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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:30am
Heteroflexible, Questioning, Bisexual
Black, White, Other
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Y'all, if you don't want to read the walls of text I've produced (and that would be reasonable of you), all you need to know is that I'm a huge dork who's really into archaeology (I'm working on a Master's in it), clothing, visual art, music, deep but not necessarily intense conversations, and fucking FOOD (!!!). In addition to romance, sex, and all that, I'm looking for friends to hit the town with. I just moved here, and I want to explore the city. I just cut all of my hair off, and am currently channeling my inner En Vogue/Lisa Bonet. I no longer have the hair in my profile pictures.

I burn pizza to perfection. I fill awkward silences with more awkward silence. Uhhhmmmmm. I've... got jokes for days? Honestly, I love making terrible jokes and puns. I've been told I missed my calling as a jingle writer.

I identify as heteroflexible, and up until about 6 months ago, identified as polyamorous. Now I feel more monogamish than anything. Over the last couple of years, my priority has shifted from casual dating to long-term relationships. Ultimately, I'd like to have a family, but I'm in no rush to get to that point, and casual dating is still fun.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I JUST STARTED GRAD SCHOOL OH MY GOD. I'm studying the Archaeology of Clothing. I'm still narrowing down my thesis topic, but the idea is to study attitudes towards the clothing of the working class to see how they have shaped our attitudes towards clothing in the modern world. I'm also very interested in clothing reconstruction, and have a secret dream of becoming a historical costuming consultant for movies, TV shows, and plays.

Mostly I've been reading research articles, panicking, and then writing essays about them that I hope aren't total garbage. In my spare time, I've been sewing curtains, drawing, reading, and exploring my neighborhood. I've also been getting back into working out lately, and it feels really great. Consequently, I've been staring at my butt in the mirror a lot, and thinking to myself, is that my butt? Is that... MY.. butt?!?! and then mentally high-fiving myself.

Um, I sing in a band (smile-frowns, raises eyebrows, frown-frowns, feels weird for sharing this knowledge with the general public). But we're, like, on hiatus or something? Learning bass is on my to-do list, but it's not as much of a priority as I want it to be.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knitting, sewing, singing, thinking of things to do on a limb and on a dime, writing, telling people how their ass looks in a pair of jeans, cooking.

Listening to people talk about the things that are important to them.

Driving in the exact opposite direction that I'm supposed to go, while the gas tank's on empty. Yell-cursing about how I think there's a parking spot but really it's just ANOTHER GODDAMNED GARAGE GOD DAMN IT! And then feeling really stupid about it.

Going for walks, throwing my clothes all over my room to find a single matching sock.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'd wager a bet that it's either my boobs, glasses, or sense of humor, depending on how tall you are and what direction your eyes have a tendency to wander.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I read a lot of fashion illustration and patternmaking books as reference, but 1984 by George Orwell is the constant. I could read it a hundred times over and find something new each time. I knoowwwwwwwwww you don't have to tell me. I read it for the first time in high school, too.

I also like Joseph Campbell. Kyballion is neat. I'm slowly dipping my toes into philosophy and kaballah, so anything related to those subjects is pretty rad. Anything dealing with dystopia, astronomy, horror or mythology. I love a good fiction novel. This does not include anything on Oprah's hot list. Also textbooks. #textbooks4lyfe To all you cuties/smarties/arties/farties: of course I like Bukowski and Vonnegut. I'm currently reading Guns, Germs, and Steel, and after that I have The Windup Bird Chronicle qued up.

Movies: HORROR MOVIES. The Last Unicorn, documentaries. Kitschy conspiracy theory documentaries are the best. Dude, Mad Max was off the chain balls-good. Total Recall. When someone starts a story off by asking, "have you ever seen (classic movie that almost everyone has seen)," and clearly are assuming that you have because their entire story hinges on having seen the movie, I'm the person that goes "no, but I've heard of it." I don't wanna be that person, so I am way down for watching movies in the name of not making it difficult for other people to tell me stories.

Shows: The usual suspects - Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, The Simpsons, Adventure Time, Rick and Morty, 30 Rock, Broad City. The same thing goes for TV shows as it does for movies. 2015 may be the year that I cave and get a Netflix subscription.


If you love this song, then I love you (hint: It's Chris Cohen).

I tend to like the classics like Fleetwood Mac, Simon and Garfunkel, Jackie Wilson, Motown (especially Marvin Gaye), Prince, etc. But I've been listening to Tortoise, Kate Bush, Lianne La Havas, Feist, Yellow Magic Orchestra and Frank Zappa, Höyry-kone, King Crimson, Little Dragon, Siouxsie Sioux, and early 90s intellectual hip hop a lot lately. I've also been visiting/revisiting music from the early 2000's like Max Tundra, The Knife, LCD Sound System, etc. The new Hiatus Kaiyote album blew me away. I love music so freaking much, and always want to hear new stuff.

Food: ME WANT FOOOOOODDD (please tell me you get that reference)! Anything, as long as there is no mayonnaise in it. Thai food is my favorite. I like vegan food and stews. Really, I just love food. Cheese, please!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Some sort of visual aid because I can only see about a foot and a half in front of my face, intellectually stimulating conversation, music and instruments to basically finger barf all over (because I suck at playing them), my books, some sort of fabric or fiber to manipulate, something to draw or write on.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Numbers. Neat color combinations. Social cues and how to properly read them. What it means to be sex positive. Structuralism. Marxism. Isms. My role as a multiracial biological female in our society, third-wave feminism and how I kinda don't feel like I have a place in it as a black/multiracial female, intersectional feminism. The black community (is it fair to say that every black person is a member of the same community? Is the black comunity just a social construct? Is any community just a social construct? Was Durkheim right all along?). Classism. Religion. How to maintain healthy relationships. How to repurpose my clothes.

How capitalism aids isolationism and why we pride ourselves on building walls against those who are not like us, even if they simply do not have the same recreational habits that we do. Expanding my sexual horizons (look out! Here come the dick pics!) and sexual exploration (THIS IS NOT YOUR CUE TO SEND ME UNSOLICITED SEX REQUESTS, KTNX PLEASE STOP OR I WILL REPORT YOU FOR HARASSING ME).

Finding a balance between being funny and obnoxious. How to show my loved ones that I care about them. Whether or not my enthusiasm is annoying or overbearing. Wondering why I ask so many questions and never have any answers. Food. Squats and lunges. Why kind of stretches I should do to make my back stop hurting. Naps.

Why so many dudes on here own top hats. Seriously, am I missing something? Was there an event that I should have attended? If I wear a top hat, will I just look like a female version of Slash? Can i try on your top hat? Please don't actually have a top hat. Top hat.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I own Basic Instict 2. I watched it and I didn't hate it.

Also, I'm a sucker for affection. Not only does it feel good, but it makes me feel confident that my partner is as into me as I am into them.

Finally, I won't respond to you if all you say is "hi."
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Mainly, if you want a romantic (eh, hell, mostly romantic) or platonic adventure partner who's a total blank slate when it comes to knowing what to do for fun in this town. You want to work on creative projects together because that's sexiii af.

Especially message me if you can flip the switch between very heavy subjects and humorous subjects without missing a beat, find a certain kind of joy in wordplay as a form of self expression, or are easily amused.

If you'd like to discuss the following: the correlation between spirituality, art, and science. Gnosis, the fact that the more you know the lonelier you feel, making clothes, anthropology (specifically archaeology!), the overwhelming feeling wanting to break out of your skin and unlock all the secrets of the universe, of symbolism, new music, tea, and the idea that art is life, and life is art. And then stop talking about those things and just kick it.