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bodlon

29 / M / bisexual / Available

Columbia, Missouri

The Skinny

Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 8" (1.72m).
Body Type
—
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aquarius and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Owns dogs
Languages
English (Fluently), Welsh (Poorly)

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I am witty, geeky, and introverted.

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My Self-Summary

I'm a 29-year-old queer, kinky, polyamorous transguy living in Columbia, MO. I'm a writer with a day job, a sometimes artist, and a poet when the mood strikes me. I live with a long-term platonic partner (read: straight boyfriend from before the transition; on Facebook I simply say "it's complicated"). I'm a polytheist, a geek, and a gamer. I majored in English and minored in Philosophy/Ethics/Religious Studies. Politically, I'm very liberal and interested in social justice, but between the writing and the day job I don't get out as much as I could to do the actual work.

What I’m doing with my life

I spend a lot of my free time writing for fun or publication, reading, and playing video games. I'm also trying to teach myself Welsh, though I don't practice enough to have any real proficiency and need to set time aside to really work on it.

I’m really good at

Writing, mostly. I'm also a good problem solver, and I'm not a bad painter, though results are inconsistent. I also make a great cup of coffee or tea.

The first things people usually notice about me

I'm a bit eccentric, and a little bit stand-offish until I know for sure I'm welcome. Once I get started, though, I can be really quite talkative. I also have really cool glasses. Well, okay. I think so.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

My favorite television right now is Torchwood, Doctor Who, Being Human (the UK tv show, not the film), Project Runway, Firefly, and Top Gear. My favorite books right now are by Neil Gaiman, Jim Hines, William Gibson, Catherynne Valente, and China Mieville. My favorite films right now tend to be things like Clerks, Shaun of the Dead, Severance, but I've got a man crush on Jason Statham, so I'll give anything he's in a try. My favorite bands/musical artists at the moment are Nine Inch Nails, Morrissey and/or The Smiths, Rufus Wainwright, The Ike Reilly Assassination, Kentucky AFC and MC Mabon. I really like Indian cuisine, sushi, and well-executed American stuff. Also, dark beer, red wine, and blue cheese.

The six things I could never do without

Presuming my basic needs (food, clothing, shelter) are met? 1) My netbook, which I use for work as well as play. 2) My dogs, who come on a bit strong but make my life wonderful. 3) The Internet, as a lot of my interests are sort of niche and many of my friends live out of town. 4) Media (books, film, music etc.), because nothing helps fire up inspiration like good stories. 5) Bathtubs, because sometimes you just have to settle in with a good book. 6) My Doc Martens, because never has a man loved a pair of boots like I love my Docs.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Stories. I write them, I read them, and they make my life fantastic no matter how things are going in the concrete sense. I think a lot about my writing career, and how much I want to make more progress there. I think about my family, chosen and otherwise. I like to think about the games I play for fun.

On a typical Friday night I am

I'm kind of a 'mad scientist' homebody. I tend to stick around the house because I'm doing something, either for fun or as a project. I can be lured out, though, especially for a coffee or a film.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Physically, I'm a bit of a work in progress, and that's a bit of a hang-up for me. I'm dead tired of feeling like people who are interested in me are in it in spite of that.

You should message me if

You're interested in getting to know me, or if you just want a chat to feel things out.

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