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33 M Mount Prospect, IL

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My Details

Last Online
May 20, 2011
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Meh, I hate writing pseudo-self-"descriptions" because of the illusory nature of such an exercise. So, maybe this will seem like a random collection of meaningless observations without a unifying theme. I lack the words to express me - this is what some search their whole lives for. I'm not done yet. People change, as long as they're alive. I like people that are different than me. I like people who change.

I am an intelligent* (Note- intelligent people KNOW they have a lot to learn), caring, and honest person. I value intelligence, kindness, and honesty in others. I'm a pretty grounded individual. I search out my limits and seek to expend the limits I know that I can work on, and accept the limits that I can't. I don't like losing stuff, though I often do, and I really don't like getting rid of things. I like blue things. I like red things. That also means, of course, I like purple things. I have a predisposition towards liking dark things, and a predilection towards the eclectic. I prefer honour to honor, and theatre to theater. I like crosswords, but hate Sudoku (try finding a crossword book in an airport these days). I am a beautiful and unique snowflake. Seriously. I laugh at serious things, and I take humor seriously. It works for me, because there's humor in almost everything... and a serious point in almost everything. Note that I didn't spell humor as humour.

I hate when people refuse to type "you." I answer questions with questions. I defy expectations - whether or not it is a good thing. I'm both contradictory *and* consistent. I'm comfortable with a confronted ambiguity, but I'd rather have a tentative plan. I have high standards for my friends, just as high as for anyone else, and I try to avoid hypocrisy. Debate is something friends engage in. I'm definitely not judgmental. I hate judgemental people, but I love people with opinions. I love people who search out new opinions, I love people that question.

I am sardonic, creative, and contemplative
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
(Periodically) attempting to find something meaningful.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, procrastinating, and other such aberrant deeds.

Smelling GOOD.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am alive.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books -
I am a visual and tactile person, so I LOVE BOOKS. I just wish I had more time to read them. You can have your internet - while I appreciate it, too, my bookcase(s) will NEVER have problems being filled.Plato's (and yes, that Plato) The Republic. Nietzsche (Try something like The Birth of Tragedy, or The Gay Science). Franz Kafka's various works, George R. R. Martin's "The Song of Ice and Fire" series, Mercedes Lackey, Mary Stewart, Robert A. Heinlein (like Stranger in a Strange Land). Raymond Carver is a brutal genius. In my childhood, it was Bridge to Terabithia, Lloyd Alexander's series, and My Side of the Mountain. I like fiction, I like fantasy. I'm in the process of reading more "literary" works, and becoming more appreciative of them.

Movies -
I love epics, from Lawrence of Arabia to Troy (though Gladiator was better). American Beauty will last as one of my favorites for years to come, as will Great Expectations. Hackers, Dead Poet's Society, The World According To Garp, Trainspotting, The Usual Suspects, Amelie, Quills, and Finding Forester were all wonderful, as are a ton of others that I'm too bored to list right now. During my last period of movie-watching, my newer favorites had been Igby Goes Down, Stealing Beauty, The Invisible Circus, The Salton Sea, Lost and Delirious, Big Fish, Ashoka.

Of course, most of these are pretty old - I haven't had the time to watch many movies lately with grad school. I think this summer will change that, though! For example, I really liked Nick and Nora's Infinite Playlist.

My favorite TV show was The West Wing.

Music -
Bob Dylan, Neil Young, The Clash, Bad Religion, Social Distortion, The Smiths, The Pixies, Pearl Jam, Smashing Pumpkins, Radiohead, Sleater-Kinney, Rage Against the Machine, Tool, Nine Inch Nails, System of a Down, Queens of the Stone Age, The Violent Femmes, The Cure, A Perfect Circle, Weezer, Tom Petty, Thursday, Brand New, Harvey Danger (WTF did they go?!?), Sublime (sometimes), Black Lab, Placebo, Elysian Fields, Scissor Sisters, Everclear (old), Green Day (old), Operation Ivy, CCR, Eric Clapton, Loreena McKennitt... and I've got to stop the list sometime, so here it is. Of course, I also think that violins and cellos are two of the most beautiful instruments in the world, so a guitar does not the entire milieu of music compose. I heart Mendelsohn. New stuff? I've like the Silversun Pickups, and the Cold War Kids remind me of an audible Raymond Carver. Seriously.

Foods -
I make some mean guacamole - in fact, it has converted some people. I love tomatillo salsas, especially for enchiladas verde with shredded chicken (MUST be shredded). I love alfredo sauces, and sauces built on cream and parmiaggiano reggiano. And I've had a love affair with coffee forever. I love pad thai and mussuman curry. I love wood-fire thin crispy pizza (IF I'm to eat pizza), especially with all kinds of cheeses (adding gruyere makes me happy). I really just like variety.

And Wine, seeing as wine is food - Pinot Noir, Cabernet Sauvignon, Chianti and Sangiovese. Yes, they're all RED.

Since some of you don't understand the whole wine thing, there's beer - Blue Moon, Sam Adams (especially the seasonals), Fat Tire, Smithwicks, but I think Franziskaner is the lightest I go. Good beer though.

Lastly, I'm adding a new category:
Poets -
Shelley (Percy, Bysshe!!), Yeats, Pope, and Blake. I mean, how can you not love "My name is Ozymandias, king of Kings // Look on my works, ye mighty, and DESPAIR! // Nothing beside remains: round the decay // Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare, // The lone and level sands stretch far away." No matter how cliche! That, my friends, is catharsis. It's the second best way of expressing the sentiment (the first being the more general "ashes to ashes, and dust to dust," which, by the way, is not Biblical). Or, how about, in The Tyger, "When the stars threw down their spears // And watered heaven with their tears // Did He smile, His work to see? // Did He who made the lamb make thee?"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...too many things. What is knowable. The limits of knowledge. Usefulness. The difference between proof and evidence. The difference between meaning and value. Problems, such as the problem of seeming vs. being.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday is a night like any other.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I love Tori Amos. Listening to her brings me a certain peace. Plus, there's a piano.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. want to discuss philosophy over coffee. (My record is 10 hours - I promise to never do that again, though)