A guy at work asked me what I found to be attractive. I think he asked me, because a woman who every one thinks is attractive; I don't find attractive. I really don't find this lady "hot" looking. I am an odd guy any way in what I find most attractive. Most guys are shocked at what I find attractive. I think to, sometimes when I complement a woman, I don't think they believe me. Any ways, I have thought about this question and decided to just write it down. One disclamer, personality is always important, and I am being shallow about looks for fun. The thing is if a woman has my "ideal" look and she is a b....h or has a real difficult personality for me, I really wonder why any one would want to go out with her?

Hair...blond or redhead, hands down is my favorite. While a nice brunette is always a treat too. The thing about hair is not so much the color, (except I do tend to notice blonds and redheads, first) it is length and look. I tend, see the word tend, to like long hair over short hair. A woman with a neat and stylish hair is always best.  Crazyness isn't cool to me: especially shaved, mohawes, spikes, or a way out there color. Hightlights and other colors can be cool though done with TASTE.

Face..I like all types. I do have to say I did take the test about faces, it was correct; cute with smiles is a favorite. I like a woman who generally smiles. I am not a fan of a woman ruining her face with stuff poking out everywhere, a piece of jewerly here and there, well thats okay. But I want to be focused on the womans facial features not something sticking out somewhere.

Eyes..To see honesty and sincerety in them is most important. As far as color, something different; I like eyes when one is different than the other, or a weird color..this is cool to me. Generally green or blue, or bright. In an ebony woman light brown is awesome. Most important is when a lady shows her emotion through them. I also think some women look cool in glasses, to me it makes them look hot...wink. Like how glasses can be used to flirt, and I think it makes some women look smarter, think this is always a plus. Wering or not wearing glasses a deal breaker, no it is not.

breasts..I think just about every woman will roll their eyes, that I put this down, and at the same time they will read it. My ideal breast size is an A cup to a large B..this is not to say I wouldn't like a woman with larger ones. Just smaller ones are my ideal. To be honest I think women make to much of a deal about them. Every guy and gay woman has a preference, but they should not be a deal breaker. Yes, I want to say I like smaller, round breasts. The coolest thing about breasts is not the size and look, but the reaction to touch. To be with a woman who response to a light touch, or a nibble, and later heavy petting of the breast..well..that is hot :) The deal breaker for me is breast implants (unless for medical reasons), appreciate and know they are yours and learn to like em.

rear end..depends on body style. The problem here for me is more of attitude than any thing else. A big one can be a woman's best feature and she ruins it by covering it up. Big doesn't mean bad at all.  To have a nice shapely rear end is always the best and nicest. Something to grab on too, to touch, and tease..well that is fine by me. You know what this is not a deal breaker for me either way. The one thing its not a sexual entry for me.

Legs..not a big deal, it goes with the full package

feet..not a fetish, but nice feet are cool

Body style...well this is where I am so different than most guys. I like four general body styles. First the petite look, short, smaller breasts. Second, more of an athletic look, without the muscels,  third the healthy skinny, and the curvy or volumptous without being bbw. I don't know why, but I like it. As you have noticed the aneroxic super model or the real large bbw is not a fav.

Confidence..this is the deal breaker when it comes to looks. I want a lady who is confident and tries her best to look nice and be healthy, with out having her looks be the all important thing in life. A healthy balance between look and being comfortable. It's an attitude. An example, when I have sex with a women, I like the lights on. To have a woman turn them off or try to hide a part of their body, well thats a turn off. I want to see what she looks like. If I am having sex with her, its because I like HER. I'm not going to stop because of one body part. Thats crazy to me. Hell I might like that part the most any way. Besides I want to touch all of a woman, and to have her shift this way or that way, so I don't see something, well its annoying.

Variety..I am attracted to different sizes and shapes, colors and races. All differnt women can look special and be attractive to me. I can be attracted to a short, brunette, women with big breasts. Just as much as a taller, skinny, women with small to no breasts. The thing about attraction is so much about personality. I think every one has a preference, a type, but ultimaly its personality that keeps two people together. I know every one is vain in some way, some more than others, and maybe I have mine. The one thing is if I love a woman, I love her.

Ultimatly..these are the traits that are important; confidence in skin, neatness and a willingness to be healhy, and what a woman's vanity level is.  Healthy to me is not way over weight, sorry I'm not attracted to very large women, curvy and a larger body structure is fine. Real unhealthy skinny is not attractive to me either. I don't want to be with some one who is starving themselves or throwing up to be attractive..you know thats not attractive. . Would rather have curvy. Being real vain about looks is unattractive to me too. The truth is I don't expect my love partner to look "georgeous" as in makeup, cloths, look, etc..every day. If I love her I will think she looks georgeous. Sometimes to see the woman you love in a pony tail, dressed in a shirt you used to own, running around the house sweety doing stuff; is just as fun and attractive as when she is in make up and in a formal dress. I like defenitly like both.

My son, told me a few years ago that, "Dad, you don't know your age."

He was responding to a comment I made about a lady I was going to ask out, now I want to say, other friends have said this too. I just recieved an email about my age, actully twice. I have emailed and showed interest in ladies who are older to. Really the last two women I had seen were both older than me, so its not like I am just trying to seek out a "younger" woman. Yet, I wonder if I do. For me its not just the "look" hey there are some very hot looking mature women, just as much as there are younger women who I am not attracted  them. It's just I don't think of myself as "old". I also would love to start a family, have wanted to for years, its just I have not met the right one yet. I figure I would have to meet some one younger, to "produce" some. Please don't get mad at the word, just all I could think off now. I would love a family, and in my mind I still picture myself with a older twenty year old, or young thirty year old. Why? I don't know. I think its because I look at myself that way. Twenty year olds are more fun. The people I know my age, well I don't really blame some one younger for wanting to not be with them, all life is about is: house, corporate ladder, bills, kids, etc. They have there place, but that is not what all of life should be about. Now don't get me wrong, I do not have the highest activity level, and I am not going to jump out of an airplane, and I do have differences with some one younger. Its I guess, I just don't see myself as 39 soon to be forty, and I am glad. I think I would love to have the wisdom of some one geting older, but have the youth ful ness of some one younger. When I have grandchildren some day, I want them to want to play with me, and I would enjoy playing with them. I want to do things with younger people, while being mature enough to handle the wisdom of some one older.

I do have one question, why wouldn't a woman want to go out with some one older? I will answer that, because many of the guys I know my age are boring and useless. The fact is I'm neither. Both in and outside of the bedroom. I might be bragging but I think a twenty-eight to thirty five year old would be great for me. I don't own a house yet, long story, I want to settle down, yet I am still youthful and playful, with wisdom. I certainly have a sex drive that would match a twenty-five year old, but I have wisdom on how to have sex...well..pretty good to exceptional..plus unlike some of my friends..they should be assamed of themselfs..I don't need a pill to get ready. wink. The other thing is I do know I have to excerscise more, what a motivation for me to excercise if there is an attractive woman there to excersice with..wink.

I want to mention, being with a older woman has its pluses too. Which I will probably address the "general" differences on a different date. But I just wanted to say an older woman is a lot of fun too. I just wish the age thing wasn't an issue.

Love,

That word that every one has some reaction to. Today I wish I was in love, not some luke warm idea, or fantasy driven idea, both are just unacceptable (again forgive me for my spelling). I trully do not think any one will read my rambling any ways, but if someone does, I just wanted to let you know I am not a good speller. Any way, I am not feeling well and I had to go to the doctor. I don't think it will be anything to serious, but the thought of being alone, today seems to hit me kind of hard. I wish I had that special lady in my life to call me and ask how I am doing, to remind me of something, to come over and make me soup or do something. I don't want a slave, and this is not what I mean, I just would love someone's company. This is what made me think of love today.

I think love is so much about doing things with some one; its about sharing really. To share good, bad, and indifferent experiances; the thing is, its just with some one. I guess maybe I am a sap, but I know I am not, just I want to be in love. That long term love where I can share my time with some one, or to hear that things will be okay, or maybe we have an argument...which I do not want..trully I don't want arguments..but in love they happen. The thing is you are doing it with some one else. For me to pray with some one, to play a board game or cards, to talk, to take a walk with, to hold hands with a special lady, well this all seems like a great dream. I would love this. I just wonder if this will ever happen to me. I hope so. I guess I might be over romantic as a guy, I am all guy. I love football, love roughing it, am blunt, say things I shouldn't, like to lead, do things that are manily. I am not wimpy at all. I just am different. I am at the point though where I don't think saying you want to love some one is not manily. I really want to be with the right woman. I understand there is not a woman who is perfect, this is for sure, but there has to be that one for me, and me for her. Where we are like peas and carrots.

See you all..and I hope every one finds what they are looking for.

Hello,

I have decided to write in this journal; I really don't know if any one will read it or not, I hope so, but if not I guess its okay. I just want to write about relationships, sex, being a Christian, and I guess being a guy too. I like to write, I like to write essays, I really like to write long fictions stories; which I am writing a book. I figure I will practice my eassay writing here.

I am a Christian, I love being a Christian, and I like sex too. I know it's very unusual (please everyone ignore my bad spelling) for a Christian to admit he likes sex. I do. I became a Christian later, after I had sex already, I am now a Christian and have been for some time. The thing about it is even though I really like it, I just don't want cheap sex; I don't want a one nighter, or a friend with benefits, or to tell a woman that I love her to have sex with her. As a Christian sex has been a trial, more than once, but what I don't like is how Christians pretend it doesn't exist. That to just talk about it is some how wrong. It seems silly to me to have this view. I at the same time don't think sex should be taken so lightly as it has been either. I wish there was a healthy balance with the subject.

Its funny to me, I am emailing some very nice Christian woman and I don't think they are responding to me because of my section about sex. I also think it offends even non Christian woman. I don't know why, I'm not saying anything disrespectful, nor am I coming out and asking for sex with any one. I am just trying to let a lady that I want to love, that I like sex, and when the time is right I want to show my love to her by having sex. I honestly don't want vanilla boring sex, which I think many women think, or I think they might think I'm all about sex. I will say I probably think about more than I should. Maybe I am more honest about it than others. I like it. The thing is I have in my past had cheat sex, which is not what I want again; I want sex where her and I really love one another.

My fear is this. I just don't want to end up with someone who tells me they like it, and then doesn't, while at the same time I don't want to sleep with someone to figure out if they will like it or not. I being the Christian I am can't just have sex; I feel guilty. I feel guilty not just because of what people tell me, or what the Bible says or etc..I feel guilty because I really want to love someone to have sex. Saying this usually does two things, either people think I am a wimp or a prude and closed off to sex; which I can assure you this is not the case. Or a good woman doesn't believe me and just thinks all I am about is sex, and ultimatly that is all I want. Neither is true. I simply one day want to have sex with a lady where she is open and wants to explore sex, in a monogoumous relationship, without group, or bondage, where we really love each other. Why does sex have to be one or the other. Either super liberal where everything is okay, which I don't believe, or sex is some strange topic none of us should talk about.

Oh, how I hope I find that Christian woman who understands, either if she has had sex before or is a virgin; that when I have sex with her its because I love her. That I want it to be open, honest, free, and fun. Where as a husband and wife we can touch, play, kiss, tease, explore, enjoy each other, have fun with it, and at the same time feel so comfortable with each other we can talk about any thing related to it.

Any way I am a Christian who love sex, but understands that I should wait, I want to. I just want it to be an extention of the love we share. I know my stance is different, I think its right, but to many it will not be. I don't care really. I just want to love some one, and I want to show how much I love my partner by making love to her; physically, emotionally, and sexually. I think this should cover a pump and grind situation, or a long romantic love session, where its more about foreplay than any thing else.

Well I think I have said enough today..

Hope to hear from you ladies.