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caffeine_sketch

36 Winthrop, MA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 27–49
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jul 28
Orientation
Bisexual
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Status
Open relationship
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm going to mostly ignore the questions and use this space to tell you random stories.

In 2007, I read the book Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert. He says: Being effective — changing things, influencing things, making things happen — is one of the fundamental needs with which human brains seem to be naturally endowed, and much of our behavior from infancy onward is simply an expression of this penchant for control. Later, he continues: So once we've earned as much money as we can actually enjoy, we quit working and enjoy it, right? Wrong. People in wealthy countries generally work long and hard to earn more money than they can ever derive pleasure from. I was deeply moved by this, and embarked upon a strategy of spending little, saving much, and not adapting to increasing levels of materialism. I was retired for about a year, in 2014, and I loved the experience. In 2015 I decided I was uncomfortable with the uncertainty in my investments, so I hedged by working at a great company that helps people get jobs.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
When I bought my house, I tried to convince the seller to accept the down payment in $2 bills, and I nearly succeeded. I even had a bank lined up that would give me the $2s (BofA, Harvard Square, commercial services dept)

In 2004, my girlfriend got a car, and I took my first ever non-family road trip, to Nova Scotia. One of the most memorable events of the trip was driving around Truro in the fog, with no map, trying to find Murphy's Fish and Chips, stopping occasionally to wipe the windshield so we could see out. We eventually gave up and checked into a motel, where the clerk gave us a map showing where it was... but by then it was closed. Six years later, we went back to Truro, and I finally ate at Murphy's. It was the best fish and chips I ever had. Some say hunger is the best spice, but I say deferred gratification.

I like coffee. I like it so much that I built my own electronic coffee roaster. I have a graduated cylinder, two refractometers, three scales, six coffee grinders, and eight distinct kinds of brewing apparatus. I'm not too proud to go to Dunkin Donuts with you, though. I'll have the artificial cinnamon flavor, please.

I think assembling things from components is fun. I don't own a proper TV but I did watch it once after figuring out how to receive the signal on a spectrum analyzer. Mostly I prefer books.

I painted "fnord" all over the walls of my house in glow-in-the-dark paint. I had to special-order the glow in the dark paint from MSC in Pennsylvania. The guest room has a septagram over the bed. Several years later, in reference to this, I was given a blankie with "fnord" embroided on it. Awww!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Things other people have said to or about me:

"Well, you do have a cute ass! That isn't up for debate."
"I do think you're nice, and I do think you're a man, but when people say I should marry a nice man, I don't think you're what they mean."
"I trust him to have a pen." "Pen? I trust him to have an acetylene torch."
"Why are you the only one who can handle the truth?"
"Maybe you don't get along with other people very well because you have such strange views."
"Keep in mind that many people are fundamentally unlike you in many regards. And I mean that in the nicest way possible."
"What about you isn't strange?"
"you are a sick, sick bastard."
"I HATE YOU. i hate you and we're so doomed."
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am made entirely of normal matter. I am guaranteed to be 99.999% antimatter free or I will refund your money.

I used to have some sketches of myself as my profile photo, but they were involuntarily deleted. I am very cross about it, because now my username isn't a double entendre.

I have a tophat that I made out of carbon fiber. I use a pocket watch. I carry a tape measure. Sometimes people borrow it and then ask why I have it, and I say “to loan to people like you who left theirs at home, of course.”

I sketch with a 2mm drafting pencil. My proprioception is substandard. I keep a bottle of paint in my car to repair the scratches that I get trying to parallel park before they rust. I clicked the button called “style guide” expecting it to be a tutorial on how to write effective profile essays.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some significant nontechnical books:

Foucault's Pendulum, by Umberto Eco: One thinks that the reference is to Léon Foucault, but by the end of the book, one realizes it was about Michel Foucault all along.

The Black Swan, by Nassim Taleb. I was expecting a book about finance and economics with one idea and a lot of filler. Instead I got a terrifying book about epistemology and the anthropic principle.

Knowledge and Decisions, by Thomas Sowell. A very cogent take on incentives, information, and organizational structure. Cuts through the political doublethink.

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Here are some jokes I've either told or laughed at:

"I like my [member of desired gender] the way I like my coffee: tied up in a burlap sack and carried over the Andes on the back of a donkey."

(driving past the Perkins School for the Blind): "Why are the lights on?"

"What was the pirate's favorite number?" "I don't know, tell me." "132.4." "Why 132.4?" "It's arrrrrrrrbitrary!"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm attracted to confident people with passions and interests. I'm attracted to unusual and eccentric people. Brilliant is good, but criminally insane is a close second. I am interested in talking about almost any topic with the notable exceptions of identity politics and disconnected historical facts.

I live alone in a little house a couple blocks from the beach. Sometimes when I feel really wild and crazy, I go down to the beach and... read. I'm dating two people at the moment in a non-exclusive relationship.

I like people with ambitions and curiosity, and a proclivity for working hard. I do not have or want children.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Professionally, I've had a variety of technical vocations. My work is an important part of my life, and it's been a struggle. I spent too long on staff at a university before seeing it had no future, started two companies that floundered, then toiled for several years as an employee in the consumer internet space because they had rackfuls of money. After that I built up a team doing data warehousing and internet operations. In 2014 I took most of the year off to relax and work on my investments, and I'm now back to work in machine learning and modeling, in what is certainly the best job I've had so far.

Philosophically, I believe that the world is contained within the mind, and I simultaneously believe that the mind is contained within the world. It's a good thing my own tail is so darn TASTY! I agree with George Miller when he said "The crowning intellectual accomplishment of the brain is the real world."

Religiously, I am a simularian. We believe that the entire universe could be a simulation run by graduate students. If they lose funding, it will be shut off. Therefore, we should make interesting decisions so that their papers will be accepted for publication and their sponsor will continue the program.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dates I have had which were fun:

* Running around outside in a thunderstorm in July
* Driving through Nova Scotia in impenetrable fog
* Taking pictures of each other
* Walking around in the woods, then eating ice cream
* Solving differential equations over coffee
* Writing intentionally bad poetry and freshman-style essays
* Exploring the underside of a bridge
* Quantifying the flammability of rum-based drinks
* Having dinner and spending the evening in bed

Dates I have had which were not fun:

* Sitting in a coffee shop, trying to find something in common to talk about, and failing
* Sitting in someone's apartment, trying to find something in common to talk about, and failing
* Sitting in a bar, trying to find something in common to talk about, failing, and paying $12 per drink for the privilege
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't actually have an acetylene torch anymore. My current house is small, so I gave it to a friend who has a better work space. In exchange he also lets me come over and use his MIG welder.

All my friends agree that if I were a My Little Pony from the current series, I would be Pinkie Pie.
You should message me if
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I have a great life. I have an intellectually stimulating and lucrative job. I have a house that's paid for, two blocks from the beach. I'm dating one person that I've been with for 12 years, and another that I'd like to live with someday. So it's not at all obvious what I'm looking for here, not even to me.

I don't have very many friends. I'd count four close ones that I see regularly — and that includes the two people I'm dating and my mom. The others have either moved away or drifted apart, and I haven't replaced them. I'd like to have a few more. If you want to be more than friends, that works too. Realistically, I can't fit a third serious relationship into my life right now, because there just isn't enough time.

In addition to where I live, I spend significant amounts of time in Cambridge and Northampton.

Please write if you think we'd like each other. I'm not very active right now, so if you wait for me to write to you instead, you may be waiting a very long time.