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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 19-63
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:25pm
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Sarcastic, cynical, intelligent, reliable, honest, funny, sensitive, artistic, literate, trustworthy, eccentric, and generous with the green stuff and I don't mean marijuana.

I was the lead software engineers for 20 years with Northrop-Grumman Corporation, working on a Top Secret reconnaissance project. During that time I was able to accumulate a large retirement fund, which I am looking to make good use of for the next 20 years.

In my retirement, I have written and published three novels; 13 screenplays; one book of poetry; and have painted over 100 paintings and have had three shows at a swanky retirement home. These numbers are NOT exaggerations.

I am a member of Mensa and scored in the 99th percentile on their IQ test and have the paperwork to prove it.

I like intelligent and caring women, down to earth and who don't make an "issue" out of every little thing.

I am looking for companionship at first and will let the other things develop naturally, as the stars align.

San Diego is not really the intellectual and artistic environment I am looking for, but unfortunately I am stuck here for the foreseeable future, having the responsibility of caring for a very elderly parent.

I find that most people lack a sense of humor, which is fine with me because I hate to laugh.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just finished composing my third novel and fantasizing about my Pulitzer Prize.
Reading books most people would find somniferous, like "Miracle of the Rose" by Jean Genet and "Sons and Lovers" by D.H. Lawrence.
Wasting time, except when I'm sleeping.
Planning for and then installing my fourth art show in the lobby of a grand hotel. Yes it's true.
Doing nothing in particular - my specialty.
Handling my finances
Thinking, but I'm trying to quit
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Doing paperwork even tho' I hate it.

Listening. Insight. Investments. Life lessons (see the movie with Nick Nolte).

Advice - "Check the stove three times before going to bed. Always check to see that the iron is off before leaving the house, even if your clothes are always wrinkled."

Procrastinating AND putting things off for another day AND not being redundant.

Helping young adults find jobs with my GUARANTEED method, which I worked out by myself over a lifetime - for free. I love this.

Shooting a great score at golf. The key is having a pencil with an eraser on it.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This is a trick question. Answering it reveals infinitely more about your self-image than what other people really notice.

It's not my smile because I don't go around with a stupid grin on my face.

The really perceptive people notice that I often wear mis-matched socks. That's what happens when you dress in the dark.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: "Think and Grow Rich." I've been thinking all my life. Draw your own conclusions.

The following authors are worthy of my reading: Shakespeare, Kafka, Proust, Defoe, Genet, Dickens, Melville, Barth, Swift, Stevenson, Pope, Poe, Gogol, Bronte, Selby, Irving, Turgenev, Dostoevsky, Austen, Mishima, Goethe, Borges, Vargas Llosa, Wallace, Lawrence. There are very, very few modern authors I care to read but I would welcome recommendations

movies: Quentin Tarantino, Stanley Kubrick, Woody Allen, Meryl Streep. "Taxi Driver," "Full Metal Jacket," "Confessions of a Shopaholic," "Pulp Fiction," "The Devil Wears Prada," "The Godfather," "Silence of the Lambs," and "The Imitation Game."

shows: Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band; the Flying Burrito Brothers (I like the name and burritos too)

music: Classic Rock - colorful groups like Pink Floyd, Black Keys, Moody Blues, Deep Purple, Black Sabbath, New Riders of the Purple Sage, Cream, Strawberry Alarm Clock, Blues Brothers, and Leon Redbone.

food: If I were on Death Row to be executed in the morning, it sure wouldn't be tofu and lima beans. Gimme a cheeseburger, steak fries and a hot fudge sundae. Or a super burrito. Maybe pasta Bolognese but who wants pasta and baloney, unless the cheese is really good?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Why six?

Is that some kind of magic number?

- Shakespeare, Genet, Proust, Yeats, Eliot, Solzhenitsyn, Dickens and other great writers too numerous to mention.

- the chess games of Jose Raul Capablanca, Paul Morphy and Bobby Fischer

- golf (playing and watching)

- Russian history

- the JFK assassination

- the Cuban Missile Crisis

- Agent Orange

- depleted uranium

- the Holocaust

- World War II

- the Crusades

- Lenin and Stalin

- "Gimme Shelter" by the Rolling Stones

- Michelangelo, Picasso and Cezanne

- the Cold War

- hot coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where did the time go?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing nothing I'd feel guilty about in the morning - unfortunately.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People have trouble with this question because they associate the word "private" with something they are NOT willing to admit. In other words, by the very fact that it is private means I am not willing to admit it.

The question should be worded, "The most personal thing I am willing to admit publicly."

I got a D - in high school chemistry.

I guess I was studying the wrong kind of chemistry.
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and you are SMART NICE LIBERAL FREE RELAXED ARTISTIC and long past your "knight in shining armor" days. From reading so many profiles, I'm beginning to wonder. I've tried to write this profile and answer the questions so as to reflect who I really am and in my own way - with no apologies.

You have a sense of humor - a very rare quality in a woman - and LOL is not part of your written vocabulary.