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butidigressagain

28 F San Antonio, TX

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:30pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Sales / Marketing
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Atheist. Bookworm. Hedonist. Sass-mouth. Instigator.

I am a learned extrovert. I love meeting new people, and almost any social scene is exciting to me. I'm loud, giddy, unfiltered, quick to engage in conversation, and capable of successfully navigating most any crowd.

I spend a lot of time "on" at work and hosting or promoting kink events, so I do value quiet time (when I can get it). A partner who can be present, without needing to be entertained, who likes to cuddle up on the couch with our respective books or a movie, is an important element of a relationship dynamic for me, and a necessary recharge from social obligations.

I respond very well to confident people. Know what makes you awesome. Smart is sexy, especially if you still have a playful nature. Honestly, know what you want--professionally, socially, and sexually. Ambition is attractive. If you vacillate or are indecisive, my type-A-assertiveness will grate.

I am a toucher and a cuddler. I try to be cognizant of other people's boundaries, but if I like you, I'm probably invading your personal bubble.

I have no patience for passive/aggressive, or manipulative behavior. There isn't a coy bone in my body, and I thrive with a partner who values and reciprocally communicates as directly as I do. I won't expect you to read my mind, and if I want/need something, I'm not shy about asking for it.

No one enjoys conflict, but I have a hard time letting something stay unsaid. If you are conflict-adverse, or can't be bothered to actually discuss your feelings/actions, I'll have a hard time feeling comfortable or secure in a friendship, or more intimate scenario.

I love smart, TALL men. I think minds are sexy as hell, and that good conversation and flirtation are necessary foreplay.

I don't really have a "type" with women, but my relationships with women are sexualized friendships. When the physicality drifts to include sex, I stay emotionally invested as friends, but it doesn't usually translate past lust into something more romantic.

As a bisexual women on OKC, I get a lot of messages from couples looking for a third, and people in open relationships looking to date. I don't actually identify as polyamorous, and I am not interested in dating someone who already has a significant other.

I have casually dated couple-friends in the past, and (if I found the right partner), I would not be opposed to a casual/friendly third for us, (potentially), but I am not looking to be said unicorn, or third, in someone else's relationship.
What I’m doing with my life
I actually sell cars for a living! Don't ask me where, it's creepy to be work stalked. Alternately, if you are sincerely in the market for a new or pre-owned car, I might be able to help!

For fun, I host kink-friendly events in San Antonio. I try for a mid-week happy hour and a Sunday brunch, monthly. If you're on Fetlife, look for the Deviant and Delicious events as I publish them, and come out to meet me, and plenty of other fun, kinky people!
I’m really good at
I am an instigator. If there's conversation to be had, company to enjoy, and wine to be consumed, I'm probably in the thick of it.

I am approachable and work hard to make the people in my vicinity a little bit more comfortable, a little more willing to join in the conversation. Hopefully, you'll find my lack of filter charming.

I greet life from a very happy and upbeat place. I'm not afraid of serious conversations or heavy stuff, but I tend to shine a little light, and err on the side of optimism.

I have a nimble mind. I may not be an authority on anything, but I can be trusted to understand concepts when they are presented, and to respond articulately.

Don't underestimate me and think that my cleavage relegates me to just being arm candy! Someone who isn't interested in my mind, won't hold my interest for very long.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorites are tough. I enjoy tv, movies, food, and music as much as the next gal, but I enjoy it because of who I'm experiencing it with.

Food-wise, I am on a bit of a spice kick. I grew up very meat and potatoes, and recently I've added Indian, Thai, Pho, and more varied Mexican to my menu--growing up on the east coast, what I thought was Mexican, simply wasn't.

Bring on the heat! I enjoy flavorful food, not so-extremely-spicy-hot there isn't any taste except the burn, but I love being surprised by complicated and multidimensional flavors! Sushi and teppanyaki are always tasty, too.

I can find something to like about most every kind of music, and I love being introduced to new bands. Make me a playlist. I'm nostalgic for the days when a mix-tape (cd, playlist) was a masterpiece.

I'm a voracious reader. Send me a recommendation for something new! I choose my brain candy from the fantasy/sci fi genre, but I'll read just about anything!!

I do have a few favorite quotes:

"Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward." --Kurt Vonnegut

"I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, 'If this isn't nice, I don't know what is.'" --Kurt Vonnegut

"Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often confuses one for the other, or assumes the greater the love, the greater the jealousy. In fact they are almost incompatible; both at once produce unbearable turmoil." --Robert Heinlein

"The word 'love' designates a subjective condition in which the welfare and happiness of another person are essential to one's own happiness." --Robert Heinlein

"We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path." ―Paulo Coelho

“I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles” ―Audrey Hepburn

“If there's a thing I've learned in my life it's to not be afraid of the responsibility that comes with caring for other people. What we do for love: those things endure. Even if the people you do them for don't” ―Cassandra Clare

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” ―Harvey Fierstein

“The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.” ―Laura Ingalls Wilder
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...mouths and hips and naughty bits, but really more about the pleasure and comfort that comes along with that kind of intimacy.

...Books I've read or should read.
On a typical Friday night I am
...recharging at home, preparing for a very long Saturday at the dealership. I have Wednesday and Sunday off most weeks, instead of a classic weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I really loathe when people see "kinky" or "hedonist" in my profile, and message to ask if I am a "Dom or sub." I find the reduction silly, and indicative of a lack of understanding of the complex nature of sexual relationships and power exchange. "Dom or sub?" is the most unimaginative approach to a complicated question. It says to me that you lack the creativity and finesse to play the way I like to play (and be played).

Being kinky and bisexual does not mean I will gladly fuck anyone (in fact, it makes it harder to get the chemistry right because there are more variables to consider).

I'm not interested in just sex, if there isn't intellectual and/or emotional potential, I have a hitachi.

Talk nerdy to me.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
...you have something to say. If you'd like to talk to me, maybe even make out with me, tell me something about yourself or ask me something about myself!!