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54 F Toronto, Ontario, CA

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Last Online
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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I've generally had a pretty full and fun life, mostly doing what I wanted to do..and many things that others think they'd love to have done in their youth, but I was too busy working at steady jobs to do the kind of aimless travel that many did in their 20s.

It's the way I am. Committed. While I have not been in a long term relationship in a long time, my last long relationship was almost 10 years and we are still good friends 14 years later. I'm a lynchpin in the community of my neighbourhood, know my merchants by name and have lived in the same place for 24 years. My landlord's son wants to move back downtown next year and into this house, and I'm a freelancer who works from a laptop, so have decided that this is my opportunity to park my essential belongings in May of 2015, and travel for a while.

I'm originally from Vancouver...who knows? Maybe I'll end up back home when it's all done. Not sure where I'm going, when, or for how long. I'm simply clearing a space where this can occur and am waiting to see what unfolds.

It would silly to expect that the perfect traveling partner is going to pop into my life between now and then, so while I'm open to that slim possibility, will not hold my breath waiting for it. I have my work cut out for me determining what is and is not essential among my belongings over the next 12 months...and finding a home for my exhibition work, which I would prefer not to leave in storage.

I am looking for a relationship and one that stands the test of time, but I am not on "A hard target search" looking for a man to get married to, at least not anytime soon...and if this relationship has a romantic aspect, that will change radically after May of next year, unless we're traveling together. While I will be on the road next year, for the time being, I'm in downtown Toronto and have no need for a car, so do not have one. This means I am highly unlikely to want to date anyone living outside of the city.

Meanwhile, in addition to downsizing, working and getting my clients adjusted to the idea that I'll still be working while on the move, I'm planning to start taking dancing lessons..swing, tango,'s all good. Who wants to join me in that?

Aside from that, if you ride a bike for pleasure, like to see live bands, or go to art galleries, then there are things we can enjoy together, and I'm open to these activities. If you don't like any of these things, or you do not live in Toronto, please do not message me.

I seldom keep more than one or maybe two dialogues open at a time and generally don't like being juggled. Because I am busy now and expect to be busier while this path unfolds, I have even less time for that than usual.

The man I would be interested in meeting would understand all of the above and would also be educated, compassionate, articulate, honest, accomplished, and both physically and emotionally available. He's not the sort to waste anyone's time, not his own and certainly not mine. He has been single long enough to be ready to make a commitment. He is also a moderate drinker, and if a non-drinker, is not a recovered alcoholic (or recovered drug addict). Jack Kerouac and F. Scott Fitzgerald are interesting to read, but I would not care to date either of them. I am however, herb friendly.

Also, my family gatherings generally look like a Multi-Culturalism Canada event. So he isn't any kind of a bigot. It was also a politically pluralist household where differences of opinion were celebrated and encouraged. If you think of simple difference of opinion as "fighting" we are not of the same cloth. I care less about what you think than about your approach to dialogue. THAT is the core of democracy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
When I'm not in my invisible plane saving the world and lassoing bad guys, I'm generally making something, art, food, graphic design, writing essays...making books.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge. high end restaurant good...and I have a food blog to spread the good word.

Photography, I don't shoot much anymore, but it's probably what I'm best at...there's just no money in documentary photography...Know someone who wants to learn something new about themselves? Have them hire me. :-)

Cycling. Not much for speed, but love to ride trails and will do 24 k in the good weather to start my day and love an all day ride through the valleys of Toronto.

Conversation. It's not a lost art.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This could go on for days. I like smartly written fiction and comedy, spicy and rich foods, all music played by skilled musicians, but generally, acoustic forms suit me best.

I'll do more on this section later.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Intelligent dialogue
Live music

As a friend here once said, people are not things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to save the world
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am never typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not really Wonder Woman.

When I see these kind of notices on your profiles: WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects...blah, blah, makes me wonder first, if you are completely delusional, and secondly, if you understand the purpose of those notices.

However painful, joyous, or significant your personal life is to you, it is nevertheless universal. Someone, someday, will write a story that sounds very much like some part of your life. It may indeed be almost exactly like your will be a coincidence. Even if the person who wrote it knows your story and includes some element of you within it, a phrase or a mannerism, it will not be your story. It will be theirs.

We are all interesting to our friends and family, but seriously...few of us are so fascinating that anyone would choose to write a story about us. These 'notices' best serve as evidence of a certain level of narcissism.

Get over it. It's boring.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 45–63
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You figured out a way to answer The Most Private Thing I'm Willing to Admit, without questioning the question.

You are over 45, under 63, intelligent, educated, and ambitious. If you are younger or older than those two ages, please don't waste both of our time.

If you are older than 63 and you are in awesome shape and you think you are going to keep up with me, you will not. Find someone closer to your age who is also in great shape. She's waiting for you...and only a jerk keeps a woman waiting.

If you are from another city, a high match probability, and just want to chat with someone who looks like the kind of person you're looking for. I may entertain the notion of a dialogue (time permitting), but not if you suggest it's going to lead to a romantic future. If you do, I will know you for a man who is afraid of a relationship that might actually lead somewhere, surely there are interesting women closer to home.

You may also be a fan of the Oxford Comma, but it's not a requirement...the other critera are. Yes, I mean it...and yes, at 53, I very well know my mind and preferences. If you ignore these very reasonable requirements, I will be unamused.