43 San Francisco, CA
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My self-summary
Hi, I would describe myself as a modestly good looking man who tries to do the right thing in life. I am honest as I can be without intentionally hurting people. Unless they ask for it. Or they forget the safe word. But then that's not really my fault, is it?

I love music, the arts, books, cats, nature, hikes, beaches, solitude, intimacy- I also love women, but admit to being kind of picky- for instance I demand the girls I date refrain from watching the show Wipeout!

I like to work on my physical, mental, and emotional health in a variety of ways. Not that it needs work or anything... :)

I think I have great taste and a casual, comfortable, yet clean style. I believe in peace and short skirts. With high boots. Okay, skip the boots. But only if you have supercute feet. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
looking for love in all the wrong places (like here), meeting you at the rendevous spot in twenty minutes...ok forty minutes, I'm kind of high maintenance.

I practice Iyengar yoga daily and have taken an interest in NVC- non-violent communication. Its not as cool as kickboxing but we all can't be Lloyd Dobler now can we?
I’m really good at
improvising, singing, walking, mixing, witty banter/sarcasm/silliness/irreverence, quoting movies and music, recognizing and appreciating quality....I have a history/politics degree so I can BS about that stuff as well. I also think I'd make a great husband and father one day. I do love to give massages and love receiving them even more. Hugs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know! A lot of people think I'm serious- until they get to know me- then they find out I'm deadly serious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Tropic Of Cancer, Wicked, Artist's Way, Zorba the Greek, The Bear Comes Home, LOTR, Crime and Punishment, The Magic Mountain, The Power of Now, Joseph Campbell, Kingsolver, Hemingway, Bukowski, Anais Nin, the Beats, Eat, Pray, Love, The Eden Express

right now: In the Garden of Beasts, I Am A Cat, The Beer Bible, The Cheese Primer, For the Love of Hops

Music: Bjork, Thievery Corporation, Morcheeba, Massive Attack, Bebel Gilberto, Beastie Boys, Cibo Matto, Bob Marley, James Brown, Beatles, jazz(Miles, Coltrane, Wayne Shorter, McCoy Tyner, etc), hip hop (Mos Def, the Roots, Blackalicious, Roots Manuva, J5), Cocteau Twins, The Smiths, Kate Bush, Beirut, Joni Mitchell, Belle and Sebastian, Radiohead, classical (Bartok, Shostakovitch, Stravinsky, Mozart, Tchaikovsky, etc)

right now: African Highlife from Ghana, Hilary Hahn, Beach House, new Roots Manuva

Movies: Vacation, Trading Places, Rushmore, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Baraka, The Lion King, Woody Allen, Ingmar Bergman, 40 Year Old Virgin, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Matrix, Deer Hunter, Apocalypse Now, Constant Gardener, Big Night, Fight Club, When Harry Met Sally, Say Anything, Sixteen Candles, Airplane!, Merchant Ivory movies, Titanic, The Last Unicorn

recently enjoyed: Ex Machina, Turner, The Force Awakens

TV: South Park, Flight of the Conchords, Coupling (UK), The Office (UK), Curb Your Enthusiasm, Seinfeld, Scrubs, 30 Rock

recent favorites: Game of Thrones, Orphan Black, Broadchurch, The Honourable Woman, Transparent, Mozart in the Jungle, Key and Peele, Archer, Parks and Rec, House of Cards, Bob's Burgers

Food: cheese, fish tacos, avocado, my sister's pizzas (and anything else she makes), smoked salmon, soup, good bread, black truffles, deviled or scrambled eggs, kale, beets

Drink: craft beer, wine and an occasional cocktail

recent favorite meal: West of Pecos

I am pretty much a vegetarian who enjoys fish/seafood on occasion. I don't like labels though and if I was in Venice and some meat looked tempting I might try it. I think a mostly vegetarian diet feels good, is healthier, and leaves a smaller environmental footprint (generally)
The six things I could never do without
my family, music, love, hot showers, laughter, the "good stuff"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to make life happy, fun, interesting, passionate, meaningful, and rewarding. I also think about a lot of other stuff- I know, shocking...
On a typical Friday night I am
working, then coming home and reading or watching a movie or tv on dvd (I don't have cable- or a life apparently!). Netflix's Watch Instantly is the greatest invention of all time. Even better than Maui. Well...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I strongly dislike the phrase "At the end of the day...." I wish I knew how on earth it got so ubiquitous!
You should message me if
you have a great sense of humor, do not dislike cats, do not smoke cigarettes, are kind, beautiful, relatively self-aware and mature (but can still be silly) and are willing to whip me into shape. No, not that kind of whipping. ;)