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38 Minneapolis, MN Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:15am
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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I'm as likely to pick up Thomas Paine's Common Sense as a romance novel with a bodice ripper cover and that is who I am in a nutshell, if I were to actually fit in a nutshell which of course I can't because I'm not that kind of nut. I am a nomad, but not a jet-setter. Eclectic is another good word for me. I like poetry readings, singing karaoke, batting cages, photography, fishing, kayaking(I'm an amateur), going to museums and plays and blockbuster movies, both beer and wine, and reading. I read, constantly. I write, not as consistently as I want, but my first novel is out! I used to work in education, but now I'm a technical writer; pays better and wears me out less so I can follow my passions in my off hours. I want to travel abroad. I want to learn swing dance. I listen to random types of music (not really techno, and after a country-holic roommate, I may take that off my list too). The one song I could listen to forever is Rhapsody in Blue. My favorite poem is Xanadu. My favorite book is whatever I'm working on (reading or writing) at the time. (unless I'm reading one of my cheesy romance novels in which case I may fall back on something that sounds more intellectual ;)
What I’m doing with my life
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I published my first novel as an eBook, and I'm working on the next. If you're curious, look it up. It's called Living in the Epilogue and it's about ghosts.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing, which is not to say writing profiles, and certainly not writing poetry, but I am excellent at writing fiction. I also excel at reading and procrastinating and goofing around, am passably fair at dancing and singing, and am an acknowledged champion at generally being an odd duck.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My laugh, my brilliant intellect and fashion model looks, my sarcasm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Better authors than books as there are so many- Tad Williams, Todd Boss, Robin Hobb, Stuart Dybek, Jim Butcher, Carrie Vaughn, C.J Cherryh, C.S. Friedman, Michael Chabon, Jonathon Lethem, etc. TV: I was a raised on Star Trek, I loved Fire Fly and Farscape, and I'm addicted to NCIS, Psych, Criminal Minds, and Bones- but I tend to watch many episodes in a row and then drop away from tv for awhile. Music I like, just in general. I am particularly fond of folk root type rock and alt rock. Food: Greek, food, Thai food, Sushi, pizza, burgers, steak, mmm's close to dinner time. Clearly I'm not a vegetarian- animals are designed to eat each other so I have a hard time with the concept that this is evil. My cat is not evil...okay my cat IS evil but not because she eats meat. All that said, I will go out of my way to get the free range chicken eggs :P
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
blah blah blah- friends family air food cell books.
I wouldn't be me without:
My dog, my willingness to travel, my penchant for long and random conversations, giddy school girl excitement over geeky things, silliness, my over active imagination.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Possible alien cultures, politics and ethics, actual human cultures: evolution interaction etc, writing (how I should spend less time thinking about writing and more time doing it), the meaning of things, how to least annoy and best serve my friends, what to do with myself, how annoying the pervasiveness of vampire novels is even if I like a lot of them.
Moving somewhere new and preferably warm.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not having as much fun as I should. If you're cute, smart, and fun you should rescue me ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have very bizarre dreams and have been known to write them down. The one with the elephant building still freaks me out.
You should message me if
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Drop me a note If:
*you are a little bit intellectual, mixed with a fair amount geek and a lot of just pure silly
*you are capable of appreciating a spectrum that spans blockbuster excitement to intellectual and mind-bending.