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35 Philadelphia, PA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27-40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
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5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Other and laughing about it
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Mischief managed.

Intellectual, intense, motivated, classy, articulate, witty, satirical, kind, generous, talented, strong-willed, charismatic, committed, loyal, compassionate, cool for a nerd (or cool AND a nerd, depending on whom you ask), passionate, funny, sensitive, introspective, full of integrity, open-minded, a believer in equality and social justice, loving, good listener, loquacious, eloquent, and "an all-around swell guy."

I wouldn't say "modest" is exactly on the list, but I wouldn't say "arrogant" is, either - the life I've lived and the people I've loved have taught me my worth. I know where I've been but I'm always ready to relearn my story from another point of view. I have a decent sense of where I'm going, paired with the willingness to be wrong. I know what I want from a relationship but I'm fully aware that most people's actual partner choices belie their stated partner wishes. I'd rather be happy than right, so I tend more toward curiosity than dealbreakers.

I'm a mostly unapologetic romantic (I suck at playing it cool) and an entertainer. I've got big plans and a good life full of amazing people; I'd like to share them with someone special.
What I’m doing with my life
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Been around the world, and ai-yai-yai... I went back to grad school...

Getting my Master's in Psychology and trying to decide which PhD will be mine. When I need a break from the graduate grind, I teach alcohol/drug prevention classes (all over the world!) and consult with schools on drug policy.

I'm trying to leave the world a little better than I found it - and enjoy it in the process.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing, public speaking, wit (particularly of the sarcastic variety), teaching, learning, people-watching, friendship, seeing all sides of things. Remembering song lyrics. Hugging.

My best friend said about me, "Some people see black and white, others see gray areas. He sees shades of gray."
The first things people usually notice about me
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(something funny...c'mon funny...) Yeah I got nothin'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Lord of the Rings, anything by Gaiman or Clancy, Ender's Game, A Prayer for Owen Meany, Hitchhiker's Guide, The Martian, Ready Player One. The "Minerva McGonagall and the You Put WHAT, WHERE, Albus??" series.

Nonfiction-wise: Nerd Do Well, Musicophilia, Modern Romance, The Brain That Changes Itself, Redirect, Sex at Dawn. I have read (I think) the complete works of Brené Brown and listened to most of her lectures.

Movies: Good sci-fi/fantasy - particularly Whedon and Abrams. Anything Sorkin. Anything that makes me laugh without resorting to poop jokes or makes me think without wanting to tear my hair out afterward (I'm looking at you, David Lynch). I love the classics: Philadelphia Story and Affair to Remember, North by Northwest, Dr. Strangelove, Network, The French Connection...

Shows: Other than Colbert and Kimmy Schmidt, nothing's really grabbed me lately. Now accepting recommendations.

Music: all of it. My favorites are the ones I can sing along to: R&B (particularly Motown-era), musical theater, gospel, classical chorales, opera, classic rock, neo-soul. I also listen to instrumental classical and jazz, but anyone nearby is subjected to me whistling, humming, and scatting the melodies. Hip-hop - the older the better, except for "Basketball" by Kurtis Blow which remains the absolute worst hip-hop song of all time.

I'm kind of a picky eater, but my tastes are simple.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My best friends
Laughter and tears
Bonus round: Cards Against Humanity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics, spirituality, Batman, and the teenage brain.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Looking for something to do - I'm new around here, so send me ideas!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have read more than one romance novel.
You should message me if
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You are a nerd, a thinker, someone with ridiculously diverse friends and interests, or a great entertainer/entertainee. You have an open and curious mind, a weird/loud laugh and the sense of humor that goes with it, or a mild confusion about (but enjoyment of) this adult thing we're doing.

Definitely message me if you are/have all of those things.

I would love to find a capital-s Someone - eventually. No less would I love to meet a fascinating woman to spend time with for now, whether or not she becomes that Someone.