I think this is all we get, and then we are done, so I want to do everything I can with the (maybe) fifty years I have before I am dirt. I think it is important to choose to be happy, even if everything is awful in that interim. Greeting the day with enthusiasm may not fix whatever is wrong, but it helps, somehow.
I am a social introvert. I love meeting new people, and almost any scene is an exciting puzzle to me. I'm loud, giddy, unfiltered, quick to engage in conversation, and capable of successfully navigating most any crowd.
All of the time "on" at work, and hosting or promoting kink events often leaves me over-obligated socially. I think my ideal partner could be present, without needing to be entertained. He could manage social situations in his own right, but then wouldn't be offended if "date night" was making dinner together, and then curling up to cuddle on the couch with our respective books, or a movie.
I respond very well to confident people. Know what makes you awesome. Smart is sexy, especially if you haven't lost your sense of play.
I know what I want--professionally, socially, and sexually--and everyday I try to get a little closer to my ideal. Know yourself. We are all works in progress, but I want to hear about your goals. Ambition is attractive.
I am a toucher and a cuddler. Physical contact is how I express and understand affection. If your intentions are romantic, but geography's limitations mean we'd only see each other a few times a month, I'm probably a false start. In my family, we tease, roughhouse, tickletorture... I appreciate that not everyone grew up with the same kind of demonstrative household, but I like that kind of silliness.
I have little patience for passive aggressive, or manipulative behavior. There isn't a coy bone in my body, and I thrive with friends and partners who value and reciprocally communicate as directly as I do. I won't expect you to read my mind, and if I want or need something, I'm not shy about asking for it.
No one enjoys conflict, but I have a hard time letting something stay unsaid. If you are conflict-adverse, or can't be bothered to actually discuss your feelings and actions, I'll have a hard time feeling comfortable or secure in a friendship, or more intimate scenario.
I love smart, TALL men. I think minds are sexy as hell, and that good conversation and flirtation are necessary foreplay.
I don't really have a "type" with women, but my relationships with women are sexualized friendships. When the physicality drifts to include sex, I stay emotionally invested as friends, but it doesn't usually translate past lust into something more romantic.
As a bisexual women on OKC, I get a lot of messages from couples looking for a third, and people in open relationships looking to date. I don't identify as polyamorous, and I am not interested in dating or fucking someone who already has a significant other. It may sound trite, but I need to feel like a priority, not an option, in my next relationship.