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can0tila

33 F Lenoir, NC

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–100
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Sep 20
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Native American
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on university
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Okay), French (Okay), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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***Yea, I wrote a novel, but I hope you'll at least scan over it before contacting me. Especially the part just below here and at the very bottom about what I am and am not looking for. Enough with the half-naked dudes with no common interests messaging me already!***

Disclaimer: I'm not actually trying to come off as too terribly grouchy or defensive in my profile, I'm just tired of getting such wonderfully interesting and in depth messages as "ur hot". C'mon, people! Read a little, put a little effort in. I'd love to make some friends, but if you can't be bothered to actually read my profile or compose more than one and a half words, I'm just going to delete your message.

PLEASE READ!
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A DATE! I am looking for FRIENDS ONLY! The only thing comments about my looks makes me think is that you don't care about being friends and only want to hook up. If you want to become friends - great! Read through my profile and start a conversation with me about things we have in common.

I am engaged to a great guy who takes good care of me, especially since developing some pretty severe health problems. We live together, and are faithful, but we don't know anyone in this area, so I am looking for FRIENDS, and ONLY friends. Yes, this information is up to date. I promise if we ever break up I will update my relationship status here, so you don't have to message me with "I was just hoping..." ;) FRIENDS FRIENDS FRIENDS ONLY! Chat buddies are good too (regular chat, NOT sex chat), as I am near constantly online.
What I’m doing with my life
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I was recently diagnosed with Osteoarthritis on top of the Fibromyalgia, Peripheral Neuropathy, and other random health issues I deal with. This means I have the body of a woman half a century older than me. On a good day I like to go out to thrift stores and yard sales. I love hiking, especially in the mountains, but my body can rarely handle this anymore. Most days I'm lucky if I can even get out to water my garden. I really miss going to live shows (concerts). I used to frequent local venues on a weekly basis, now I'm lucky if I can get out a few times a year *sigh*

Currently, I am a Web Technologies student. I love programming and web design (though I'm more of a coder than an artist). I'll be graduating in 2015, but I'll be graduating with nearly twice as many credits as I actually need to graduate. I've switched majors nearly a dozen times because I just love to learn! I've studied everything from Humanities to Forensic (crime scene) Photography to Computer & Web Programming, and a ton of stuff in between. I'll probably start working on another degree after I complete the current one. There are too many interesting things to learn!

I also make various crafty things (sewing, beading, bath & body product crafting - I even have a weaving loom). I've also been focusing on some traditional Native American crafts lately (weaving, jewelry-making, and bath, body, and some healthcare products), via technique and recipes passed down through the generations of my tribe (the Pee Dee). I sell some items online and such (though not as often as I should as I give them away to friends or hoard them).

That's about the extent of my exciting world, though I do hope to add more outdoor adventures now that we're living around the mountains.

My fiance and I just moved to the Lenoir area. We don't know anyone here and would love to make some friends. I don't get out much because of the Fibro, but when I do I don't have anyone to get out with! I'd love to change this ASAP!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Obsessing over German industrial music. Baking cookies. Finding the best yard sales and thrift stores. Computer stuff. Couponing!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know? I guess my glasses?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: For the past few years, it's been mostly Stephen King and the Dune series. I browse some crafty books and books about computers and programming I pick up at thrift stores and yard sales occasionally. I don’t have as much concentration for reading since i've been sick though. I love reading, and miss it greatly, but migraines, lightheadedness, lack of concentration - these are some of the issues I deal with regularly that are in direct conflict to my enjoyment of reading. :(

Movies: As previously mentioned, I have a collection of over 500 movies (DVDs & VHSs because I rock the 25 cent tapes I find at yard sales ;)... that and I have no life and a compulsion for buying movies...) My favorite movie of all time is Dellamorte Dellamore (Cemetery Man) – ironic twists of fate, a tragic love story, and zombies; what more could you ask for? (Did I mention the hot Italian chic?) I love horror movies – the gorier and more creative the better. Also, most sci-fi is great too. I have an issue with some aliens – like the little gray dudes with big eyes (or the Asgard in Stargate, if you’re dorky enough to get that reference) - and ET. Creepy. But I love the Alien movies. Generally anything with people being horribly slaughtered piques my interest. That and Hello Kitty or Pokemon.

Shows: Being Human, The Big Bang Theory, Criminal Minds, Dexter, Doctor Who, Face Off, Game of Thrones, Grimm, Haven, Hell On Wheels, Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Merlin, Metalocalypse, The Office, Sanctuary, The Simpsons, Six Feet Under, Stargate (ALL of them), Star Trek (also ALL of them), Supernatural, Torchwood, Vikings, The Walking Dead, and lots of random documentaries and docu-dramas on Netflix (I haven't had regular or cable TV in over a year now - everything I watch is on the Roku).

Music: As I said above, I have a thing for German music - especially German industrial and/or medieval and/or folk and/or metal. I used to have a rather small list of the bands I really obsess over, but I'm bored and decided to expand it to include some of the non-German bands I listen to regularly. The short of it is this though: I am completely infatuated with German industrial-inspired metal type bands. I grew up a metalhead though (all kinds of metal, but especially "Scandinavian" types) and keep it in my regular rotation. I do like some other random music as well - old blues, classic rock, 90s alternative. It's just the loud, angry, (and particularly) German stuff that gets me through the day (or night). So, onward to the "slightly more extensive list": Amon Amarth, And One, Angstfabrikk, At The Gates, Behemoth, Belphegor, Corvus Corax, Cradle of Filth, Cultus Ferox, Dark Funeral, Das Ich, Die Apokalyptischen Reiter, Die Krupps, Dimmu Borgir, Einstürzende Neubauten, Eisbrecher, En Esch, Finntroll, Hecate Enthroned, In Extremo, KMFDM, The Kovenant, Leonard Cohen, Letzte Instanz, Lord of the Lost, Megaherz, Ministry, Nick Cave, Nile, ohGr, Oomph!, Pig, Rammstein, Satyricon, Skinny Puppy, Slayer, Stahlhammer, Tanzwut, Tom Waits, Unheilig, Vogelfrey, Voltaire, Wolfheart, Wolfsheim

Food: I am a vegetarian for personal reason. I don't preach about it, and I am even pretty good at cooking non-vegetarian meals (or so I've been told). That said, I love me some Thai food (especially Pad Thai Tofu and spring rolls), cheese (though I'm picky about what that cheese goes on), and raw fruits and veggies. I'm actually pretty picky about the cooked veggies I eat. I have a lot of food sensitivities that limit my diet more than I'd like, but usually as long as it's fresh and not hot or spicy, I'll enjoy it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could never come up with a list like this. You'd be amazed at the sacrifices you could make just to keep breathing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The past and the future. And how I can pass the now more quickly.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Boring.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I should probably note a few things here:
A) I am not religious at all. If you're super hardcore about your religion, don't bother to message me. It's not that I have anything against religious people, but I am never going to be religious and I get enough of the questions/debates/"worried about your soul" stuff from my mom. I am a secular activist who tends to upset religious folks with my blunt honesty and fight against religion in our government.

B) I am not a bad girl. I look gothy and I like weird and dark stuff, but I don't want to be your dominatrix. I don't want to cyber or have phone sex with you. I don't want to hang out with you so you can show all your buddies the freaky chick you met. Please, if this is what you're looking for, just go away.

C) I use cannabis, both recreationally and medicinally (cannabis is AMAZING for Fibromyalgia!) This is something I've done for over 10 years now and will continue to do for as long as it's feasible. I don't drink, and I don't like any other drugs (except my prescriptions), but I quite enjoy smoking a bowl before bed. Plus it's great when doing my crafts or house cleaning. ;) I don't mind if you don't smoke, but if you're anti-toking, please don't message me. I am a (medical) marijuana activist, and am fighting every day for legalization (both in my state and nationally). This, like my religious views, isn't going to change.
You should message me if
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You have heard of and actually enjoyed: And One, Das Ich, Einstürzende Neubauten, Eisbrecher, In Extremo, Letzte Instanz, Megaherz, Melotron, Oomph!, Rammstein, Tanzwut/Coruvs Corax

You are Blixa Bargeld. Or Raymond Watts. Or Nivek Ogre. ;D

And okay, if you see me stalking your profile and think I'm interesting, go ahead and drop me a line. I rarely initiate contact, but I am known to browse for people with common interests (especially when it's after 3am and I cannot sleep). I usually do a search for one of the bands I love and poke around the profiles that come up (because if you like cool music, you're likely to be a cool person). I'd love to make some more friends with common interests, but I'm more likely to look at your profile, think "that person is awesome!", then think "but I'm not that exciting, so I'd just be wasting their time". I'm not self deprecating really, just boring. :P

Oh, and I'm open to male or female friends. I'm conflicted on whether to mark my orientation as "bisexual" again or not. Technically I am, but I'm not looking for dates (of either gender), I've been exclusively in monogamous relationships with males for over a decade now, and marking "bisexual" previously ended up recruiting ladies with the wrong idea about what I'm looking for. Again, I just want FRIENDS. I usually get along better with males, but I wouldn't mind some more female friends. I'm not the type of girl to chat about shoe shopping and trendy makeup tips though. :P