Sleep.
Love.
Sex.
Ethics.
Critical Thinking.
Well, that was a bit sparse. Expanding on that somewhat:
Sleep: I love sleep. If I'm feeling down, I take a nap and feel
1000 times better when I wake up. I love the cosiness of a bed,
either shared or alone (preference on the former (most times)). I
*hate* having to leave it in the morning.
Love: I adore the feeling of love. I love being around someone I
care strongly about, just being in their presence. I feel
better/stronger just being around them. I draw strength from being
around them.
I adore the feeling of being loved. Of someone spontaneously
wrapping their arms around me because they *need* to feel me in
their arms. That's the sort of thing that makes me feel that it's
all worthwhile. (It's also dangerous in that 'screw going to work,
I'm staying right here' appears in my head :P)
I adore the physical act of love too. Spending a couple hours
expressing how I feel through touch and caress. :)
Sex: Which is entirely different to the physical act of love,
though not entirely dissimilar. I'm perfectly ok with 'sex for
recreation' with friends. No expectations being set and simply
enjoying each other in the here and now, works fine for me. I
consider friendship to be the basis of all further relationships
(and "I can't date you, you're a friend" is absolute nonsense).
And for clarity: This does not mean I am seeking a
polyamorous relationship (nor does that imply that I'm *not*
seeking a polyamorous relationship), or that I sleep around when
I'm not single. Take it at face value: I enjoy sex.
Ethics, discussion thereof: I find that almost everything in life
comes down to Ethics. Everything. It's never (for example) Ethics
vs Money, it's Ethical behaviour vs UnEthical behaviour. The
fundamental disagreement there is not whether or not it's "my
money", it's a question of whether or not it's acceptable for a
better off person to mistreat a less-well-off person. People often
(almost always) are internally conflicted on these points, saying
one thing and doing another, and I think that I would be unable to
function if I could not discuss these things with *someone*.
Ideally, this would be my partner, but if she's not into those kind
of discussions then I can always find it elsewhere. (Does this
count as 'cheating on your partner', or is a poly-intellectual
relationship acceptable in today's world? :P)
Critical Thinking: I am a consciously and consistently rational
person. I say it that way because everyone is, to a greater or
lesser degree, rational. However, most people will make snap
decisions without thinking about the consequences, or will let
themselves speak without weighing their words, etc, etc, ad
infinitum. Their rationality is also inconsistent. While they may
demand that other people act rationally, they make no such demand
upon themselves. They may frequently dismiss the actions of a
person because "oh, they're just like that".
I think about what I do. I think about what other people do. I
think about the reasons for both, and I evaluate those reasons for
validity, and for truth. I gauge how rationally people act, and how
they think they act, and how they pretend they think (not that they
are stupid, but that they misrepresent how they think to others as
they feel that they won't be accepted should they reveal their
actual thoughts).
'Rational' is not a synonym for 'boring', 'cold', 'unemotional', or
any of those other negative words people use to excuse their
idiocy. I do not demand rationality of my friends. However, someone
who is more irrational than rational will likely not be tolerated
for long. It gets boring trying to communicate with someone who
isn't even aware of their own reasons for doing things, and (far
FAR more importantly) doesn't
want to be aware.
I'll fill in the last one when I've thought about it a bit more.
