I feel guilty living extravagantly, so I try to just have enough to be healthy & safe - most of my leisure money is spent on backpacking trips around the world. I'm definitely the adventurous type: even though my reading material has evolved from "Treasure Island" & "Hatchet" to National Geographic & Outside magazine, the theme remains the same. Since I moved here, I've been regularly donating or throwing away a lot of my "excess" belongings, because I don't want to be weighed down by my possessions. Plus it makes moving a lot easier, haha. If you've traveled to a few third-world countries & therefore most likely have continually met people who live more fulfilling lives than the average American, you know exactly where I'm coming from.
As you can probably relate, I'm way too busy to go on a bunch of dates just to get an initial idea of what a few people are like; I'm much more about exchanging as much info up-front as possible. So who am I looking for? Well, having respect for each others' time, I'd first rather narrow it down a little further. I promise I'm not some controlling, rude prick, but I have to be open & up-front on this one.
Selfishness is definitely my #1 turnoff, so I'd like to elaborate upon that a little bit to explain exactly what I mean:
My match would take chivalry & shared life experiences over gifts bought for them, any day. Because I send a significant portion of my $$ home to my family, & I'm also investing in several things for the future, it leaves no room for me to live an excessive lifestyle, or support anyone else's either.
Along the same lines, I'm not among the group that believes guys should be doing more to appease a potential girlfriend than vice versa. We live in a world of equality these days, & if a girl isn't willing to do her half, then I'd recommend finding a pushover. If she wants to be "treated like a princess", then she'd better be treating her guy more like a prince than a frog, haha. At the same time, I absolutely believe that manners & mutual respect are not only key when first meeting someone, but also every moment thereafter. Every couple encounters obstacles; it's all about how they work together to overcome them.
If you've made it this far, I think it's worthwhile to read about who I am looking for:
A girl that's able to deal with life's problems & put them in perspective, not causing them to be bigger problems than they really are. They don't believe that causing excess drama is an effective way to get what they want/need. They have a deep appreciation for their own life & for everything living around them, like nature, for example. She recognizes that the most valuable things in life are free. Weekend getaways to explore a beautiful place outdoors & find that legendary hole-in-the-wall fish taco joint are things that excite them. She agrees that understanding the people & culture of a particular place is as fascinating & enriching as its landmarks & natural wonders. You typically don't "knock it" unless you've tried it (within reason). You are respectful & grateful for the family & place that you came from, even though it may be far from perfect. You don't see every guy you meet as only a potential boyfriend, but also consider him as a potential friend (since I'm happy with either outcome). Most importantly, & most obvious, you treat people how you want to be treated, & avoid putting yourself first whenever possible (unless it's surfing a crowded beach, because then you'll never ride a single wave, so this is an exception to be selfish, lol).