It's the way I am. Committed. While I have not been in a long term relationship in a long time, my last long relationship was almost 10 years and we are still good friends 14 years later. I'm a lynchpin in the community of my neighbourhood, know my merchants by name and have lived in the same place for 24 years. My landlord's son wants to move back downtown next year and into this house, and I'm a freelancer who works from a laptop, so have decided that this is my opportunity to park my essential belongings in May of 2015, and travel for a while.
I'm originally from Vancouver...who knows? Maybe I'll end up back home when it's all done. Not sure where I'm going, when, or for how long. I'm simply clearing a space where this can occur and am waiting to see what unfolds.
It would silly to expect that the perfect traveling partner is going to pop into my life between now and then, so while I'm open to that slim possibility, will not hold my breath waiting for it. I have my work cut out for me determining what is and is not essential among my belongings over the next 12 months...and finding a home for my exhibition work, which I would prefer not to leave in storage.
I am looking for a relationship and one that stands the test of time, but I am not on "A hard target search" looking for a man to get married to, at least not anytime soon...and if this relationship has a romantic aspect, that will change radically after May of next year, unless we're traveling together. While I will be on the road next year, for the time being, I'm in downtown Toronto and have no need for a car, so do not have one. This means I am highly unlikely to want to date anyone living outside of the city.
Meanwhile, in addition to downsizing, working and getting my clients adjusted to the idea that I'll still be working while on the move, I'm planning to start taking dancing lessons..swing, tango, salsa...it's all good. Who wants to join me in that?
Aside from that, if you ride a bike for pleasure, like to see live bands, or go to art galleries, then there are things we can enjoy together, and I'm open to these activities. If you don't like any of these things, or you do not live in Toronto, please do not message me.
I seldom keep more than one or maybe two dialogues open at a time and generally don't like being juggled. Because I am busy now and expect to be busier while this path unfolds, I have even less time for that than usual.
The man I would be interested in meeting would understand all of the above and would also be educated, compassionate, articulate, honest, accomplished, and both physically and emotionally available. He's not the sort to waste anyone's time, not his own and certainly not mine. He has been single long enough to be ready to make a commitment. He is also a moderate drinker, and if a non-drinker, is not a recovered alcoholic (or recovered drug addict). Jack Kerouac and F. Scott Fitzgerald are interesting to read, but I would not care to date either of them. I am however, herb friendly.
Also, my family gatherings generally look like a Multi-Culturalism Canada event. So he isn't any kind of a bigot. It was also a politically pluralist household where differences of opinion were celebrated and encouraged. If you think of simple difference of opinion as "fighting" we are not of the same cloth. I care less about what you think than about your approach to dialogue. THAT is the core of democracy.