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27 Portland, OR Man, Gender Nonconforming

Man, Gender Nonconforming

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Strictly non-monogamous

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My self-summary
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Cynical whiskey-drinking (former) photographer. Sometimes I'm funny, but other times I'm rude. I try to keep it closer to the former, on balance.

I can be oddly charming sometimes, but only if you "get" me. Whatever that means.

I'm working on it though. Being nicer, that is. Not as in "I'm a nice guy woe is me" nice, but as in actually being nice to people for no reason whatsoever.

ALSO: I'm interested in penpals, as well as dates. If you live really far away (or close, I guess), and want to write actual letters on paper to each other just for fun, hit me up.
What I’m doing with my life
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I don't do photography much anymore. I miss it.

Working at a tech startup. It's the best thing I've ever done. I've never cared so much about what I was waking up and doing each day, before now.

Being a cynic. Being a nerd, both professionally and as an amateur.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Taking pictures. Reading a lot. Trying to understand things. Being rude in an endearing way, mostly. Sometimes not in an endearing way.

Lowering gwilliam's productivity.

Sometimes forgetting people's pronouns and feeling really really really really bad about it. I have a really bad memory in general, so this happens more than I'd like.
The first things people usually notice about me
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hair; ass; eyes. In that order.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything Vonnegut. Inverted World. Neuromancer. War is a Force That Gives Us Meaning. Regarding the Pain of Others. 4.48 Psychosis. The Picture of Dorian Grey. Against Nature.

Movies: Boys Don't Cry, The Battle of Algiers, Blade Runner, Run Lola Run, Before Sunrise.

Music: Iggy Pop, The Clash, Lou Reed, Iron Maiden, Mika Miko, Neil Young, Bikini Kill, The Cure, Joy Division, Blondie, X-Ray Spex, PJ Harvey, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Bauhaus, Suicide, Cold Cave. Too many.

Food: All of it. That's a lie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Camera
Depressing Music
Defying Gender Stereotypes
Time spent alone

That's five. Too bad.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why it's hard to make money as an artist. Why people find difference so terrifying. Why I like the people I like so much more than I like other people. Why I dislike so many people. Tattoos I should get.

Why people are so thoughtless, in general.

The experience of not being able to understand the experiences of others.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Totally random. I could be at a show. I could be out drinking. I could be reading a book. I could be out drinking WHILE reading a book.

I really like reading books at loud bars for some reason. I can't concentrate without background noise.

Although these days I've been trying to spend more of my free time learning things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like girls that look like boys, and boys that look like girls. I like people who are androgynous.

That's not to say that I don't like people more in line with the norms of their sex/gender, because I do, but I definitely have a thing for androgynous people, and people who blur the lines.
You should message me if
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You're vulgar but not in a "fuck everybody I don't care who I offend" kind of way.

You want to send me pictures of brutalist architecture.

There's something weird about you, but not in the "oh my god I'm so quirky" kind of way that literally everybody on OkCupid seems to profess as one of their qualities.

You DO NOT have one of those pictures of you jumping up in the air looking super happy. You know the ones I mean.

You don't give a fuck about Doctor Who.

You want to.

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The usual "no racists, sexists, homophobes, transphobes, ableists" etc. applies.

I'm not really interested in a long discussion with a stranger on why that is, just know that if your political goals include abdicating your obligations to other human beings then I do not want to date you.