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  • Ages 30-47
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My details

Last online
Today – 3:23pm
Relationship Type
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I grew up in New Orleans, lived in the Midwest for a while, and now I'm here.

I teach college freshmen how to write, even though there really is no such thing, and I study how to teach them to do it, as much as that is possible. I happen to like college freshmen quite a bit. They're lovely people. I pretty much have the best job in the world.

I used to do creative writing, and we won't get into that right now because I'm pretty sure you don't want to have to read a rant.

I once lived in a house with a couple of veterinary students, and pet-wise it was a crazy house with like 5 cats and 2 dogs. Sometimes I still miss it.

Back in the days of yore, OKCupid told me I was more "radcliffy" than most. I took it as a compliment, though I didn't agree. You should see my desk, for example. I suspect it all had something to do with the fact that I went to a snooty prep school. Except for the fact that I curse like a sailor, I have perfect manners. Again, prep school.

I'm more interested in questions than answers, and in starting
points and processes than end points and results. Life is situated and emergent, and while I recognize that limits and boundaries are necessary, I think we shouldn't let them overdetermine who we are and what we're in the constant process of becoming.

In related news, Descartes and Plato can totally kiss my ass.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Besides roller derby?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being the Pips when "Midnight Train to Georgia" comes on the radio. I suppose this should probably go under "The Most Private Thing I'm Willing to Admit."

When they used to have the Psychologist Game on this site, I learned that I'm really, really good at spotting misogynists, tax cheats, and people who do blow. I mean, like really good.

Also, I'm pretty good at Scrabble.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know, glasses?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
a)I love the poetry of Terrence Hayes and Natasha Threthewey. As far as fiction, I'm going to go ahead and pick "Dogeaters" by Jessica Hagedorn for now, but a more frequent answer is probably "Wind-up Bird Chronicle."

b) Too many to pick, but if you're going to force me, I'll just go with Winter's Bone. It's a pretty great movie. The Red Riding trilogy is pretty great too. Wow I like some depressing movies.

c) The Wire, Parks and Rec, Home Movies, Bob's Burgers

d) That Thomas Edison song from "Bob's Burgers"

I love me some Philly soul. Harold Melvin and Blue Notes featuring Teddy Prendergrast? Yes, please.

And (duh) "New Orleans" jazz. Yeah, those are air quotes; got a problem with that? Because probably everything should be in air quotes if you really think about it, but I digress.

I used to DJ at raves, so there's also that. As a consequence, I listen to a lot of blissed-out deep house and all manner of drum and bass, from the chilled out to the harder stuff that'll rough up a dance floor full of people who make me feel old.

d)Vietnamese, shrimp po boys (dressed, thank you), and my own personal version of chicken adobo which somehow tastes nothing like my mom's no matter how faithful to her recipe I stay. Also pizza. I can't get enough pizza.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books, a comfy bed, friends, roller skates and two other things. Maybe I'll let you pick them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The fact that I never seem to be as thirsty as pretty much everyone else. Actually, this one might be subject to change. Living in the desert has made me quite thirsty.

Feminist and digital pedagogy, the racial and gendered politics of taste and literacy, situated and emergent literacy practices.

How a lot of writing education seems more to be designed for making writing--and therefore an important form of political agency--more inaccessible than it claims.

The fact that lots and lots of people have chosen to write with a device that was designed for talking, to the point where we've totally redesigned the devices around writing. It's kind of amazing and wonderful.

Why so many student writers say "males" and "females" instead of "men" and "women."

If OKC can *actually* tell if someone is organized or not.

Roller derby, ice cream and other fun stuff that is unrelated to work. Promise.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at home. Movies, internet, kitties.

Alternately, I might be out at a happy hour or movie with friends. Apparently, I really like movies. I'm a homebody by default, but it really doesn't take much convincing for me to not be one, by which I mean, all you have to do is ask and I'm far more likely than not to say yes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I sometimes do housework in roller skates. Given the academic job market, and the fact that my job is only on a five year contract, I might have a career as a carhop one day.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you've read this far, you should just go ahead and do it. But if you want more reasons (as opposed to criteria), here you go:

You want to go snowboarding some time. Or roller skating.

You don't mind the fact that I say "totally" a lot. This happens, incidentally, more in print than in speech, but may explain why keeping ongoing penpal thingies is really difficult for me. But I promise it'll totally be easy with you. Which I can now say with confidence since I actually have a really awesome penpal I met on this site, but I'm still leaving that first part because I think I'm funny.

You want to have a friendly debate/discussion about feminism over delicious food and snooty beer or not so snooty wine.

Or otherwise if you think I might be time-kill worthy. New friends are always a plus. I so am, by the way. References available upon request.