(superuberupdate! He's here! Now I need to change my profile to reflect that I'm a mom. So: I'm a mom, have three dogs, am in an open relationship. Everything else is the same ;) I'm considering opening my life to more dating after my current boyfriend comes back from overseas in June, and I know what my free time is like. I'm most likely to date someone who doesn't mind if I have my child with me from time to time, and currently, my outside-of-existing-structure interests are far more women-oriented, I'm just finding women more attractive lately. I tend to be fluid that way. )
(uberupdate: We are expecting a kid in March. I am already tireder, and I'm sure will be moreso then. Thus, it's highly improbable that I will check into OKC more than once a week, or to start a new dating relationship until I know how my time will go.)
I'm middle-aged, busy, and happy.
I don't sit around emoting constantly, but I tend to feel profoundly. I can be very happy, and very sad. The balance is toward happiness. Yay!
I like honesty mixed with kindness. Bluntness with a mean edge annoys me, as does excessive indirect communication or passive aggression. Direct, honest, kind communication works beautifully for me.
I have rheumatoid arthritis. Mostly, that doesn't mean much. Sometimes it affects my ability to stay out late or to be very physically active. Sometimes I can go-go-go (within reason, I'm still not doing overnight backpacking trips), sometimes it's really best if I hang out quietly and pet the dogs and watch movies. Lately, what really sounds good to me, socially, is, "Hey, want to meet at the dog park?" or "I'm going to be two miles from you today, want to grab lunch?" My life is such that a lot of planning and scheduling is overwhelming, but I don't need caretaking.
I'm polyamorous. For me (and most people I know), polyamory means that my relationship is open and that everyone involved should be fine with honesty about it. "Don't ask, don't tell" is right out. I am involved with zem42 and caseyg.
I'm a geek, a nerd, and can be a dork. I like geography a lot.
I have a strong affinity for the world -- everything from subatomic particles to the cosmos, but focusing on the tangible earth in front of us -- and I want to know all about it, how it works, what we can do to protect it, its history and functions and how humans interact with it. This is as close to the core of my spirituality or religion as I can describe, though it's more complicated than that. I get *bouncy* about physical geography and biogeography, and human interaction with it. I identify as a spiritual humanist and as a non-dogmatic pagan agnostic. Both the invisible pink unicorn and the Flying Spaghetti Monster are in my imaginary pantheon. Rachel Carson, Roger Tory Petersen, John Muir, and Richard Feynman are among the saints. Brian Cox and Neil deGrasse Tyson have been beatified.
I have three dogs. They love running off-leash and love other dogs. Though I don't insist folks be dog lovers, if you don't have a strong tolerance for dogs, you'd be unhappy visiting my space, and you'd get bored with me. I don't treat them like children, but really, they're my kids, and important to me.
Edit June 2010:
I have been very busy lately, and bad at answering queries. I'll get back to that. I'm also more interested than I have been in the recent past in meeting new people, but still a little time/energy crimped.