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30 Urbana, IL Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 28-45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:25am
Asian, White
4' 11" (1.50m)
Body Type
Average build
Christianity but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Here by way of Plattsburgh (NY), Sacramento, Indianapolis, and Edinburgh. My accent is apparently an unholy mixture of the American northeast and RMP*. While I've trained myself to say 'roof' properly, I do have a tendency to pepper my speech with incomprehensible Scots phrases, only half of which are not simply a litany of profanity. I also tend to spell '–or' words with an added 'u'. (Semi-) old habits die hard.

As a demisexual I am primarily looking for a friend who might (eventually) become something more. Yet even if that never happens, we should still be able to have a good time just doing (non-sexual) stuff. I like museums and art galleries, hikes through Turkey Run and visits to Allerton Park. Going out to eat and catching a new movie. Oh, and dinosaurs. Because they're awesome. Now, there's nothing wrong with doing any of these things by oneself but they're certainly a lot more enjoyable when you can share them with someone else. Don't you agree?

*Received Midwestern Pronunciation
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I study the history of Scotland from about 1350 to 1700 (give or take fifty years either way) and teach early western history to eager (and not-so-eager) undergraduates. Having recently perfected my recipe for veal bolognese, I'm on the hunt for a new culinary challenge. In the meantime, I'm taking full advantage of the season by shunning pumpkin spice lattes in favour of pumpkin spice donuts and apple walnut bread. Cider might as well be ambrosia. Have you been to Curtis Orchard yet?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Gathering information and reading between the lines. Cooking intricate meals and making them feel intimate. Logic proofs and convergent thinking.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Height. Quiet charm. Book in hand. Great shoes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Patrick O'Brian, Robin Hobb, Jane Austen, Agatha Christie, Les Liaisons Dangereuses, Jane Eyre, "The Two Towers", "The Three Musketeers (1948)", "Master and Commander", "My Man Godfrey", "Hot Fuzz", "The Shining", "Rebecca", "Star Trek TOS", "Doctor Who", "Sherlock", "Community", Potatoes in all their myriad forms, kimchi jjigae, chimichangas, tortellini, poached eggs, and chocolate cake.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
/r/aww, good scotch, laughter, print books, blank notebooks, and my passport
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why is it that every time I wash a spoon, I seem to forget about the laws of physics? Do regular dogs look at police dogs and think, 'Oh shit! It's the police!'? How to get away with wearing nice clothes as an academic.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I used to write fanfiction...about historical figures.
You should message me if
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There's a film you'd like to see but your friends are too lame to go with you. You'd like to try a new restaurant or check out the Champaign symphony. You're just burning to discuss the schematics of the NCC-1701 relative to those of the NCC-1701D or the merits of all twelve Doctors over a cup of coffee and a game of cards.

N.B. You could be the coolest person on this planet but if you send me a message that only includes a generic greeting (Hi/Hello/Hey/What's up/How are you?) plus an emoticon and/or an unimaginative (if complimentary) comment on my appearance, I will not respond to you. While 'Hi, my name is...' followed by a smile works as a conversation starter at a bar or when out and about, it sucks as a conversation starter on OkCupid. Want me to respond? Say something that actually starts a conversation. For instance, 'Hey, I see you list "The Shining" as one of your favorite books/films. I liked it too but I preferred "Pet Semetary". I'll buy you a grande white mocha latte if you can change my mind. If not, my venti caramel macchiato's on you.'

Seriously, come on dudes. I want to respond. Help me out here!


Here are some potential things of interest you can mention in a first message to me if you want to maximize your chances of me responding. I mean, my whole profile has lots of info but if you're still stumped, look below:

I'd really love to try out the sushi at Sakanaya, the crème brûlée at Timpone's, and the sliders at Seven Saints.

It's been quite a while since I ventured over to the Spurlock or to Krannert's art museum and I'm curious as to what new exhibits they've got running.

Have you ever been to Jane Addams on Neil Street? I'm still trying to devise a way to get to the Star Trek books on the second floor. Sadly, I'm so short that even the step-ladder remains functionally useless against their floor-to-ceiling bookcases.