Oh, hi there!

I am avoiding writing something titled "To Give The Nod" and I've been successful since the beginning of October. I am not entirely sure what it is about, what form it wants to take, nor whether it will leave me alone if I just ignore it. I am only a sometimes-writer and nearly everything I've written has started with a title.

Why am I avoiding this one? Good question. Now we have at least one thing to talk about.

People who know me well have used one or more of the following adjectives to describe me:

funny, secure, poly, smart, employed, settled, adventurous, caring, strong, emotional, kinky, able, growing, experienced, agreeable, adorable, considerate, nice, sexy, gifted, delicious, broken, healing, understanding, amazing, meticulous, parental, keeper, intense, deep, goofy, sincere, mean, slutty, bratty, kind, outstanding, lame, fearless, idiotic, generous...

My life has been a series of happenings. I don't have a master plan to conquer the planet, I am not interested in pursuing massive material wealth, and being prepared for the coming zombie-apocalypse is something I have made accommodations for; I'm not all that worried.

I like to listen to people's stories.

I like to tell the perfect anecdote to illustrate a point.

I like to watch how others interact with the world around them.

I love to ride my motorcycle, read, watch movies, play, explore kink, cook, eat, laugh, cuddle.

I am funny, uber-smart, and modest

Working: Doing my part to reduce the cost of healthcare while increasing the likelihood that software automation will prevent a healthcare provider from making the kinds of mistakes that kill patients. Mostly this involves being the technical gestalt-owner of an integrated clinical information system.

(wow. please accept my apology for the preceding paragraph. all i meant to say is that i am using my smarts to keep the big computer systems running at a large Seattle hospital)

Learning: How to be a grown-up who has fun too, most recently navigating the seas of polyamory with my primary partner ishfurf without a chart we agree on. It makes life...interesting.

Parenting: My daughter is with me half-time.

Playing: Wii, Scrabble, BDSM

Trying to treat myself at least as well as I treat others.

Rediscovering truths I have taught others for years but don't seem to apply to myself and working on changing that.

Solving problems, writing, kissing, cooking, listening, computers, Shakespeare, learning new things, learning old things, finding missing objects, sex, kink, making you come, google searching, making people laugh, making sound effects with my mouth and/or body.

I'm really not good at:
Remembering to take care of myself first; saying No; baking; sewing (or anything to do with clothes); not taking responsibility; getting past my past hurts; making sure that I come; remembering to eat; accepting that others like me for who I am, not what I do; staying in touch; remembering to take pictures; most traditional sports.

Most people are sure they've met me before. I have one of those faces - folks can't quite place me but they are sure I look very familiar. Once they get past that: my blue eyes, my kissable lips, or my tight butt.

Books: Yes, books are one of my favorite things. Shakespeare, Gaiman, Hammett, Heinlein, Stephenson, Vinge, Parker, Dellilo, Highsmith, Gibson.

Movies: Classic Film Noir (Maltese Falcon, Double Indemnity, The Big Sleep); good Science Fiction (Blade Runner; 2001, Serenity); anything well-acted (Henry V, Usual Suspects, Fargo); seriously silly (Army of Darkness, Strange Brew, Beverly Hills Cop).

Music: My iPod has at least a little something from every genre, but I tend towards Alternative/Punk when I need motivation (Airborne Toxic Event, Weezer, classic Green Day), Jazz when its raining (Charlie Parker, Miles Davis, Ella Fitzgerald), and a hodgepodge of folk, classic rock, and blues for everyday just-getting-by.

Food: I confess: I am addicted to food. Sushi is near the top of my list, along with a good steak, perfectly cooked vegetables, waffles, and taco truck fare. My comfort food these days is a simple turkey or roast beef sandwich - meat, bread, a little mayo.

The ability to think at least as well as I do now
The ability to communicate at least as well as a 5 year old
More than half of my memories
Books
Music
Sex

(To be clear - there is no hierarchy possible when all 6 things are necessities, so the order does not matter)

Technological innovation and the coming Singularity. Whether we are already living in a post-literate society. What I want and what I need. Sex. Kink. Kinky sex. Sexy kink. Poly codes of conduct. Complex problems with simple solutions. What I'm going to include in my book. How to be a balanced person.

Home recovering from the week OR out at The Wet Spot OR searching for a Happy Hour treasure. My Fridays alternate between being a single parent and being an unencumbered adult.

A good first kiss with someone still fills me with hope and giddiness and tingles

any of the following apply:

You are interested in (insert any word found in this profile) and want to talk about it over coffee or drinks or beer or tea

You want a ride on my motorcycle

You have your own motorcycle and would like to go for a ride together

You want to tie me up and make me wait

You have short hair/are tomboyish and want to be kissed

You've read my FL profile and thought, "we could do that" about at least 2 entries