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  • Ages 30-51
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 8
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism and it’s important
Dropped out of Post grad
Might want kids
English, French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm insatiably curious, and consistently act to indulge my random and bizarre interests, whether it's watching professional biathlon or hydraulic mining or mid-19th century cults. My tastes in music, art, movies, and books are wide, but I don't tolerate mediocrity very well. I'm a good observer and better doer.

I used to wonder if I was just a knee-jerk non-conformist, but now I believe I really do think differently than the vast majority of people. But all knee-jerk non-conformists probably think that.

I seem to have a supernatural ability to explain the dynamics of human social organizations (it amazes me how so many people don't seem to understand how they work), and thus I've become a go-to guy for friends when they need advice about corporate politics.

I'm sincere to the point of being gullible, and I give people too much benefit of the doubt, but I doubt I would change that if I could. I'm simultaneously a big pessimist, so I'm not even disappointed when things and people fail to live up to their potential!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The internet business was very good to me, so now I can do what I want, which is awesome and intimidating and isolating (at times). But I can't imagine not trying to live the most awesome life my resources allow me to.

As far as the day to day goes, it's a mix of bike riding, clearing weeds, practicing banjo, board meetings, planning insane travel itineraries, procrastinating, skiing, road trips, reading legal agreements, hitting museums and galleries and art fairs, visiting my awesome friends around the world, and looking for more cool things to do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knowing stuff, biking around the city, telling funny stories, organizing cool excursions, having opinions. Giving people perspective. Finding humor in any situation. Fascinating babies (is it the smile, or the bald head?).

Living a life that makes the easy questions hard to answer and the hard questions easy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have such an underdeveloped sense of how others see me, I should really find a brain researcher and get a fMRI done. I assume it's my eyes or freckles, but have no data to support that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
If On a Winter's Night a Traveller, Watchmen, most stuff by John McPhee, Galatea 2.2, The Secret Knowledge of Water, almost anything from Dupuy/Berberian, the Aubrey/Maturin books, 1492. I'm currently forcing myself to struggle with Taniguchi comics in French, since I doubt they'll ever get translated to English.

Shoot the Piano Player, Until the End of the World, Ashes of Time, The Palm Beach Story (and many more from Sturges), Annie Hall, 2046, The Best of Youth, Grizzly Man, Alphaville, select Three Stooges shorts. I'm hard pressed to pick a favorite from Harold Lloyd or Ousmane Sembene.

Tom Waits, Billy Bragg, The Clash, Earl Scruggs, Bob Marley, Talking Heads, Negativland, Velvet Underground, Johnny Cash, Stan Rogers, Led Zepplin, Doc Watson, the Smiths, Public Enemy, Sea Chanteys at the Hyde St. Pier.

Junior's cheesecake, great pizza, pad see-ew, a good hot dog (which does not seem to exist in the Bay Area). My utility function for food is flatter than most people in SF, but I'm not oblivious to good stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A bike, my friends, snow, cynicism, humor, and intelligent conversation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where to travel to next, how to prioritize my reading backlog, and to whom I owe an email. When this tech bubble will burst.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday doesn't really have a special significance, except that annoying drunk people descend on my neighborhood. It could be dinner with friends, seeing a film or play, going to sleep early to drive to the mountains early the next day, or just reading.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have an amazing hideout. It's somewhat legendary among my friends.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're interesting. You play fiddle or mandolin. You like to cross-country ski. You're willing to split the driving to cool places.

You know how to be kinky and sane at the same time.

You live in a place worth visiting.

The idea of sleeper train to Hokkaido excites you.

The last few years I've been trying to being more relaxed with sex and romance, so while I maintain hope of finding someone I can spend the rest of my life with, I've also discovered the fun of enjoying someone's company and not over-analyzing our time together. So: you are fun to be with, or some sort of perfect match.