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Last online
Today – 5:47am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Strictly monogamous
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Sarcastic, cynical, intelligent, soft-hearted, reliable, honest, funny, sensitive, artistic, literate, trustworthy and given to an overuse of adjectives.

I have written and published two novels and am over half-way through a third; 13 screenplays; one book of poetry.

I am a member of Mensa and scored in the 99th percentile on their IQ test.

I find that most people lack a sense of humor, which is fine with me because I hate to laugh.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working on my third novel and fantasizing about my Pulitzer Prize.
Reading books most people would find somniferous, like "Miracle of the Rose" by Jean Genet.
Wasting time, except when I'm sleeping.
Planning for and then installing my third art show in the lobby of a grand hotel. Yes it's true.
Doing nothing in particular - my specialty.
Handling other people's finances (honestly) and helping others with career planning and job hunting.
Thinking, but I'm trying to quit
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Doing paperwork even tho' I hate it.
Advice - "Check the stove three times before going to bed. Always check to see that the iron is not on before leaving the house, even if you haven't ironed a stitch in ten years."
Going from a clean kitchen to a dirty one in five minutes flat.
Procrastinating AND putting things off for another day AND not being redundant.
Helping others with no ulterior motive.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This is a trick question. Answering it reveals infinitely more about your self-image than what other people really notice.

It's not my smile because I don't go around with a stupid grin on my face.

The really perceptive people notice that I often wear mis-matched socks. That's what happens when you dress in the dark.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: Well it's sure not "Think and Grow Rich." I've been thinking all my life and I'm still not rich.

The following authors are worthy of my reading: Shakespeare, Kafka, Proust, Defoe, Genet, Dickens, Melville, Barth, Swift, Stevenson, Pope, Poe, Gogol, Bronte, Selby, Irving, Turgenev, Dostoevsky, Austen, Mishima, Goethe, Borges, Vargas Llosa, Wallace, Musil. There are very, very few modern authors I care to read but I would welcome recommendations

movies: Quentin Tarantino, Stanley Kubrick, Woody Allen, Meryl Streep. "Taxi Driver," "Full Metal Jacket," "Confessions of a Shopaholic," "The Devil Wears Prada," "The Godfather," "Silence of the Lambs," and "The Notebook."

shows: Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band. My dream is to attend a Paul McCartney concert.

music: Classic Rock - colorful groups like Pink Floyd, Black Keys, Moody Blues, Deep Purple, Black Sabbath, New Riders of the Purple Sage, Cream, Strawberry Alarm Clock, Blues Brothers, and Leon Redbone.

food: If I were on Death Row to be executed in the morning, it sure wouldn't be tofu and lima beans. Gimme a cheeseburger, steak fries and a hot fudge sundae. Or a super burrito. Maybe pasta Bolognese but who wants pasta and baloney, unless the cheese is really good?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Why six?

Is that some kind of magic number?

- Shakespeare, Genet, Proust, Yeats, Eliot, Solzhenitsyn, Dickens and other great writers too numerous to mention.

- the chess games of Jose Raul Capablanca, Paul Morphy and Bobby Fischer

- golf (playing and watching)

- Russian history

- the JFK assassination

- the Cuban Missile Crisis

- Agent Orange

- depleted uranium

- the Holocaust

- World War II

- the Crusades

- Lenin and Stalin

- "Gimme Shelter" by the Rolling Stones

- Michelangelo, Picasso and Cezanne

- the Cold War

- hot coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where did the time go?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing nothing I'd feel guilty about in the morning - unfortunately.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People have trouble with this question because they associate the word "private" with something they are NOT willing to admit, which is perfectly logical.

Actually it is a stupid question. Yes there is such a thing.

Unless you were a special person in my heart, it would be something bland like, "I got a D- in high school chemistry," although at the time I was mortified, but now I could care less.

I guess I was studying the wrong kind of chemistry.
You should message me if
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You love walks on the beach and have never left the state of Kansas.
You can travel to the stars in your easy chair.
Your kids are not "amazing."