I don't believe in god. I will make fun of religion in front of you. I will inherently think less of you for needing to believe in a magically omnipotent and omniscient asshole who lets good people die young, children starve, and animals be abused, but has a bouncy castle in the sky, full of all your pious loved ones, just for you, when you die.
I know what I just said is inflammatory and reductive, but I really think religion (especially Christianity) is a dangerous cancer in our society, and I don't want my hypothetical future children (who I am not even sure I want) to be pressured into the construct. So sure, we can be friends if you're into a deity (I will think slightly less of your intelligence after I find out), but if there is any real potential dating/relationship wise, I'm not down with religion.
I think this is all we get, and then we are done, so I want to do everything I can with the maybe sixty or seventy years I have before I am dirt.
I am a learned extrovert. I love meeting new people, and almost any social scene is exciting to me. I'm loud, giddy, unfiltered, quick to engage in conversation, and capable of successfully navigating most any crowd.
I spend a lot of time "on" at work and hosting or promoting kink events, so I do value quiet time (when I can get it). A partner who can be present, without needing to be entertained, who likes to cuddle up on the couch with our respective books or a movie, is an important element of a relationship dynamic for me, and a necessary recharge from social obligations.
I respond very well to confident people. Know what makes you awesome. Smart is sexy, especially if you still have a playful nature. Honestly, know what you want--professionally, socially, and sexually. Ambition is attractive. If you vacillate or are indecisive, my type-A-assertiveness will grate.
I am a toucher and a cuddler. I try to be cognizant of other people's boundaries, but if I like you, I'm probably invading your personal bubble.
I have no patience for passive/aggressive, or manipulative behavior. There isn't a coy bone in my body, and I thrive with a partner who values and reciprocally communicates as directly as I do. I won't expect you to read my mind, and if I want/need something, I'm not shy about asking for it.
No one enjoys conflict, but I have a hard time letting something stay unsaid. If you are conflict-adverse, or can't be bothered to actually discuss your feelings/actions, I'll have a hard time feeling comfortable or secure in a friendship, or more intimate scenario.
I love smart, TALL men. I think minds are sexy as hell, and that good conversation and flirtation are necessary foreplay.
I don't really have a "type" with women, but my relationships with women are sexualized friendships. When the physicality drifts to include sex, I stay emotionally invested as friends, but it doesn't usually translate past lust into something more romantic.
As a bisexual women on OKC, I get a lot of messages from couples looking for a third, and people in open relationships looking to date. I don't actually identify as polyamorous, and I am not interested in dating someone who already has a significant other.
I have casually dated couple-friends in the past, and (if I found the right partner), I would not be opposed to a casual/friendly third for us, (potentially), but I am not looking to be said unicorn, or third, in someone else's relationship.