Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First and foremost I am polyamorous and have a primary partner
(Imthem). I say this right up front just so there is no confusion
later. If you don't know what I mean, feel free to ask! Questions
are a great way to start a conversation. Be aware though, that if
you ask me about poly I'm going to give you my definition. There
are probably as many definitions of poly as there are poly
What poly means to me... I feel as if I was born poly, much like
any other culturally defined orientation. What that means in a
practical sense is I do not have the capacity to be monogamous. I
do not feel limited to loving one person and sharing an intimate
relationship with only one person. I do not believe that my lovers
should be limited either. Goose/Gander, right? I find that I am
rarely jealous though I do feel envy from time to time (Hey! I
wanted to do that thing with that lover at that time!). I'm working
on it but I am an American male and I grew up in this culture and
it is easy to fall back into those cultural patterns.
Now something not related to Poly.. I volunteer for a couple of
Burning Man related project. Youtopia (The San Diego Regional
event) and Lamplighters... Who are hard to describe other than in
person. The explanation requires a bit of pantomime and
interpretive dance. (bonus points if you are chuckling right now).
I find that I have the most fun when I am part of the
I really enjoy live theater and am a volunteer usher for The Old
Globe and several other local theaters. This way I get to see many
more shows that I would normally. Making my Grandma Hartmann
Physically I am 6 feet tall and stocky. I shave my head (well the
last half anyway) mostly because I have a fabulous skull. I have
well kept facial hair and no I will never shave it. I was attacked
by a St. Bernard as a child and have scars on my chin. Since I'm
vain I grew a beard as soon as I was able. I wear glasses and have
a weakness for wild shirts. I could very easily be described as a
What I'm looking for in you.. First and foremost, is intelligence.
I know this makes me a freaky, atypical male but your brain is the
sexiest part of you. What this means is the shape/size of your
breasts, thighs, butt, upper arms, what you shave or don't shave,
etc. are non-issues with me. I also want you to be mature
emotionally. I have had my fill of drama, truly I have.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have made a career change. I'm no longer working at a job I hate
at a company that doesn't care about me and am now an independent
contractor with an excellent, ethical company. Now I just have to
generate the income!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking-It's how I express myself artistically. I'm no gourmet but
I have fun and haven't killed anyone yet!
Being the only guy in the room laughing. Or conversely, the only
guy not laughing.
Rubbing cat bellies.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My physical presence. I'm a fairly big guy.
My deep voice
My shaven head.Especially kids for some reason..
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I am a classic and contemporary Science Fiction buff. Pohl,
Zelazney, Dick, Pratchert, Tolkein and of course Heinlein are among
Movies...My tastes are really varied here. Science Fiction again,
action/adventure and drama too along with historical movies.
Music...Generally if I can hear it I can find something I like
about it. I'm a Burner so electronica/techno is almost required,
also some industrial, rock, classical, folk, Klezmer and the list
goes on. Feel free to make suggestions!
Food...Mmmmm food...I like spicy food and adventurous food. My
current favorites are North African/Moroccan and south Asian..
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Something to read
Happy, passionate lovers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The number 42. How to better interact with the normal world. How
many times I can insert the phase, "cunning plan" into everyday
You will score big points if you recognize where that comes from..
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What is a typical Friday? The answer to this depends on way to many
factors to answer with any kind of accuracy. I am open to
suggestions. Feel free to make some!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a weird, little dog that is in deep, deep bromance with me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are poly.
If you are a Burner.
If you are emotionally mature (your physical age is a
If you are comfortable with yourself.
If you would like a loyal friend and possible lover (Just so you
know, I am Master class).
Who are you looking for?
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