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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Aug 1
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Never quite know what to say in these spaces. I'm a pasty white guy (photo evidence provided), geeky by inclination and training (I minored in math in college) and I try to be friendly and good to the people around me.

I work, I enjoy watching movies and TV and learning to play guitar. I play video games, mostly on the PC these days, though I still own and use my PS3. I also helped found an anime convention when I was living in Pittsburgh, PA.

I enjoy reading a lot. Particularly fantasy and science fiction oriented material. Though I've also been reading a lot of non-fiction the past few years, expanding my literary diet, so to speak.

Beyond the basics, I enjoy talking on almost any topic, so long as there's an interesting discussion to be had. I'm not nearly so interested in exchanging dogma. I try to be open minded to discussions about views that differ from mine, but I've found that certain topics tend to breed vitriol and resentment more than discussion.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just trying to live a good life. Learning guitar, trying to make friends and meet new people. Do well at work. That sort of thing. There are big changes coming down the line, though and I need to prepare myself for that. Ask if you want to know.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I like to think I can talk intelligently about almost anything. I'm good with computers. I am good at retaining a positive outlook and a certain level of optimism about life and people. I am not cynical.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile a lot. I'm shy and sometimes awkward. I have a propensity for using big words. I can say absurd things with a straight face (usually). I am very literal-minded - sometimes I miss the joke, sometimes I just act like I did.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Let's see. Picking favorites is always hard. I like a lot of things, for a lot of reasons.

I love to read. Mostly I read fantasy and Science Fiction. Specific things to call out include Harry Potter, Kushiel's Dart and Cryptonomicon. I will read just about anything from Jacqueline Carey or Neal Stephenson, and I've really been enjoying Stephen Brust for the past few years as well.

As far as movies go, I have to admit to a weakness for comic book movies. Even some of the bad ones. I am happy to live in an age where there are so many good ones to choose from, as well! Put Tommy Lee Jones, Johnny Depp or Willem Dafoe on the screen and I'll be there just to listen to their voices.

Music, music and more music. I have a strange relationship with music. It's either totally involving, or it's background that I barely pay attention to. I don't tend to hear or understand lyrics on the first listen of a song, and sometimes not even the tenth. I will listen to the sound of a voice without hearing what it says. I deeply love Pink Floyd, Queen, Led Zeppelin, Faith and the Muse among others. I have also picked up a taste for Morcheeba, not least because of Skye Edwards, and I'm sad she's no longer a part of that.

Ah, food. I love to eat, I love to cook. I have the gut to show for it! Sushi is a long time favorite. I try to be vegetarian, but I don't usually do a very good job of it. I love spicy foods, though they don't always love me back. I have found few things that I don't like. Ginger is one. Beer is another. Both have their place, but that place is often not in my meals.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Well, assuming biological necessities are covered...
things to read, games to play, people to talk to, satisfying work to do, my cats and a comfy bed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Traffic lights. They occupy my every waking thought. I think about computer games, reading, writing, stories, music theory, games, sex, physics, religion, politics, mysticism and the value of optimism in a mechanical universe. Sometimes I get hung up on useless things like being bitter or angry. When I catch myself doing that, I dive into an activity that requires my full concentration. Usually reading.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am a boring house ape. My typical Friday evening is spent practicing guitar, watching a bit of TV, chatting online, and maybe going out to dinner and a movie if I'm feeling adventurous.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Honestly, I'm a quiet and reserved person until you get to know me. I'm recently divorced, and taking the opportunity to evaluate my life and explore my options.
I'm exploring my kinky side and experimenting with polyamory.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you want to engage in conversation. Or if you want to meet me. If you want to play games, practice music, or need someone for your tabletop RPG. You should message me if you would enjoy going on a nice walk around the neighborhood (mine or yours) or if you live nearby and need a workout partner to keep you honest. There are lots of good reasons to message me, so feel free.