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28 F Sacramento, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 30
Black, White, Other
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I burn pizza to perfection. I fill awkward silences with more awkward silence. Uhhhmmmmm.

I think that sexuality, religion, and the psyche are all flowing, ever-changing things, and that they are pretty much one in the same. I spend a great deal of my time thinking about this, and about how I am ever-changing. I often feel genderless and raceless, or I guess just forget that I have a race or a gender until other people remind me. Or I look in a mirror (In my best Foghorn Leghorn voice: That's a joke, son, ya hear?). I identify as being bisexual but hate being confined to any type of label (labels make it easier to control thinking by taking all of the work out of using your brain).

I've just recently gone back to school for cultural anthropology, and plan on applying for my master's and or PhD in the next year or so. I also tutor, and work a desk job minimally to increase the amount of actual living I can do. I just recently quit a retail job I hated to have more free time, and I am once again a fairly happy person. In exchange for my happiness and free time, I've accepted poverty. But it's totally cool. I've learned to love living with very little material possessions, and have gotten pretty good at cooking quality food on the cheap.

So, now that I've told you that I hate being labeled, I'll tell you that I identify as a relationship anarchist or as polyamorous. Here's a link to realtionship anarchy (!)
I live with my boyfriend (for lack of a better word), and he's pretty tight. I like having lots of freedom to be independent and build relationships with lots of types of people.
What I’m doing with my life
Um, I don't know. Stop dadding out, OkCupid. I make my own decisions!

Just kiddingggggggg I actually have a solid career plan for the first time in my life. I'm studying cultural anthropology and plan on getting a PhD, researching, and teaching. I'm still trying to figure out exactly what area I want to study, but I'm leaning towards linguistics or archeology.

Now that I have tons of spare time, I've gotten back to things that I enjoy doing such as napping, buying clothes from the thrift store and tailoring them to fit my body, making 3-D objects, hiking, going to the river, and having long, intense, funny conversations with my friends.
I’m really good at
Knitting, sewing, singing, thinking of things to do on a limb and on a dime, writing, telling people how their ass looks in a pair of jeans, cooking. Listening to people talk about the things that are important to them. Driving in the exact opposite direction that I'm supposed to go, while the gas tank's on empty. Going for walks, throwing my clothes all over my room to find a single matching sock.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I am not white, if I had to guess. Then I'd wager a bet that it's either my boobs, glasses, or sense of humor, depending on how tall you are and what direction your eyes have a tendency to wander.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I read a lot of fashion illustration and patternmaking books as reference, but 1984 by George Orwell is the constant. I could read it a hundred times over and find something new each time. I also like Joseph Campbell. Anything dealing with dystopia, astronomy, horror or mythology. I love a good fiction novel. This does not include anything on Oprah's hot list.

I am very much so diving into some sort of spiritual/philosophical abyss that may or may not occasionally require hallucinogenics, and a lot of the books I'm reading correspond to this experience. I'm reading my Anthropology of Religion, Witchcraft and

Movies: Horror movies, Star Wars. The Lego Movie. That is some dark shit. The Last Unicorn, documentaries.

Shows: Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones. Fuck Orange is the New Black. That show is incredibly naive, patronizing, and dangerously unrealistic. That is the most privileged, out of touch show I've ever seen.

Music: I tend to like the classics like Fleetwood Mac, Heart, Blondie, Simon and Garfunkel, Motown (especially Marvin Gaye), Prince, etc.
But I've been listening to Tortoise, Kate Bush, Zu and Frank Zappa, Höyry-kone, King Crimson a lot lately.

Food: Food. Anything, as long as there is no mayonnaise in it. Thai food is my favorite. I like vegan food and stews. Really, I just love food. Cheese, please!
The six things I could never do without
Some sort of visual aid, intellectually stimulating conversation, music and instruments, my books, some sort of fabric or fiber to manipulate, something to draw or write on.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones. Numbers. Neat color combinations. Gender relations. Classism. Wondering why I ask so many questions and never have any answers. Food. Squats and lunges. Naps.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I own Basic Instict 2. I watched it and I didn't hate it. Also, it kind of weirds me out when people don't answer the question about their offspring.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 26–35
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
you don't have a Transformers tattoo. You don't do poi. You wear clothes that actually fit you. You don't wear tiny glasses.

If you'd like to discuss the following: equal rights, the correlation between spirituality and science, gnosis, the fact that the more you know the lonelier you feel, and the overwhelming feeling wanting to break out of your skin and unlock all the secrets of the universe, of symbolism, new music, tea, and the idea that art is life, and life is art.

If you are messaging me for a one night stand, at least have the decency to attempt a polite conversation with me first.

Especially message me if you're not necessarily into monogamy, and polyamory or open relationships appeal to you.