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blushingflower

27 / F / bisexual / Single

Washington, District of Columbia

The Skinny

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 7" (1.70m).
Body Type
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Cancer and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Unemployed
Income
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Languages
English, German

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I am smart, funny, and warm.

My Self-Summary

The majority of my social life centers around the BDSM scene in DC. Not having to hide my sexuality is incredibly freeing, as is being around people who get the way my brain works and all my random reference. As it turns out, a lot of kinky people are also huge geeks. Or maybe it's the other way around...

I am a hard-core liberal/progressive, and despite trying to be open-minded, conservatives, Republicans, and most libertarians tend to try my patience. I do not understand inter-party relationships, because my politics are based on my values, and I can't be with someone who doesn't share my values.

Yes, I do blush. That's why I have that name. Also, the line in "Cabaret" that goes "I used to have a girlfriend known as Elsie/ with whom I shared four sordid rooms in Chelsea/ she wasn't what you'd call a blushing flower/ as a matter of fact she rented by the hour". I'm not a slut, at least not in the bad way, but I like sex and I don't think it's the same thing as love, or that it's a sin. Aphrodite and I have an understanding. If something in the preceding paragraph has led you to believe that I'm up for a quick and casual shag with a stranger from the internet, you're very much mistaken. Try the Casual Encounters section on Craigslist if that's what you're looking for.

As a general rule, I believe that one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar. My motto (one of them) is "More kissing, less killing", and I think the world would be vastly improved by the application of this policy, and by a general policy of "we're all in this together." However, even my patience wears thin on occasion. I can be bitchy and snarky. And if you catch me in the wrong mood (or I get the sense that you haven't actually read my profile before you message me) you may find yourself on the receiving end of said snark. Don't say I didn't warn you.

What I’m doing with my life

Looking for work, trying to find the discipline to write a best-seller. I'm more interested in making a life than making a living, but the rent doesn't pay itself, sadly.

I also spend a lot of time working on things for Black Rose.

I’m really good at

Cuddling, listening, talking, reading, remembering random (and not-so-random) things, writing, sex, making the tech work (I was the electronics whisperer at may last job, though that may have had something to do with the general incompetence of some of my colleagues. Also my father's technophilia.), teaching

The first things people usually notice about me

I've been told I have a great smile and a really nice speaking voice. And since I talk a lot, that's a good thing. I used to be tall, but then all the boys hit puberty.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books: To Say Nothing of the Dog by Connie Willis; Runaways, Y the Last Man (really, anything by Brian K. Vaughn); the Thursday Next books by Jasper Fforde; Fables; In terms of genres, I enjoy science fiction/fantasy and historical fiction. I especially enjoy it when they cross (historical fiction via time travel!). My guilty pleasure are romance novels and books by Laurell K Hamilton

Movies: Depends a lot on my mood. Labyrinth when I have a migraine; musicals (Moulin Rogue, Rent, Grease, Singing in the Rain); cheesy dance movies (Bring it On, Center Stage, The Cutting Edge, Dirty Dancing); The Forty Year Old Virgin, Knocked Up, Ever After, Iron Man. I like most things that end happily ever after, and a few things that don't. I prefer kissing to killing, but I'm not opposed to the occasional smash-em-up (esp. if it features James Bond as portrayed by Connery, Brosnan or Craig). For Christmas last year, my best friend got me Sleeping Beauty and Iron Man on DVD. This is a pretty good example of my taste. I don't like horror films or torture porn as a general rule.



TV: (in alphabetical order, because that's how I roll) The Big Bang Theory, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Doctor Who, Firefly, Fraggle Rock, Gilmore Girls, How I Met Your Mother, Stargate Atlantis, Stargate SG-1, Torchwood

Music: again, depends on my mood, but the joke is that I don't like anything written after I was born (not really true, but funny) I like Showtunes (Cole Porter, Stephen Sondheim, Avenue Q, Wicked, Doctor Horrible); Jazz/Swing (Frank Sinatra, Ella Fitzgerald, Sammy Davis Jr); Oldies (Motown {The Supremes, The Temptations, Marvin Gaye}, Chess Records {Chuck Berry, Etta James, Bo Diddley}, early Sun Records {Johnny Cash}, mostly 50s/60s stuff, which is what I was raised on); Rock and Roll in general (Springsteen, U2) as well as Folk-Rock (Moxy Fruvous, Simon & Garfunkel); Faire music (music from Renaissance Festivals, esp the really bawdy stuff). I care about lyrics, and how they fit with the music. If the lyrics are lame, then I probably won't like the song. I don't generally care for instrumental music unless it's uptempo or perfectly compliments the scenery (Take Five and Sing Sing Sing are two notable examples). And if I'm driving, it better damn well be something I can sing along to, no matter what it is. There are over 5000 tracks on my iPod, and I basically never listen to the radio (except for Pandora, which kind of doesn't count, and NPR)



Foods: I'm open to most "ethnic" foods, but I'm also really a meat and potatoes kind of girl. I like sushi and basically every kind of seafood I've ever tried. I love chocolate. Pizza is my comfort food and I am a firm believer in the restorative power of a good cup of tea. I like my steak pink in the middle and will never say no to my roommate's lasagna.

The six things I could never do without

assuming we have all the necessities for survival (shelter, food, water, oxygen, proper medication etc):

Other people (I would argue that other people are a survival necessity for primates in general, but as an extrovert I tend to go a bit crazy without people)



cuddling



the Internet



something to break the silence (iPod, book, whatever, but I can't just sit there)



a vibrator



the written word

I spend a lot of time thinking about

the future, religion, sex, the commune/kibbutz/compound I want to start

On a typical Friday night I am

Occasionally out ignoring my need for beauty sleep. Once a month (first Friday), at Dungeon 101 helping bring more people over to the Dark Side (we have cookies! And sex!) But more often Friday nights are spent at home.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I sleep naked

You should message me if

you want to have an actual conversation with someone.

You shouldn't bother if you're either a conservative or just looking to get laid.