I'm a biomedical engineer - recently moved here from the NYC area to design medical devices, surf, snowboard, & for the SoCal lifestyle (not so much for places like Hollywood, but more for the small beach town culture).
I feel guilty living extravagantly, so I try to just have enough to be healthy & safe - most of my leisure money is spent on budget backpacking/surf trips around the world. Since I moved here, I've been regularly donating or throwing away a lot of my "excess" belongings, because I don't want to be weighed down by my possessions. Plus it makes moving a lot easier, haha. If you've traveled to a few third-world countries & therefore most likely have continually met people who live more fulfilling lives than the average American, you know exactly where I'm coming from.
About the girl I'm looking for:
Humbleness, intelligence, & adventurous are characteristics I look for, while selfishness, materialism, & egotism are ones that I desperately avoid. My match would take chivalry & shared life experiences over material objects, any day. Because I send a significant portion of my $$ home to my family, & I'm also investing in several things for the future, it leaves no room for me to live an excessive lifestyle, or support anyone else's either. Sorry sugar daddy-seekers, I'll never be wealthy, but I guarantee I'll be happy, & I'm totally ok with that :)
As far as the dating dynamic goes, I believe both guys & girls should be doing all the same things to appease a potential significant other. We live in a world of equality these days, & if a girl isn't willing to do her half, then I'd recommend finding a pushover. If she wants to be "treated like a princess", then she'd better be treating her guy more like a prince than a frog, haha. At the same time, I absolutely believe that manners & mutual respect are not only key when first meeting someone, but also every moment thereafter. Every couple encounters obstacles; it's all about how they work together to overcome them.
I'm looking for a girl that's able to deal with life's problems & put them in perspective, not causing them to be bigger problems than they really are. They have a deep appreciation for their own life & for everything living around them, like nature, for example. She recognizes that the most valuable things in life are free. Weekend getaways to explore a beautiful place outdoors & find that legendary hole-in-the-wall fish taco joint are things that excite them. She agrees that understanding the people & culture of a particular place is as fascinating & enriching as its landmarks & natural wonders. You typically don't "knock it" unless you've tried it (within reason). You are respectful & grateful for the family & place that you came from, even though it may be far from perfect. You don't see every guy you meet as only a potential boyfriend, but also consider him as a potential friend (since I'm happy with either outcome). Most importantly, & most obvious, you treat people how you want to be treated, & avoid putting yourself first whenever possible (unless it's surfing a crowded beach, because then you'll never ride a single wave, so this is an exception to be selfish, lol).