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sardonic, creative, and contemplative

My self-summary Propose an edit

Meh, I hate writing pseudo-self-"descriptions" because of the illusary nature of such an excercise. So, maybe this will seem like a randon collection of meaningless observations without a unifying theme. I lack the words to express me - this is what some search their whole lives for. I'm not done yet. People change, as long as they're alive. I like people that are different than me. I like people who change.

I am an intelligent* (Note- intelligent people KNOW they have a lot to learn), caring, and honest person. I value intelligence, kindness, and honesty in others. I'm a pretty grounded individual. I search out my limits and seek to expend the limits I know that I can work on, and accept the limits that I can't. I don't like losing stuff, though I often do, and I really don't like getting rid of things. I like blue things. I like red things. That also means, of course, I like purple things. I have a predisposition towards liking dark things, and a predilection towards the eclectic. I prefer honour to honor, and theatre to theater. I like crosswords, but hate Sudoku (try finding a crossword book in an airport these days). I am a beautiful and unique snowflake. Seriously. I laught at serious things, and I take humor seriously. It works for me, because there's humor in almost everything... and a serious point in almost everything. Note that I didn't spell humor as humour.

I hate when people refuse to type "you." I answer questions with questions. I defy expectations - whether or not it is a good thing. I'm both contradictory *and* consistent. I'm comfortable with a confronted ambiguity, but I'd rather have a tentative plan. I have high standards for my friends, just as high as for anyone else, and I try to avoid hypocrisy. Debate is something friends engage in. I'm definitely not judgemental. I hate judgemental people, but I love people with opinions. I love people who search out new opinions, I love people that question.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

Just finished my Master's degree; Embarking on the new career journey. Trying to reconnect with friends old and new after two years of grad school. Unpacking. Finding furniture.

I'm exploring the suburbs. The reason I'm not living in Chicago proper is so that I can get my older family members into my home relatively easily when I cook the holiday meals. Closer to the city now than ever, though, and those $5 weekend metra passes are the awesomeness.

...and, as always, attempting to find something meaningful.

I'm really good at Propose an edit

Writing, procrastinating, and other such aberrant deeds.

Smelling GOOD.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

I am alive.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

Books -
I am a visual and tactile person, so I LOVE BOOKS. I just wish I had more time to read them. You can have your internet - while I appreciate it, too, my bookcase(s) will NEVER have problems being filled.Plato's (and yes, that Plato) The Republic. Nietzsche (Try something like The Birth of Tragedy, or The Gay Science). Franz Kafka's various works, George R. R. Martin's "The Song of Ice and Fire" series, Mercedes Lackey, Mary Stewart, Robert A. Heinlein (like Stranger in a Strange Land). Raymond Carver is a brutal genious. In my childhood, it was Bridge to Terabithia, Lloyd Alexander's series, and My Side of the Mountain. I like fiction, I like fantasy. I'm in the process of reading more "literary" works, and becoming more appreciative of them.

Movies -
I love epics, from Lawrence of Arabia to Troy (though Gladiator was better). American Beauty will last as one of my favorites for years to come, as will Great Expectations. Hackers, Dead Poet's Society, The World According To Garp, Trainspotting, The Usual Suspects, Amelie, Quills, and Finding Forester were all wonderful, as are a ton of others that I'm too bored to list right now. Duringmy last period of movie-watching, my newer favorites had been Igby Goes Down, Stealing Beauty, The Invisible Circus, The Salton Sea, Lost and Delirious, Big Fish, Ashoka.

Of course, most of these are pretty old - I haven't had the time to watch many movies lately with grad school. I think this summer will change that, though! For example, I really liked Nick and Nora's Infinite Playlist.

My favorite TV show was The West Wing.

Music -
Bob Dylan, Neil Young, The Clash, Bad Religion, Social Distortion, The Smiths, The Pixies, Pearl Jam, Smashing Pumpkins, Radiohead, Sleater-Kinney, Rage Against the Machine, Tool, Nine Inch Nails, System of a Down, Queens of the Stone Age, The Violent Femmes, The Cure, A Perfect Circle, Weezer, Tom Petty, Thursday, Brand New, Harvey Danger (WTF did they go?!?), Sublime (sometimes), Black Lab, Placebo, Elysian Fields, Scissor Sisters, Everclear (old), Green Day (old), Operation Ivy, CCR, Eric Clapton, Loreena McKennitt... and I've got to stop the list sometime, so here it is. Of course, I also think that violins and cellos are two of the most beautiful instruments in the world, so a guitar does not the entire milieu of music compose. I heart Mendelsohn. New stuff? I've like the Silversun Pickups, and the Cold War Kids remind me of an audible Raymond Carver. Seriously.

Foods -
I make some mean guacamole - in fact, it has converted some people. I love tomatillo salsas, especially for enchinladas verde with shredded chicken (MUST be shredded). I love alfredo sauces, and sauces built on cream and parmiaggiano reggiano. And I've had a love affair with coffee forever. I love pad thai and mussuman curry. I love wood-fire thin crispy pizza (IF I'm to eat pizza), especially with all kinds of cheeses (adding gruyere makes me happy). I really just like variety.

And Wine, seeing as wine is food - Pinot Noir, Cabernet Sauvignon, Chianti and Sangiovese. Yes, they're all RED.

Since some of you don't understand the whole wine thing, there's beer - Blue Moon, Sam Adams (espectially the seasonals), Fat Tire, Smithwicks, but I think Franziskaner is the lightest I go. Good beer though.

Lastly, I'm adding a new category:
Poets -
Shelley (Percy, Bysshe!!), Yeats, Pope, and Blake. I mean, how can you not love "My name is Ozymandias, king of Kings // Look on my works, ye mighty, and DESPAIR! // Nothing beside remains: round the decay // Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare, // The lone and level sands stretch far away." No matter how cliche! That, my friends, is catharsis. It's the second best way of expressing the sentiment (the first being the more general "ashes to ashes, and dust to dust," which, by the way, is not Biblical). Or, how about, in The Tyger, "When the stars threw down their spears // And watered heaven with their tears // Did He smile, His work to see? // Did He who made the lamb make thee?"

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

A good mind, good music, good food, good conversation, good experiences, and inspiration.

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

...too many things. What is knowable. The limits of knowledge. Usefulness. The difference between proof and evidence. The difference between meaning and value. Problems, such as the problem of seeming vs. being. Seriously, please stop me. It's getting hard to sleep. Where to find good food. Where to find a good environment. How to afford such.

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

Friday is a night like any other. Either out, or in if I've been out a lot during the week.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

Eh, I try to be a pretty open person, so maybe I'll list a couple things over here. And to the people who say, "If I admit it, it's not private anymore" - you have a point, but you're missing the point. The point is we are looking for the "most private," not the penultimate secret, nor that thing you'd never tell anybody.

I still have a boyhood crush on Janeane Garofalo. Some of the more kooky conspiracy stuff isn't my cup of jasmine dragon pearl (tea, of course), but I'm probably still a little bit infatuated.

I love Tori Amos. Listening to her brings me a certain peace. Plus, there's a piano.

I actually own a $500 pair of jeans. At that price, they're not "jeans," they're denim pants, but... I don't care, I love my Roberto Cavallis! I didn't pay $500 for them, mind you, but they were very expensive. I'm trying to lose a couple pounds to fit back into them. They're SOOOOO comfy. The last jeans I bought were from Target, though, so at least I'm well-rounded.

I love shopping. I haven't been doing as much due to lack of income, but I LOVE it! (see above)

Some of my recent friends think I'm overly cold and logical, as opposed to emotional. This couldn't be further from the truth. I am a very caring, warm, and loyal person - in fact, I have to be reasonable and logical in order to avoid caring too much, and getting hurt. It's just the eternal wisdom of reason moderating passion - the Greeks knew much, ya know. All of my good friends can see this easily. It's all a part of having balance.

I find it difficult to sleep without a cuddly pillow. My bed is FAR too big without one.

Oh, and as far as things I spend a lot of time thinking about... I've been thinking about whether or not to put this down, because it's not something that's relevent to EVERYONE who would come across this, as I'm always looking to meet new and interesting friends, too. But, as I'm seeing more and more often these days, I spend a lot of time thinking about: Sex. (and most especially, giving oral sex)
Yeah, it's all cool for women to admit to sex as "something they could never live without" or "something they spend a lot of time thinking about," but then when a guy mentions it, he's lame or uncouth or some other thing. So, if that is something that you find uncool or juevenile, feel free... but I think most people that would make good friends can just deal and appreciate truth.

You should message me if Propose an edit

...you want to discuss philosophy over coffee. (My record is 10 hours - I promise to never do that again, though)

...you want to discuss almost anything over dinner at a new or interesting restaurant. (I need food buddies in the area - can't travel an hour for dinner every night!)

...you can answer the question: Do odd ducks quack?

...you see, quite clearly, just how much I rock. (Like granite.)

...you want to become shopping buddies (We should have at least somewhat intersecting tastes - I don't step foot into A&F or Aeropostale)

...you can tell me a little bit about (or show me around!) the Wheeling / Mount Prospect / Arlington Heights / Northbrook / Riverwoods / Buffalo Grove area, AND the NW Chicago area. I'll get downtown, too. (I couldn't even find a decent bar the other night.)

Or just... why not?

(By the way, just to clear something up, I'm not a cowboy)

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Ethnicity
N/A
Height
5' 9" (1.75m).
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Sign
Leo and it's fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education / Academia
Income
N/A
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), French

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