Perhaps I should start with... I'm different. Yeah, yeah, everyone says it, but when I hang out with the "different kids", I'm STILL different from all of them. Everything that I do that makes me an outlier, I seem to do differently from all the other outliers. Every category I put below, I can put "I'm _____, but I _____ different." It's interesting, but can be lonely.
I'm a geek. No, really. Big one. Always have been. It's my primary identity. (I'm also a fangirl, too.) I seem to geek different, though, because most big geek tropes, I'm not really into. Monty Python? Meh. Lord of the Rings? Pass. Tabletop RPGs? Too much dice rolling, too little role playing. Terry Pratchett? Can't stand him, sorry. (I've tried. On multiple occasions.) Anime? Not really. The big eyes bother me. So what DO I like? I love Star Trek, but Voyager is my favorite series. (I <3 the Doctor.) I used to do the Star Wars thing and the Doctor Who (yes, old Who & new Who) thing, but that's pretty much passed by now. I love Scott Pilgrim... I like the books better than the movie (and having lived in Toronto off and on for 2 years, I sometimes used to say "it's Scott Pilgrim's world, I just live in it".) (Also, blame SP for my latent hipster fetish.) I used to be a techie by trade. I'm an Apple nerd, having used Windows & Linux for years previously. I enjoy video games, but my taste is varied. (Anything from Portal to SMB3 to SimCity. EarthBound is my favorite video game of all time.) I also like geeky card games like Chez Geek, Fluxx & Munchkin. It's probably easier to get to know me as a geek personally than for me to spell it out to you. But know that it's there and it's a HUGE part of who I am.
The other huge part of who I am revolves around my sexual identities. I'm a big sex geek (I'm trying to be a sexual educator by trade), so I have many labels that describe who I am. I'm a politically-bisexual queer. I was assigned female at birth (I've got innie parts), but I identify along the trans spectrum as genderfluid. My gender shifts and changes. I'm more of a dude than a chick, usually. (The way I put it to most straight guys is... wouldn't it be great if hanging out with your girlfriend was like hanging out with your guy friends? Well, that's what casual hanging out with me is like.) When I'm attracted to feminine people, it brings out the guy in me; when I'm attracted to masculine people, it brings out the girl in me. (I do queer so het, I know... it's weird. What can I say, I enjoy dichotomies.) I'm also kinky... I identify as a switch who dominates feminine people and submits to masculine people. (I'm NOT a masochist, however. When I submit, I want to play with power, not pain. Mmm... power play. I AM a sadist, however, so I don't mind hurting you, if you like it.) I'm very involved in the kink Scene, both online on FetLife and offline.
I used to be non-monogamous, but these days I think I'm mostly monoamorous. Note I didn't say monogamous. I'm really not interested in traditional monogamy. So much about it gives me the creeps. A modified monogamy or a feminist monogamy could work.
I'm primarily attracted to fat people (and not attracted to skinny people, especially skinny or buff men), to the point that it could easily be a sexual orientation for me...it's not something I can help. I'm also unapologetically fat myself, which is a part of my identity. These things are important for you to know and understand.
This isn't something that I would usually identify as, but it shapes so much of my life experiences that I suppose I should start identifying as it. I have deeply disabling psychiatric challenges. Because of this, I'm forced to live in poverty. (In some ways. In others, not at all. My life is full of dichotomies, and it's a bit fracturing to the soul.) So disabled and poor, while not things I would usually identify as, are things that deeply affect my life and therefore my view of the world. So, yes. I'm also disabled and poor.
I'm an extrovert and an urbanite. These are very important to me. I grew up isolated in rural Pennsylvania, so I have no idealistic dreams of country life. It's hard and it's lonely.
Politically, I'm on the left side of things, but I'm quite nuanced. I'm a lower-case-S-socialistic progressive liberal Democrat who cares enough about personal liberties & freedoms that I lean libertarian occasionally, but never about things like social programs. (To me, putting personal liberties and freedoms first IS liberal, but apparently a lot of liberals don't agree with this. *shrug*) I used to be one of those really politically active far-left liberals (I have the button collection to prove it. ;-) ), but then I burnt out bad and never really got completely back into it again. I agree with a number of radical liberal teachings, but I also think they go way too far at times. (Policing language? It's really not going to make the world a better place and instead will just have a chilling/silencing effect where they'll be afraid to say anything, and the idea of censorship from the left scares me as much as the idea of censorship from the right. Better to share left politics and let people come to their own conclusions on what words to use. Also better to work on the bigger issues at hand [people who want you dead/imprisoned] instead of chastising your own people for using the wrong words.) I've put before that I'm proud to shake my head at the Right, but saddened when I feel the need to do it at the Left, at my own people. I think that sums things up nicely. Frankly, though, I hate talking politics & I hate politics in general. I'm no good at figuring out when people are lying (which is the entire gist of politics) and caring so hard but not being able to make enough of a difference is really bad for my mental health, so I've had to step away. Also, I think a person's politics needs to be tempered by ethics/morals. (I'm not telling you WHICH ethics you need to have... that's up to you, but they need to be important to you and informing.) If you think that a person's politics can make them a bad person, or if you think they can replace ethics, we're probably not going to get along. (For example: radical politics talks about the uprising of the oppressed, but it never once states that it's not ok to hurt individuals within the oppressor on your way up. I think that's wrong & it's where ethics need to temper politics. Rise up w/o hurting anyone.)
Spiritually? Technically I'm an Agnostic Spiritual Humanist Unitarian Universalist. I lean atheist (or, maybe more accurately, I lean quite far away from the "woo" end of the spectrum... I don't "believe" in anything... I think it all has scientific explanations often times dealing with the way the brain works [or simply doesn't exist] but that shouldn't lessen the awesome). All that being said, I was raised Roman Catholic, and I still really enjoy its trappings, even if I don't believe its dogma. I have a deep seated need for familiar (that's important) religious ritual. My spiritual path has encompassed many religious at various times. I was big into liberal Judaism previously (I still like their "question everything" approach to religion & their idea of tikkun olam [only I apply it to all of humanity]); I kinda feel like I'm "called" (which is interesting considering I don't believe in anything that could do the "calling") to reconcile the messages from Roman Catholicism & my personal, far more liberal & agnostic beliefs; and recently Islam has caught my interest.
The older I get, the more tolerant I seem to be getting (and the more I see intolerance around me on all ends of the spectrum). And that's tolerant of EVERYONE, including those that I oppose politically. I believe everyone's entitled to their own religious beliefs, political beliefs, and other beliefs and no one else has a right to tell them different. You might be a far right winged Religious Right Christian... and that's fine for you to believe as you do. Just don't force your beliefs on me. Also, the older I get, the more I'm thinking the answers to life/happiness/whatever lie somewhere in the middle instead of the extremes. Which is an interesting realization for someone who's so naturally an outlier. I like getting older... I'm getting wiser which is making life easier. I'm totally looking forward to turning 30.
Ok, enough with the heavy stuff. What else am I into? Well, I'm a transit geek. I've ridden mass transit in over 20 different systems in 4 different countries. (That being said, I also enjoy driving. Go figure.) I already mentioned that I love cities, but it's worth stating again. Having lived in the St. James Town area of Toronto, I miss living in an extremely dense & extremely diverse urban downtown core with so many different ethnic neighborhoods so close. I also miss the urban nerd scene there... it was a city full of people who love cities & who love making them great via community action & politics. I enjoy singing (Alto) and swimming (casually, not laps), both of which I don't get enough opportunities to do anymore. I live to travel and to dress up in costumes, but I've never done both at the same time. I'm a food nerd/foodie, specifically for tea, wine and cheese. I love cuisine from around the world, and it seems I have a particular passion for Asian cuisines. (Thai, Korean, & Vietnamese top the list, with Indian & Japanese not far behind. Chinese I can take or leave.) I also love Ethiopian food (blame living in DC)... really any very savory or complex cuisine, I adore. I'm an adventurous eater... there's little on Bizarre Foods I wouldn't try. (And putting 2 of my loves together, I love travel food shows.) I've recently been teaching myself how to cook. I keep ovo-lacto vegetarian 1 day a week, for Meatfree Mondays. I like animals... I love dogs, hate cats, used to have pet rats and miss having goldfish.