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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20-60
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 25
Open relationship
6' 3" (1.91m)
Not at all
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Italian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
These past couple of years have been a big period of growth for me. Relationships changing, career changing, learning new things, finally releasing old things held too long. I am happier than I have ever been.

I am not 100% sure where this ends, and that's okay with me. I have had all the checkboxes on the American dream checked off, and discovered that the promised Hollywood happy ending does not automatically, I am looking for happiness that is not necessarily defined by societal convention.

As you will find out if you read further...I am not sure about long term relationships vs. short term relationships right now, and that's okay, too. Just because I am not ready for something the Universe throws my way does not mean it won't be good for me.

Some people have asked me, given this outlook, why I have a profile here, and wouldn't it be easier if I got my house in order first and decided what I need? The answer is that reading profiles here and occasionally sharing and interacting with women here gives me hope for myself and humanity at large for the future... ;)

Sometimes it's just a drive-by moment of shared understanding, or a compliment for someone who is also putting themselves out there. Sometimes it's a philosophical discussion. Sometimes, it's a friendship that wasn't there before. Sometimes, it's a spark...sometimes requited, sometimes not.

It's all good, from my perspective.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am coming out of a 25 year marriage, and I am acutely aware of rebound issues, but I have to start somewhere. I am not looking for another long term relationship right away...on the other hand I am not sure I am capable of "casual", either. That's my reality, not going to hide it :).
I’m really good at
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Systems analysis and design
People analysis (less so on the design front)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height, usually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many to list here :). Think Shawshank Redemption, LIfe of Pi, etc.

I like works involving philosophy, human nature, science fiction and fantasy, romantic relationships...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Honesty/Openness
2. Integrity/Ethics
3. Innocence/Sense of Wonder
4. Imagination/Creativity
5. Passion/Desire
6. Intimacy/Connecting
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. I ponder and analyze everything.

For example, in the "I'm Looking For" section you have to check "long term dating" or "short term dating". Who the heck knows if their dating is going to end up being short term or long term (other than those looking for casual sex, which is covered in another checkbox)? ;)

Don't most people hope for a long term connection and reluctantly settle for short term explorations? Maybe 25 years is too long to be out of dating...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing something, but usually not partying.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am not as straightlaced as my demeanor would suggest :), but I am always a gentleman, even when I am being naughty.

I also want to use this section to address a couple of things I have been asked about my profile:

- I listed 20-60 as the age range I am interested in. Age is just a number; personal growth and maturity are attractive to me. Some people manage this in their 20s and others never reach it at all. That being said, I tend to stay close to my own age range...but I also don't want OKcupid arbitrarily excluding me from seeing someone that is wonderful simply because their birthday fell somewhere far from mine in either direction. I want to be open to meeting anyone that I resonate with.

- I am okay with posting a photo of me that also shows my niece when she was a baby...nobody can possibly recognize her. If she were older in the photo, I wouldn't. I did not post that photo to exploit her, it really happens to be one of the only photos I have of myself recent enough to show. Maybe it's because I believe that cameras steal your soul and I duck out of every photo I see coming? ;)
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If anything I wrote here resonates strongly enough...