To begin with, I should mention that have a girlfriend who is the love of my life. But she lives far away, and has encouraged me to find a cute friend nearby to help me through the cold winters. We don't think that's sleazy, we think it's cute and innocent. There's enough guilt and pain out there, we don't need to feel embarrassed about the one part of our lives we've managed to achieve a certain level of enlightenment with. The many people who consider themselves open minded but look down their noses at non-orthodox relationships is disheartening.
At the same time, I'm still not used to someone I've just met announcing out of nowhere that they're "poly." For the most part it's bizarre and even a little off-putting. Yet it's also a little underhanded to put the moves on someone without an explanation. You can see the catch 22 emerging.
Unlike others out there, I can handle having a simmering crush while simultaneously putting my #1 first. And I've never been the one night stand type. More the occasionally-getting-closer-than-expected-with-an-old-friend type. So there is a chance of something semi-serious developing. Eventually. Far far into the future. But that would hinge on how willing you would be to consider occasionally cuddling with my lady too, if you two clicked. Maybe even dating the two of us?
We've never had a relationship like that, in fact we've only rolled around in the sheets with a few other ladies a handful of times. Every time, though, we felt really let down when they didn't stick around for the whole weekend! Of course it's slim chances piled on top of long shots that three people could get along and be hot for each other and be able to handle that situation for more than a month. But stranger things have happened, and we've agreed that if lightning does strike, we'd be willing to give it a shot.
But, seriously, we haven't even met yet. That's all ages from now. Let's just see if we like the same bands first, right?
So I'm just looking for a girl who likes amazing cinema and great music, and doesn't mind that I have a girlfriend. If you don't like cute girls, and moody guys, and you think that all relationships should be those that get the 50s sitcom green light...best of luck to you.