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30 M Madison, WI

My Details

Last Online
Jul 23
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
My name is Stevie and I'm not a bro. I'm queer and genderqueer and trans* and still figuring it all out, but I'm ok with that. I was born a guy but I fall outside of the gender norm.

Pleasantly surprise me with a nice message, it'll make my day!

Sorry if I don't message you back for a while. Life gets in the way of life, and I'm currently in an open relationship with a wonderful person. I'm mostly looking for new friends, climbing partners, awesome people to have coffee, tea, and beers with, and ethical sluts to have safe and consensual queer sex and/or kinky with.

I'm a fan of reclaiming words, like slut.

I often use "bad" grammar and I bend words to their limits. Partially it's because of my family, partially it's because I think grammar is a class construct and can be really racist, and partially that is just how my brain works.
I really like rock climbing. I'm also afraid of heights, but I try not to let that stop me. (I have almost fallen off mountains a few times now.) I don't really like hanging out with really bro-y dudes though so sometimes I'm torn.

I hate hate hate hate watching sports on TV.

I love cooking and entertaining and fire pits and co-operative games and friendly gossiping and long walks.

I'm one of the world's worst gardeners, but that doesn't stop me from trying. I once grew the cutest little watermelon family. Last year I had too many tomatoes. Please take my tomatoes! It's sad to see them rot.

Smart people turn me on. Reading is sexy.

I like art, like, a lot. I occasionally make pretty things.

My ideal job would be making little thought-provoking, pretentious little computer games. Luckily, I get to do this a few times a year for fun.
What I’m doing with my life
Generally being a huge nerd.

Learning how to actually *write* -- my brain is better at dealing with math so this is a challenge for me.

Working two jobs to save up money to re-start my business.

Climbing, eating ice cream, playing Mario Kart, cooking, building Legos, playing touch rugby (even if I don't know the rules).

Coding. I love fiddling with things and modifying things and seeing how things work. *poke poke*
I’m really good at
Over-scheduling my social life, then hiding from everyone for a few days.

Cuddling. I'm the best cuddler ever.
The first things people usually notice about me
My long curly hair! Sometimes I really enjoy fucking with gender and I'll occasionally catch a surprised straight guy checking me out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's see, I'm really trying to trim this down.

I'm an Omnomnomivore. I enjoy vegetarian food and vegetarians, but I'm not one.

I love sushi, pizza, wine, coffee, tea.

Favorite authors:
Kurt Vonnegut
Terry Pratchett
David Sedaris
Neil Gaiman

Favorite childhood books (that I still read)
Where the Wild Things Are
Where the Red Fern Grows
The Hobbit
The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy

Favorite Music:
Kate Nash / Lily Allen / Just Jack / other Brit Pop

I used to be a punk rocker in high school.

When I need a new music recommendation I go on Okc and find people with high match percentages and find bands they like that I haven't heard of yet.

Favorite Movies/TV:
Stupid comedies like Big Lebowski and Zoolander
Almost anything by Miyazaki
Firefly / Serenity
Star Wars
Battlestar Galactica
Foreign films like Amélie and Lucía y el Sexo
So many chick flicks like Notting Hill
Wes Anderson stuff like Life Aquatic and the Grand Budapest Hotel
Orange is the New Black
The six things I could never do without
Hiking / mountaineering
Something to build
Queer friends
On a typical Friday night I am
Rock climbing and out for a drink with friends,
sometimes out dancing,
or just staying in with a shared bottle of wine and a good meal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a kinky service switch.

I *really* don't understand men.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You should not be homophobic, racist, sexist, slut-shaming, or generally a bad person. Please don't waste my time.

- You are queer friendly and/or enjoy talking about queer issues

- You don't mind if I take a while to respond

- You are interested in rock climbing, playing board games or computer games, general outdoor adventures

- You'd like to play :) you know, in the kinky sense. It does take me a bit to get to know someone. One-night stands aren't my thing