Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
- I love wine. Lots of wine. My strategy with wine is this: I
basically figure how much wine I would need to drink in order to be
considered to have "a problem," and then I back it off just a
- I love to read (it goes perfectly with drinking wine)
- I love animals
- I'm a failed vegetarian (I lasted about three years), but I still
try to keep it up to the extent that I am capable. That said, I'd
be lying if I said steak and bacon don't make it on to my plate on
- I worked as a bartender for a long time
- I have a Masters degree in Political Science.
- I love cottaging (after all, it's mostly drinking and reading,
except on a dock in the country instead of a patio in the city). I
go to the family cottage as often as I can.
- My many sojourns on my bike have made me pretty adroit at finding
new/cool bars and restos around town
- I love having great conversations. If you have something
interesting to say, I'm ready to listen (and critique).
- I don't much like hyper-sensitive people who are easily
"offended." Please be able to take a joke and have a sense of
- I love smart, interesting women. Intelligence is a huge turn on
- I seem to lack much of a "jealousy" gene. I don't know quite how
it came to be that this is the case, but nevertheless, if you
somehow get turned on by super needy/clingy guys who hang all over
you, and police your every move, you probably won't be interested
in dating me. Similarly, nor do I like dating people who tend to be
hyper-jealous. Take what I say at face-value, and I'll do likewise.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work in the financial district for a commercial real estate firm.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can flick a pen 360 degrees around my thumb (surely you've seen a
former classmate or co-worker do this before, no?). I only mention
it because it took me forever to learn in grade-eight science
class. Seriously, if you knew how long it took me to master it,
you'd know the kind of commitment I'm capable of ;)
I quit smoking several years ago, but before I did, I could blow
the best smoke rings you've ever seen. No joke, people would
comment on them all the time, and even ask me to teach them.
Unfortunately, it was unteachable, it was just a weird inborn
talent I had. If you get me really drunk I may just show you :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books – Philosophy, Politics...and lots of stuff related to old
research when I was in grad school (Rousseau's Second Discourse is
probably my favourite book of all time)
Movies – The Fog of War (love Errol Morris), Midnight Run, Rain
Man, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Casino Royale, The Bourne Series,
Wayne's World, and shitloads of 80's movies!
T.V. – Don't watch much, but I do like Seinfeld, The Office
(British), HIMYM (The first four seasons anyway), Jeopardy
Music – Van Morrison...and other people.
Food – Good Cheese, good steak...peanut butter
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Wine, My Bike, Books, Crossword Puzzles, Squirrels, Dental Floss
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I wonder why OKCupid insists on phrasing so many of their matching
questions by asking "Would you consider?" Such as "Would you
consider sleeping with someone on the first date?" or "Would you
consider having an open relationship?" It's a weird way to phrase
the question because, by definition, in order to give your answer
(i.e. as to whether you'd sleep with someone on the first date, or
have an open relationship), you'd have to consider it. Hence, the
answer would always be "Yes," as in, "Yes I would consider it, but
subsequent to considering it, I would or wouldn't do it." You see?
Thus, to some extent, the very phrasing of the question makes it
tautological. OKCupid should just ask "Would you sleep with someone
on the first date?" or "Would you have an open relationship?"
Moreover, OKCupid frequently phrases their matching questions by
asking "whether or not," such as "Regardless of whether or not you
smoke marijuana, would you support legalizing it?" In reality,
however, using "whether or not" is redundant, because "whether,"
used on its own, implies alternate possibilities. Hence, OKCupid
should simply use "whether," as in, "Regardless of whether you
smoke marijuana, would you support legalizing it?" See what I
Seriously, why doesn't OKCupid do a better job of phrasing their
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have your own life, but, at the same time, you'd like to meet
someone for a drink and see where it goes – that's essentially
where I'm at. I'm looking for casual dating that could maybe lead
to something more committed and long-term. That doesn't mean I'm
not serious, it just means I don't much like making frivolous
commitments (and nor should anyone in my opinion).
Please don't message me if all you are interested in is casual sex
(I don't actually mean this, but all the girls get to say it, so I
kind of wanted to know what it was like to be able to say it
Don't message me if all you want to do is learn how to blow
super-amazing smoke rings, like I said, it's an inborn talent and I
gave it up a long time ago. I wish I could teach everyone, really I
do (I'd make a fortune), but it's just not possible, sorry.
P.S. If I don't respond to your message, it's only because I don't
think we'd be a good match. But thanks anyway, and good luck on
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