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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 6
Asian, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
When drinking
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Here's the one-line description: I'm a nice guy with a lot of different interests which make me fun to bring to parties and just to have conversations with one on one.

So the details: first, I'm a big guy. So if you're into more huggable guys, I'm right up your alley. And most people can't tell right off what my race or ethnic background is. People have made guesses all over the map, but I'll let you off the hook: I'm Filipino with some other seasoning stirred in.

I'm a geek. Kind of mild-core, though. I like to surround myself with other friendly geeks and nerds who aren't too far out in the deep end. And date them if I'm lucky. Which is why I'm lurking around here on OkCupid rather than, say,

What makes me more conventionally geeky includes my interests in comics, video games, anime, Star Trek. I have been going to the San Diego Comic-Con since the 80's, which is pretty much the mecca of all things above.

But I also geek out on artsy-craftsy stuff like sewing, graphic design, drawing and writing. And then there's the complete nerd side of me that is into web design and development, and trivia.

But I'm also pretty normal. I like to hang out with friends, watch TV, go to movies, play poker, eat at holes-in-the-wall. I like to go out and drink, though I don't get messy. When I am with folks who are crazy enough, I love going to sing karaoke. And when I'm on my own, I like to explore the nooks and crannies of San Francisco on foot. And I always have my fingers dipped into some community-based project or another.

I live a somewhat bohemian life for someone my age-- I live on my own without anyone depending on me and am involved more with doing creative and community-oriented things than, say, sweating about how my mutual funds are performing in this sort of economy. This may not sound grown-up, but don't confuse my interests and lifestyle as a lack of maturity.

Historically, I've dated primarily Asian men, but I don't have a rule or anything. I just try to date folks that I'm attracted to and get along with.

I am big, geeky, and generally pleasant
What I’m doing with my life
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I work for what's likely the most popular dot-com that you have never heard of. But I've pretty much always worked in some capacity on the Internet since before the beginning of the boom (the first Internet bubble, not the current one).

Other than my day job, I serve on the board of directors for a local community arts organization, where I spend a lot of my time working on fundraising and programs.

I also occassionaly go out and speak to junior- and high school students about the GLBT community. It's a great thing about San Francisco, where teachers actually want to give up a period in order for gay people to come and talk about themselves in front of their kids.

I’m really good at
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Despite how I describe myself above as a geek, you might think that I'd be socially awkward. I'm actually quite the opposite, and I'm great interacting with folks. And did I mention I like karaoke? I'll admit to being a pretty good singer when there's a TV monitor in front of me to feed me lyrics.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I always remind people of someone they know or think they've met before. I am usually not that guy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A) Books: Tokyo: A Certain Style, The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, The Egyptologist, anything Harry Potter, Where Is Your Body, Dogeaters, Jimmy Corrigan, The Smartest Kid on Earth, O'Reilly and Peachpit Press and Nolo books...

B) Movies: Showgirls, Flower Drum Song, Bring It On, The Joy Luck Club, The Lion in Winter, Disney animated movies of the 90s, Pixar movies, Lord of the Rings trilogy, Pretty in Pink, The Sound of Music, The American President, Hiroshima, Mon Amour, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan, Roman Holiday, most anything Miyazaki, Flashdance, Elizabeth, Kikujiro, Gone With the Wind...

C) Music: I don't know why, but my perennial favorites are Prince (or at least when he's at the top of his game)... and Erasure (who have never lost their way, as far as I'm concerned). Besides that, I am unabashed in my taste in R&B , soul and pop -- I will always go back and replay songs on my iPod from Beyonce, Ne-yo, Pink, Kelly Clarkson, Pussycat Dolls, Robyn, Amy Winehouse, Duffy. I happily dip back into the 80s--I used to start my day listening to Olivia Newton John's "Magic" and "Xanadu" then obsessing over the Doobie Brothers' "What a Fool Believes." My taste in hip hop is grounded in what you might hear in the clubs... and probably what they were playing in the 90s, like Biggie, Nas, Missy . I like J-Pop, but I can't easily drop names. Same with my taste in rock-- and it varies as widely from indie (I love The Little Ones and The Morning Benders right now) to stepping into metal (Wolfmother makes me feel like a man). I'm afraid that I don't like emo, though I can admit to bouncing my head to a couple of Fall Out Boy Songs. I don't particularly wave my gay flag for house, but I am g-g-g-g-gay for Broadway, so much that I've thought of getting in gear to perform in musical theater one of these days. When I'm feeling more sophisticated, I seek out classic jazz (and not the "smooth" variety). When I'm feeling much less than sophisticated: Journey.

D) Foods: BBQ ribs is my favorite thing to eat. I also like Filipino, Korean, Italian, and Japanese. Besides that, I have a major sweet tooth. I heart tapioca pudding. And things with chocolate.

You should message me if
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Message me if you're a geek yourself, or are interested in someone who's not afraid to let his geek flag fly. But also message me if you're just interested in someone who just has a lot of different interests, likes to talk about them, and just is kind of nice to have around. I'm that kind of guy.

And like I mentioned, I've dated mostly Asian men. But don't let that stop you from contacting me if you aren't.