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burntogold

26 / F / Bisexual / Single

Fairfax, Virginia

Her Details

Last Online
May 18
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m).
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and very serious about it
Sign
Cancer and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Student
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
I manage to make friends with Very opposite people. I seem to have something in common with everyone, but rarely do I have everything in common with someone.
On the Myers-Briggs test, I'm an ENFJ. I've studied a lot of religions, with about as much objectivity as I suppose is possible, and plan on getting a Masters in interfaith pastoral counseling. I like reading, sketching, and I have a strong love of music... but math and science were my strong suits in school, especially working with computers. I modify computer games, and may soon be a consulting partner in writing one from scratch... though I also do random stuff like knitting with a good marathon of Doctor Who or Star Trek. Part of the counseling thing is that I also know neuroscience, and whether this is a pro or a con, I've specialized over the years in the science side of human bonding, including parental and friendship levels.
What I’m doing with my life
Really just trying to figure out if I'm going to get the game job or have to temporarily do something else with my BA while figuring out grad school.
I’m really good at
Listening, and giving rare, but generally good advice. Everybody's got some kind of problem. I'm a good secret keeper, except when it comes to telling my own secrets amongst a few trusted friends. Then I'm hopeless.
The first things people usually notice about me
First impressions? I seem much more "bouncy" than I am... or at the very least flamboyant. I blend in about as well as an elephant in the middle of a bunch of mice. Not a reference to my weight - just my personality. I try not to be obnoxiously loud, but I've been told can come across that way depending on my mood.
Ironically, I'm normally a quiet person. My mother is a violinist, and I practically live by my music, though I only play djembe on occasion. I also read a lot more than the average person, generally working on 2-5 books at any given time, though I take awhile to "chew on" and finish them all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies... hm. I have quite a collection. Easier to list genres... a lot of sci-fi, comedy, and especially anything geeky / 80's. A few acton flicks on occasion, when I'm in the mood. When I watch vampire flicks, things die. None of this sparkly bs.
As for books... Snow Crash, Juniper, Wise Child, Out of the Silent Planet, Perelandra, Primary Inversion, Radiant Seas, the Ender series, The Fifth Sacred Thing, The Eddas, Ovid, various Greek Tragedies, books by Morton Kelsey, Monica Furlong, Elizabeth Johnson, Hannah Arendt, Thomas Merton... Favorite poet is Dickenson... Will also get refs to Orwell, Dickens, Steinbeck, Poe... Shakespeare plays I know best are Macbeth and Merchant of Venice.

Music? Wow. I can't get more ecclectic. I run the gamut from the Cure to NIN to Ani Defranco to Evanescence depending on my mood. Mostly gothic, industrial, and electronic. Love ThouShaltNot, The Cruxshadows, etc.

Foods vary. No longer vegetarian, but I can cook it well and would probably revert back over time if I dated one.
The six things I could never do without
my laptop; internet access; headphones and/or speakers for music (which I can, and do, store on my laptop for easy access, along with movies and e-books); a quiet place to pray/meditate; a good supply of yarn; and my closest friends, who are truly my family.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I have no fear of death. I don't know where my future is going between now and then, so I'm basically taking it one day at a time, and meeting each challange as it comes.
On a typical Friday night I am
On my computer, generally. Chatting or gaming.
I play a lot of FPS and RPG games, including things not historically "chick games." Equally good with CounterStrike and Call of Duty, and will probably hop on the tf2 bandwagon before long.

Also working on writing a book...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a secret theology blog only close friends and total strangers know about. I'm not out as bi to most people who know me. I have been four or five religions and technically currently consider myself two of them at once right now.

To be honest, I kind of forgot to delete this profile in 2007, got engaged, got married, and... Basically had heart broken in under a year. My inlaws never liked that I'm still an academic - and that was back when I was 22. Finally quasi updating this thing about four years and slow healing road later. I'd say my biggest rule is if there's a problem I have learned from this experience that communication Needs to happen, because watching someone fester in stony silence for months even when you apologize with food and lingerie isn't fun. (What did I do, you ask? I got addicted to Oblivion. More specifically, to modding it.) Also used to have strong OCD, but... that's definitely mellowed out, and only shows under stress these days. No kids from that, at least but... Meh.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 21–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You're bored, I guess? I don't know what my settings are on here, but I'm willing to take messages from men and women.... But am mostly looking for a woman right now, to tell the truth. I'm a four on the Kinsey scale, but usually seem to wind up with guys and would rather change that... though you fall for who you fall for. That said, don't let it dissuade you if you're a guy and think we'd connect, because that's the most important thing to me.

Seriously, though, I don't do casual sex, and I won't have sex with your girlfriend for your casual viewing amusement either.