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39 F London, UK

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 19–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 18
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Lecturer looking for friendship with interesting people.

Eng Lit PhD, now working in another subject I don't like quite so much.

*update/apology etc* I've failed to respond to messages for the last few weeks although some of them were very interesting indeed. Though 'mostly non-monogamous' (whatever that means could be debated at length no doubt), I have been seeing someone I really like for a while and what with domestic and (now that term is upon me again) work related timesucking activities recently, I basically haven't got the bloody time for much else and socialising time is suffering. This annoys me. All that being said, the standard of intelligent lefty anti-capitalist weirdos and nutters on here appears to be rising by the day and I am going to make more of a concerted effort to reply. To be brutally honest though, as I prefer to be, I probably haven't got time for anything other than occasional coffee type friendships right now.....*

Warning btw: reading this rambling profile apparently causes actual pain. My favourite recent message told me so. 'Trying to read your profile gave me a headache... I know you said you don't want random sex messages and I'm only 21 but are you sure, we can pretend I'm older'. I was uncharacteristically lost for words after that one.

Eccentric, loud, feminist (what you believe about us is imho likely to be wrong), can be very ranty. Rants can be cut short with administration of coffee or a genial 'shut up will you woman, I need to get a word in'. I'm a very friendly but very detached person who needs a lot of downtime (usually reading my collection of obscure books...or just pottering around doing domestic stuff badly) but also love to do this with a companion if one happens to be around. And if they want to go off somewhere else and come back later that's fine too.

I talk too much, no doubt about it. Feel free to talk over me or tell me to shut up (nicely, I would prefer that) as per above.

My disclaimer about no random sex messages appears to have worked somewhat. I only get about 2 such messages a week. The last two were from 'women' (allegedly). Here is a sample:

'hey babe can I have ur num my man is Asian tall thin and a big dick we are wild and need a wild female to join us xx send me ur mobi or do u want mine xxx'

If you would never send a message which in any way resembles this, that's a good start.

By the way, no I don't want a picture of your cock. Thanks.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
trying (painfully) to write a book, some articles and sort my garden out! Need to see more films, meet nice people and get out more. I want to leave London more often. Seaside, trees, green stuff! etc.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching, speedreading, speedtalking, swearing creatively, being friendly to pretty much anyone until they finally prove themselves to be irredeemable wankers, openmindedness (nb openminded should not be confused with 'up for anything' or indeed merely 'up for it'...)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
apparently it's my big smile. A bit toothy in my opinion but some people like it.

A kind OKC-er has recently told me that 'you just about get away with being toothy, on a photo anyway'. Why, thankyou sir.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
ok I have cut all this out on the grounds that when I look at these long lists on other people's profiles, my eyes go funny and I only pick out one of them.

I read bloody everything frankly. From intelligent horror (yes, it exists) to sociology and criminology and not only because I need it for work....I'll dance to anything, badly. My music collection contains something to piss off everyone, it seems thus far, but it's always something different that sends 'em over the edge.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books, internet, bookshops (bit of a theme here eh), nature, family, leftie politics
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the imminent or eventual meltdown of the global financial system.
Other recent obsession is the dominance of individualism in neoliberal capitalism and how it is eroding Western societies. I don't think much about the small stuff as you can tell :/ this is probably why I actually often come across as a bit of an airhead ditz who is not sure what time it is or why she just plugged that postcode into the satnav.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
downloading stuff to watch obsessively while eating a curry. or out on the piss.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It was on here but I decided to get rid of it and insist you ask me face to face. It's only polite....

I thought 50 Shades of Grey was the biggest pile of sub-Mills and Boon shite I'd ever read. That is in fact an entirely public admission, and should be moved.

Nb please do not message me just to slag off 50 Shades.. I already agree with you.
You should message me if
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you like eccentric geeky women who would rather die than vote Tory.

you are an eccentric geek, etc, see above.

You are a tall, thin, nerdy bloke.

You are NOT an incredible, highly experienced in everything, athletic/toned, writer/producer/ generally uber-high-achieving man for all seasons who is in such constant flux from travelling and high activity (skydiving, gourmet cookery, swimming with dolphins, unspecified incessant creativity and urban cool etc) that it is astonishing he has a moment to be on here. Frankly, if you're really like this, I won't keep up with you at all- and if you're not, then why pretend? (Honestly. Really. I like active, creative people, don't we all, but the impression of manic brilliance people try to give on here is becoming clearer and clearer and is a bit freaky...)

Also you really must message me if you resemble David Tennant or Benedict Cumberbatch. For such men, I will even suspend the 'no random sex' rule. Probably.

You have any tips for getting over writers block and terminal laziness/scattered thinking. I have too many ideas and not enough application right now...