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My self-summary
Update update: So I have come to the conclusion that I don't handle online dating at all well. I get anxious and I don't actually have time for much of anything and my introvert side gets the best of me because of all the strangers in the world, which of course is everyone I haven't met yet, which is the whole point of dating, really. If I meet a person in person and we get on, it's good, but online meeting and in-person meeting aren't the same for me. Jumping past friendship straight to dating just makes me less likely to do anything at all. It's frustrating for me, much less anyone who wanted to talk to me, I'm sure. I'm not shutting down this profile because I want it to be available if someone comes looking, particularly if they're interested in my husband (hi there!). If someone actually wants to start a conversation with me that isn't "let's chat" (no, I don't know you and I hate chatting with strangers) or "you're cute" (that's as may be, but how do you actually know?), then I might be up to trying it. But really... more than that is a tall order, and if it isn't me personally you really want to get to meet, you're probably better off knocking on another virtual door.
Update: So, you see the picture of questionable quality up there? It means I have one. It means I'm available to get to know and I'm not hiding anything. My husband blackhatmatt knows I'm here -- he's here too -- this isn't cheating. I don't have a need to be "discreet." If you're going to contact me, have a picture in your profile. I'm not available for sneaking around behind a spouse's back. You may have excellent reasons for it, but honestly -- it takes more bandwidth than I have to deal with it. Sorry.
So, here's the thing: If you're looking for "the one," buddy, am I ever not her. I want a friend. A friend with flirting and maybe sex, but a friend first and foremost. I want someone to do stuff with and/or do stuff to, but not exclusively the latter. I'm apparently weird, because the only people I really enjoy sex with are people I'm attracted to who are already my friends. This means if you approach me for sex and we aren't already friends on some level, I'm not likely to respond in a positive way. Sorry--I'd be wired differently if I could, because this is damned inconvenient when involved in a poly relationship. I won't say I'll never move faster, as I don't actually have a problem with casual sex, but generally the casual only tends to come about as part of a friends-with-benefits sort of arrangements.

About the only time I'll move faster is if someone is male, bi, attractive to both of us, and interested in both my husband and me to some extent (not necessarily equally). I don't expect anyone to be any of those things, but if you are, feel free to speak up.

I can be available for a date sort-of-thing. If there's more than one date, there will likely be a dinner hereabouts scheduled so you can do a get-to-know thing with my partner and possibly even his girlfriend. I don't need you to be besties, but I do need everyone to know everything is okay and on the up-and-up. He's a fabulous cook, so trust me, this is a good thing. He's also in favor of me meeting someone if that's something I want.

Hmmm... things you should know about me. I'm in an open poly marriage with blackhatmatt, a man I adore (who happens to be bi). I have two kids who live in Seattle with their dad (my ex-husband). I'm attending grad school here in Cleveland. I write and sing and think about literary theory more than I should. I used to dance, but the ankle has sorta put a stop to that. It yells at me these days if I do that too much.

I have no opinion on Cleveland sports teams. I like the Mariners despite the fact that they usually suck, the Sounders FC, the Sooners (I'm from Oklahoma originally, it's compulsory) whether or not they win the championship, and generally watching soccer or other sports. I like theater and live music ranging from choral arrangements to rock and stuff. I tend to find bars a bit overwhelming, though, so I don't often go. Karaoke, however, will lure me out for an evening with very little effort. I am enthusiastic but mediocre at both pool and bowling -- this is entirely accurate and is not an exaggeration in any way.

The other thing I am is OMG busy. Grad school, you know, and making time for the people in my life--these are the things that make Google Calendar a necessity. I have time, but not a lot of it. I hate dating, but I love doing things with friends. If you can figure out how to make these things work in your favor, more power to you.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm going back to college for my PhD, being with my husband, being a mom to my kids long distance, scritching my dogs, doing my homework, knitting on and off as I can, gaming, writing, being social, and just generally trying to enjoy life and keep a good GPA. :)
I’m really good at
Lots of things. :)
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile, or my hair, or my glasses. Usually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Coraline, The Hero and the Crown, Jane Eyre, Dracula, Chicago Manual of Style, Watership Down, The House with a Clock in its Walls, On Writing, most of Shakespeare, The Duchess of Malfi, most of Rex Stout, most of the Sherlock Holmes stories, American Gods, Pride & Prejudice, Danse Macabre, The Name of the Rose, and Eats, Shoots, and Leaves. At least, those are the ones at the moment.

Movies: High Fidelity, Moonstruck, Grosse Pointe Blank, The Dirty Dozen, The Quiet Man, Hellfighters, Guys and Dolls, Cast a Deadly Spell, Casablanca, The Third Man, The Maltese Falcon, The Muppet Movie, The Scarlet Pimpernel, Payback, The Replacements, Million Dollar Baby, White Christmas, Say Anything, ummm... and others.

Music: Tito and Tarantula, Muse, Paramore, Evanescence, A Perfect Circle, Audioslave, the Cure, Glasnots, Green Day, the Raconteurs, Fiona Apple, Nirvana, Santana, Maroon 5, Sarah Mclachlan, Tool, Concrete Blonde, Loreena McKennitt, Live, Ben Folds Five, Little River Band, Shivaree, Snow Patrol, Wolfmother, Nelly Furtado, and so on.

Foods: Thai, sushi rolls, Tex-Mex, good barbeque, soup and sandwich places, Italian, good steak, chai, orange and chocolate, challah bread
The six things I could never do without
My partner, my kids, my dog, my iPhone, my laptop, and coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to get from point A to point B, figuratively speaking. Also, vacations.
On a typical Friday night I am
The typical list includes visiting friends, watching a movie, celebrating the end of the week, talking to my kiddos via Skype, and otherwise finding a way to unwind.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I broke my ankle back in the day, and now I've got cool scars. I also have metal bits in me which are not bionic, unfortunately. A bionic ankle would be far cooler.
You should message me if want to, silly.