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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–60
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 10
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Not at all
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've left this section in my draft folder for far too long, so let me at least add something here...

The times they are a'changing, and so am I. These past couple of years have been a big period of growth for me. Relationships changing, career changing, learning new things, finally releasing old things held too long.

I am not 100% sure where this ends, and that's okay with me. I have had all the checkboxes on the American dream checked off, and discovered that the promised Hollywood happy ending does not automatically, I am doing something about it.

As you will find out if you read further...I am not sure about long term relationships vs. short term relationships right now, and that's okay, too. Just because I am not ready for something the Universe throws my way does not mean it won't be good for me.

Some people have asked me, given this outlook, why I have a profile here, and wouldn't it be easier if I got my house in order first and decided what I need? The answer is that reading profiles here and occasionally sharing and interacting with women here gives me hope for myself and humanity at large for the future... ;)

Sometimes it's just a drive-by moment of shared understanding, or a compliment for someone who is also putting themselves out there. Sometimes it's a philosophical discussion. Sometimes, it's a friendship that wasn't there before. Sometimes, it's a spark...sometimes requited, sometimes not.

It's all good, from my perspective.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am coming out of a 25 year marriage, and I am acutely aware of rebound issues, but I have to start somewhere. I am not looking for another long term relationship right away...on the other hand I am not sure I am capable of "casual", either. That's my reality, not going to hide it :).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people
Systems analysis and design
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height, usually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many to list here :).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Honesty/Openness
2. Integrity/Ethics
3. Innocence/Sense of Wonder
4. Imagination/Creativity
5. Passion/Desire
6. Intimacy/Connecting
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. I ponder and analyze everything.

For example, in the "I'm Looking For" section you have to check "long term dating" or "short term dating". Who the heck knows if their dating is going to end up being short term or long term (other than those looking for casual sex, which is covered in another checkbox)? ;)

Don't most people hope for a long term connection and reluctantly settle for short term explorations? Maybe 25 years is too long to be out of dating...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing something, but not drinking and partying.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am not as straightlaced as my demeanor would suggest :), but I am always a gentleman, even when I am being naughty.

I also want to use this section to address a couple of things I have been asked about my profile:

- I listed 20-60 as the age range I am interested in. Age is just a number; personal growth and maturity are attractive to me. Some people manage this in their 20sm and others never reach it at all. That being said, I tend to stay close to my own age range...but I also don't want OKcupid arbitrarily excluding me from seeing someone that is wonderful simply because their birthday fell somewhere far from mine in either direction. I want to be open to meeting anyone that I resonate with.

- I am okay with posting a photo of me that also shows my niece when she was a baby...nobody can possibly recognize her. If she were older in the photo, I wouldn't. I did not post that photo to exploit her, it really happens to be one of the only photos I have of myself recent enough to show. Maybe it's because I believe that cameras steal your soul and I duck out of every photo I see coming? ;)
You should message me if
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I just got here and my life is changing quite a bit right now, you might want to wait a while :)...on the other hand, the Universe throws things at you when it wants to, and I don't want to shut the door; so if anything I wrote here resonates strongly enough...feel free to say hello.