Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Sorry about all this "I" speech. Hard to avoid sounding egotistical
in these min-life-stories. Went adventuring and saw the world
early--took some chances, had more fun than I can tell here--so
certain midlife yearnings aren't much of an issue for me. I'm an
ex-academic, a writer and poet who paid for part of my education
from work as a deck hand on Gulf tankers, where heavy labor shaped
my shoulders, back and arms. Sought my fortune first in consulting
and banking, now in marketing communications--which I enjoy. Sell
selling to business for my bread. I'm a free thinking, practicing
Unitarian--whatever that means. I read cookbooks for pleasure and
am adventurous about food. Manage to stay fit, though my cooking
habit keeps me working hard. I enjoy women for themselves and the
great relief of their company. Value kindness more than anything
and a tolerant, sympathetic imagination. Less inclined to hear
myself talk than to listen in the pleasure of real
conversation--which can be about anything. The surprises and
discoveries of living, what we read what we learn. What we wish we
knew better. Music--singing in a choir and playing (saxophones,
clarinets--jazz and whatever my friends and I make up) are vital,
dancing whenever I can. Steadfast in being at least serially
monogamous, I prefer tenderness and patience in love. It is after
all an art of discovery--endlessly interesting. I prefer, like
Blake, to kiss the joy as it flies, thereby to taste of paradise.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a word guy, make my living by them. But I also shape and
publish them for my pleasure and yours (I hope).
I’m really good at
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Crafting messages, as art, and as the stuff of commercial
continuance. Playing jazz and less definable genres of improvised
music on soprano saxophone and sister instruments.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height and heavy shoulders, the body of the linebacker and rugby
player I used to be.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Monolithos, by Jack Gilbert (especially the poem "Don Giovanni On
His Way To Hell") Unattainable Earth, by Czeslaw Milosc. The Bear,
by William Faulkner. Moby Dick by Herman Melville. Why Is Sex Fun,
by Jered Diamond. The list is too long.
Movies: The Treasure Of Sierra Madre, John Huston. Jules et Jim, by
Truffaut. Smiles of a Summer Night, by Ingemar Bergman. The Third
Man, by Carrol Reid. The 39 Steps by Alfred Hitchkock. La Strada,
by Frederico Fellini. La Dolce Vita, also by Fellini.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My saxophones (more than one but too f'kin' bad), Fake Books, my
son, my dog, my copper bottomed saucepan, the companionship of a
good woman (not necessarily in that order).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The fact remains that consciousness, at best, is slippery and
confounding, even when we adhere to a most rigorous investigation
of conscious experience itself. Disciplined, reasoned, scientific
questioning can only somewhat mitigate our more or less chronic
confusion. Its processes have, after all, enabled our civilization
to memorialize and protect many features of collective
understanding, and it is this science of ours in particular that
appears to give us as a community the most reliable purchase on the
world that we are likely to ever have. Even so, despite all its
refinements, science (especially, for example, when it plays at the
edges of the known (and knowable), amid for example the quantum
“perversity” of subatomic physics) is conducted—even using the
clearest lenses we have of mathematical order and exactitude—by
human beings whose minds remain awhirl and awash in the primitive
being of our animal selves. We put on, wherever we can, the
clearest glasses we can find to look into nature, then ask the best
questions we can about what it is we see. I’m reminded of Howard
Nemerov’s remark about the cleverness with which we design our
conceptual constructions, that in the end, no matter how hard we
try, our imaginary ponds continue to have real toads in them.
Indeed, I would argue that these critters feed and thrive on the
insects of randomness and wild uncertainty and they are often what
give us the greatest thrill to be had in getting to know the world
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Used to play regularly with a trio: myself on reeds (mainly soprano
sax, but also tenor sax, Bb and Alto Clarinet and flute) and would
again. Still try to put together sessions with my friends; managed
that last weekend. But late hours and the day job make it tough to
play very late on a Friday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I'm tired to death of Internet dating--not that it really is
that. Would love to find good humored trust was something that came
natural to people and honesty something freely offered. Too many
people are justifiably afraid; America's a lot less friendly place
than it used to be. Too many bigots, too many fools of the gods,
too much greed. Life is too beautiful and rare to squander on
vanity and anger. I'd rather play music and not talk. Rather make
love and laugh in the joy of it.
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