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35 Basingstoke, UK Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 20
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Doesn’t want kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am, to my eternal shame and despite all efforts to the contrary, Nice.
What I’m doing with my life
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Having too many geeky hobbies to keep up with, and thinking of new ones all the time. I've found that far too many of these hobbies leave me more tired than before.

GMing a Pathfinder game for a group of friends in Oxford.

I've started doing Tai Chi, which has to be the best way to lose weight for the amount of effort that goes into it.

Contemplating looking for a new job, and trying not to get unrealistic expectations about how much better it would be.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing long essays for OkCupid, apparently.

I have a bad habit of ending up in charge of things. I really don't intend to.

I do a decent evil laugh.

I'm apparently good at teaching. This baffles me, as I generally find the process incredibly frustrating, yet somehow I come across as patient and understanding.

I can dance salsa, and things similar to it, including smatterings of ballroom. I've even been known to teach ballroom, though that really is the blind following the blind. I love to ceilidh because it's energetic and easy for everyone to join in. I can dosey-doe a man twice my size.

I'm really bad at

Pretending to be normal.

Remembering stuff. Seriously, I have a rubbish memory. That's what computers and pencils are for. I use lots of paper, especially when I'm thinking, planning and figuring stuff out, which happens a lot. No, these papers are not even vaguely organised.

Picking up on subtle signals. If you think I'm deliberately ignoring your feelings, 9 times out of 10 it's because I honestly haven't noticed.

I'm utterly incapable of modern, club or disco dancing, probably because it's without form or rules (at least ones I can decipher).

I'm honest by nature. That's not a virtuous life choice, I just am - I don't get a choice in the matter.
The first things people usually notice about me
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He really should get a haircut, and get rid of that beard. Doesn't he know what he looks like?

People's first impression is probably that I'm large: 6ft tall, broad shoulders, long limbs and a big face.

Or they might happen to notice that I'm wearing zombie make-up.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: I enjoy cooking. I do a good lasagne, stroganoff and risotto, and also french toast for a yummy lazy breakfast in bed. I'm told my tastes are quite rich - I'm not afraid of fat or flavour. Don't expect anything dainty, fashionable or slimming.

Drink: Real ale, sake, well made tea and real coffee. I also adore sloe gin, but it takes two years to mature - which is why my kitchen cupboards are full of bottles.

Update: Some have questioned whether it's really worth leaving sloe gin for two years. I insist that giving it that extra time to mature does wonders for the flavour. I've recently been experimenting with replacing the sugar in it with various substances like honey or maple syrup - but it'll be a while before I know the result.

Anime: Crest of the Stars, When They Cry, Durarara!!, Clannad, Eden of the East, Haibane Renmei, Code Geass, Bakuman, A Certain Magical Index and far too many others to list. I've recently been enjoying Sword Art Online, Kokoro Connect and Psycho-pass. I'm told all the anime I love is depressing, which I deny, but I do enjoy a good harrowing.

Hint: if you hate anime, that might be an issue.

TV: I've been enjoying Dexter, Almost Human and Game of Thrones recently. Favourites include Firefly, Fringe and of course Doctor Who. If you're British, you have to like Doctor Who. It's the law.

Books: I grew up with Douglas Adams and Tolkein, and now read sci fi and fantasy like Dune, Rivers of London, The Dresden Files or Neil Gaiman; Japanese novels like Spice & Wolf or Scrapped Princess; or occasionally proper books like Rebecca, The Handmaid's Tale or The City & The City (though not often enough). I also waste my time on technical books and manga.

I'm currently reading: The Last Ringbearer by Kirill Yeskov, a retelling of Lord of the Rings from the other side's perspective.

Movies: Red Cliff (Chinese), Night Watch (Russian), Italian for Beginners (Danish dogme film that's really funny), Alien (textbook horror). I don't watch a lot of movies, so there are massive gaps in my cultural knowledge. I'm looking forward to the final bit of the Hobbit.

I applaud any film or TV show that gets the science of space right, in particular the staggering scale involved.

Music: My mood in music varies like the weather, but I'm particularly fond of Kajiura Yuki - it's great material for testing headphones. Guilty pleasures include Chameleon Circuit, the H P Lovecraft Appreciation Society and

I can't sing for toffee, but I appreciate those who can.

Games: Totally D&D. Or to be precise Pathfinder, but I'm open minded to trying new games. Occasionally Munchkin, Channel A or Cards Against Humanity.

I don't play computer games that much, except when I get a temporary addiction and spend a few weeks knackered because it's stolen my life. Past addictions have included Civilization, Deus Ex and Kerbal Space Program.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I find most luxuries are more enjoyable if they're kept rare and special.

The thing I could really never do without is something intriguing to ponder. Though the details have changed frequently, that's been my constant companion for longer than I've had words to express it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden, or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator. He will not be striving for it as a goal in itself. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of the day." ~W. Beran Wolfe

I continually conjure up hobbies, projects and random things to apply myself to, and these things occupy most of my mind. To an observer these may look oddly like work. The ability to get excited and lost in a thing indicates to me an interesting person.

Lately, I've been thinking about: The reason gold is a yellow colour rather than silvery is because the electrons are moving fast enough for relativity to adjust the wavelength of the light absorbed from UV into blue. Isn't that awesome?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Catching up on the latest anime, having friends round, or working on some random project.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can't ride a bike.
You should message me if
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You're open-minded enough to tolerate my hobbies and oddities, and interesting enough to bring a few of your own.