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30 Madison, WI Genderqueer, Transfeminine, Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming

Genderqueer, Transfeminine, Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–41
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 23
Queer, Bisexual
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly), C++ (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I want to drink deeply of the human experience, and so I do.

Hi, I'm Stevie! I'm lovely, queer, and trans*.

I'm a kinkster. I'm a subby little brat and a sadistic but nice service top. Message me if you have questions or want to know the services I provide.

Making life better for queer and trans* people is a high priority for me.

I'm looking for people
o.0 to rock climb, ice skate, hike, be active with
0.o who can teach me new and shiny things
o.0 who are attracted to my sexy androgyny
0.o who changing the world for the better in their own small ways
o.0 to play games with
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I recently quit my corporate job to pursue my dream of making crosswords and word searches and knitting software. I'm in startup mode now!

I'm rock climbing in the gym, going for blizzard hikes, and ice skating to survive the winter.

I want to start a multi-level marketing scheme that helps other people build multi-level marketing schemes. It's *not* a pyramid scheme, it's a scheme to help people build pyramids! Get in at the ground level, people!

I also help send books to prisoners. Come help!

I build community.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Do you like cats and/or video games? I made a game about a cat who needs to escape an island and/or rescue other cats.

#17 out of 1365 in a recent contest. *ahh* so I'm kinda a big deal now. The secret is the internet loves cats.

I've got a killer Wisconsin accent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Anything by Ayn Rand. Especially the Harry Potter series by her.

I read something every night.

I don't eat a lot of meat. I eat ALL of the sushi.

Trashy pop and queer folk music.

I don't watch much T.V. these days, but I love Battlestar Galactica, Orange is the New Black, PuppyCat.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee & Tea
Close physical contact
A pile of good books
Good gossip with friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.


How to entertain people.


Gender and sexuality.

How gender and sexuality are performed in our media and culture.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Today I went skiing, now I'm making fancy sandwiches for dinner, then I'm off to see one of my friend's show, after that I'll be at Plan B with really sexy pants and heels taking to people about safe, sane, and consensual kinky play.

- Cudding and watching a movie
- Running around town in fabulous heels
- Suspended upside-down in rope
- Drinking bourbon while updating my OKC profile on a treadmill desk. What could possibly go wrong?
- Out wherever the rugby women are with the fabulous Lily, if she ever gets back from Brazil
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
:) You are queer- and trans-welcoming.
:) You find me or my brain fuckworthy.
:) You want to send me Pusheen stickers on Facebook.
:) You want to play board, card, or video games.
:) You like stones and/or dicks.