. I'm looking to make a real connection with someone, and that involves spending time together.
And for heaven's sake, have a sense of humor, and don't take yourself too seriously!
I’m really good at
I get a good understanding about new people fairly quickly. High emotional intelligence I guess you could call it. I stink at anything that has anything to do with numbers. On the flip side to the numbers deficit, I am great with anything involving letters and writing and reading.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height. I'm 5 feet tall. My eyes. Large and light brown. I'm cute enough that you won't be embarrassed being seen with me. I've been told that I look younger than my age. Being short with long dark hair and bangs helps.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Barbara Kingsolver, Anne Tyler
I don't go to many movies - short attention span- haha!
T.V.: Big Bang Theory, CBS Sunday Morning, CSI, Criminal Minds
Music: Some 70's and alternative 80's (The Cure, Love and Rockets, Depeche Mode, etc.), Melissa Etheridge, Indigo Girls...
Food: Seafood (oysters, King Crab), Ethiopian, Indian, Thai
Random: Learning to play the guitar.
Love the water, in it and on it (but not behind a boat), pan fishing and fly-fishing (rusty).
Enjoy being a passenger on motorcycles.
A red wine or whisky girl, with a dark beer thrown in sometimes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how I might fill the second half of my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Looking for a place to have fun. At a bar watching hockey or the Tigers and drinking whiskey or beer, going to some musical performance or at an obscure theatre watching a local play or event. The older I get, the more I relish the atypical experiences.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm here because I'm not quite as vanilla as I seem in life. This has nothing to do with that silly 50 Shades series. This quest started before the release of that book. I am into only one thing, and if you are into it too, then we should talk and at least become friends. I was born a spanko, much like being born with brown eyes, or long fingers, or some other thing that is out of your control. I am into the scene, enough to know that there are many more out there who are not comfortable with some of the extremes that can seem to be attached to this fetish. So I am searching a vanilla site for that person. I am a 'bottom' or a spankee, looking for a 'top' or spanker. I am not looking for a dominant, and I am not a submissive. I am not a slave looking for a master. I like the fun and release that comes from spanking games.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you consider yourself a mostly typical, intelligent, attractive, successful, humorous, educated man who identifies with what it is that I am looking for at this time in my life. I prefer older men, because they have been through the rough stuff in life and have the knowledge to advise and guide a younger woman. I am looking for someone classy, and someone who has a sense of humor. I am a kind person, and not interested in playing games. If this isn't you, don't bother because I'll see through it quickly.
If you only message me a one or two word sentence, or even a meager sentence or two, chances are that I'll not respond. Please tell me why you contacted me, and what you think we might have in common. Thank you.