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bodhisattva47

50 Los Angeles, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:14am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Judaism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Super-successful movie star playboy with a villa on Lake Como. Wait, that's George Clooney. I confuse myself with him sometimes. Okay, me: I'm a successful TV writer with most of my hair and all of my sense of humor. Like George, I truly like and respect women because, at least in part, i was raised by them. Unlike George, I'm looking for a relationship that lasts more than two years.* Preferably with someone who already has her own life and career together and is as passionate about her work and interests as I am about mine. And who has seen "The Wild Bunch." And liked it. Okay, that part's negotiable. A girl recently called me a "sweet guy," and I am. But I definitely ain't nice-guy boring. I'm good at having a good time, and people tend to have a good time with me.

*A footnote in a dating profile? This quip requires an amendment now that George has put a ring on someone's finger. I count it as further inspiration. And I particularly like that he didn't choose a model, but instead a lawyer, activist and U.N. advisor. Hey, wisdom comes later to some of us, but better than not at all.

And while we're on the issue of wisdom, and since I've been questioned about this more than once, my OKCupid handle "Bodhisattva" doesn't mean I have the chutzpah to consider myself a truly "enlightened" being. What bits of life-wisdom I've managed to accumulate have been hard won, and are still being won; it's an ongoing process. "Bodhisattava," or "Bodhi" for short, was actually the nickname of Patrick Swayze's surfer-bankrobber character in "Point Break," one of my favorite surfing-bankrobbing movies. As another character says of Bodhi, "he'll take you to the edge. Past it." Me, I'll take you to dinner. Or surfing. But maybe you could take me to the edge, or past it. I'm always up for something new.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been working as a writer in TV and film for a bunch of years, enjoying the hell out of it (or at least most of the time), and now I'm also trying to do a bit more music on the side. Had a band back when I was in New York, and I'm now playing in a new one out here. I had forgotten how much I missed strapping on a guitar and playing in front of folks. Unlike a TV show, it doesn't take the resources of a corporation to make a song; you can do it all on your own, or with your friends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people laugh and occasionally making an ass out of myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Eyes, sense of humor, full-body Yakuza tattoo (jk).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many to count or even remember, so I'll mention a few recent favorites from recent months, or years:
Books: "The Golem and the Jinni," in which two supernatural beings mix it up with humans in New York's teeming Lower East Side at the turn of the last century. "A Delicate Truth," by John LeCarre, who updates the spy novel for the 21st century. "Breath" and "On a Wave," two nifty surfing memoirs. "Hyperion," by Dan Simmons, a brilliant sci-fi update of the Canterbury Tales. Keith Richards' "A Life." Walter Isaacson's biography of Steve Jobs. Patti Smith's memoir, "Just Kids," about coming of age as artist and her friendship with Robert Mapplethorpe. I'm not usually a big nonfiction guy, but these books, all about artists (and yes, I'd include Steve Jobs in that category) who followed their hearts and obsessions, resonated powerfully for me. I'm always reading new books -- or, more accurately, listening to them on my iPhone as I drive or work out. There's something great about being read to that takes me back to being a kid... or even further, to the way stories were probably told around campfires.

Movies: Another passion. Yes, we can lounge in front of our big-ass TVs, but for me nothing beats a much bigger communal screen -- like the Cinerama Dome, where I was just blown away by Interstellar, in 70 mm (and almost literally blown away by Hans Zimmer's score -- that shit was LOUD). A couple of other recent favorites: "Birdman," with Michael Keaton. "The Homesman," a stark but really moving western directed by Tommy Lee Jones and starring him and Hilary Swank. So in a nutshell a cinematic omnivore, my tastes running the gamut from genre to art house.

Music: When I'm not listening to books, my iPhone is on permanent shuffle, or Spotify is blowing up the bluetooth connection in my car. The usual suspects who keep showing up lately: Lucinda Williams, John Hiatt, The Avett Brothers, Trouble Dolls, Trainwreck (OK, the last two are my last two bands but I LIKE them), Springsteen, X, Ramones, Cheap Trick, New Pornographers, Edith Frost, Arcade Fire, Aimee Mann, T-Model Ford, Johnny Cash, The Weakerthans, David Byrne, Ennio Morricone, Lana Del Ray, Dave and Phil Alvin (of Blasters fame, recently teaming up for an album of rootsy originals).

Food: You name it, I like it. Mostly I like going out to dinner with someone special and asking the waiter to help us narrow down the choices. Love eating, hate menus. Some of my favorite restaurants are the ones where the entire menu fits on a blackboard on the wall. Regarding which, Hollywood carnivores should check out "Salt's Cure," a little place on Santa Monica Blvd. See? You get restaurant tips with my profile!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Damn, let's see... laptop, surfboard, guitar... and I'm already running out of "things" I couldn't do without. So maybe I'll add three more things that aren't really things but are probably more essential: good friends, some creative labor of love, and, yeah, some time to exhale.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Work, and women. Sometimes in that order, but much more often these days in the opposite order. I've always been ambitious and have had my share of success in my chosen field, but what that's brought home to me lately is that work, a career, etc., can never be more than half the story, and sometimes less. I've been working at bringing my life into balance, and that means finding the right person to share it with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Twisting my own arm to make sure I get out and do something fun or interesting or both. The end of a long work-week can make you want to veg in front of the TV, but if you do it feels like you've already blown off half your weekend. So, dinner with a friend or friends, a movie, play, concert or a party. Or just something I haven't done before. Last week I dragged a friend to country music bar I heard of in Burbank. Turned out to be a low-key joint. Just us, a band, and a handful of rockabilly types who all knew each other and made for a friendly scene. A couple of Johnny Cash covers, a Corona or two and I was just fine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, I won't admit it here, but I'm not particularly shy so just ask me in person and I'll come up with something.
You should message me if
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Um... because you might want to date me, right? I mean what the f*$k else are we doing here?