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candicepants

29 San Francisco, CA Woman, Non-binary, Other

Woman, Non-binary, Other

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 26–35
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 4:14pm
Orientation
Heteroflexible, Questioning, Bisexual
Ethnicity
Black, White, Other
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Student
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Y'all, if you don't want to read the wall of text I've produced (and that would be reasonable of you), all you need to know is that I'm a huge dork, and that in addition to romance, sex, and all that, I'm looking for activity partners to hit the town with. I just moved here for school, and the itch to explore is strong! If you want to skip to the most Private Thing I'm Willing to Admit and the You Should Message Me If sections, now would be the time.

I burn pizza to perfection. I fill awkward silences with more awkward silence. Uhhhmmmmm. I've... got jokes for days?

I think that sexuality, religion, and the psyche are all flowing, ever-changing things, and that they are pretty much one in the same. I spend a great deal of my time thinking about this, and about how I am ever-changing. I often feel genderless and raceless, or I guess just forget that I have a race or a gender until other people remind me. Or I look in a mirror (In my best Foghorn Leghorn voice: That's a joke, son, ya hear?).

I identify as being bisexual but am still exploring exactly what that means for me. Most of the time, I hate being confined to sexual labels because I am still figuring myself out, and because so much of my life experience falls outside of labels that are traditionally assigned within our society. Labels feel a little impersonal and dehumanizing to me. I'd rather just exist and be comfortable with my sexuality. But I digress...

So, now that I've told you that I don't like to be labeled, I'm gonna label I gave myself(!) I used to identify as polyamorous up until about six months ago. As I've gotten older and my views and relationship experiences have changed, I've begun to lean more towards calling myself monogamish. But it's also all about context, and very complicated.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I JUST STARTED GRAD SCHOOL OH MY GOD. I'm studying the Archaeology of Clothing, and I just moved to San Francisco a couple of weeks ago. No I am not Indiana Jones and I am not five. Yes those are very funny joke the first 80,000 times I hear them.

In my spare time, I've been making curtains, painting my room, drawing, reading, and exploring my neighborhood. I'm a pretty curious person with a strong sense of adventure, which translates into loving to be out in the world and exploring.

Um, I sing in a band.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knitting, sewing, singing, thinking of things to do on a limb and on a dime, writing, telling people how their ass looks in a pair of jeans, cooking.

Listening to people talk about the things that are important to them.

Driving in the exact opposite direction that I'm supposed to go, while the gas tank's on empty. Yell-cursing about how I think there's a parking spot but really it's just ANOTHER GODDAMNED GARAGE GOD DAMN IT! And then feeling really stupid about it.

Going for walks, throwing my clothes all over my room to find a single matching sock.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'd wager a bet that it's either my boobs, glasses, or sense of humor, depending on how tall you are and what direction your eyes have a tendency to wander.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I read a lot of fashion illustration and patternmaking books as reference, but 1984 by George Orwell is the constant. I could read it a hundred times over and find something new each time. I knoowwwwwwwwww you don't have to tell me.

I also like Joseph Campbell. Kyballion is neat. I'm slowly dipping my toes into philosophy and kaballah, so anything related to those subjects is pretty rad. Anything dealing with dystopia, astronomy, horror or mythology. I love a good fiction novel. This does not include anything on Oprah's hot list. Also textbooks. #textbooks4lyfe To all you cuties/smarties/arties/farties: of course I like Bukowski and Vonnegut. I'm currently reading Guns, Germs, and Steel, and after that I have The Windup Bird Chronicle qued up.

Movies: HORROR MOVIES, Star Wars. The Lego Movie. The Last Unicorn, documentaries. Kitschy conspiracy theory documentaries are the best. Dude, Mad Max was off the chain balls-good. Total Recall. I could use some schooling on movies though tbh.

Shows: The usual suspects - Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, The Simpsons, Adventure Time, Rick and Morty, 30 Rock. I'm kinda hazy when it comes to TV, because I never think to watch it. I don't know, school me on some rad shows!

Music: I am basic please help me! I tend to like the classics like Fleetwood Mac, Simon and Garfunkel, Jackie Wilson, Motown (especially Marvin Gaye), Prince, etc.
But I've been listening to Tortoise, Kate Bush, Yellow Magic Orchestra and Frank Zappa, Höyry-kone, King Crimson, Chris Cohen, Siouxsie Sioux, and early 90s intellectual hip hop a lot lately. I've also been visiting/revisiting music from the early 2000's like Max Tundra, The Knife, LCD Sound System, etc. The new Hiatus Kaiyote album blew me away.

Food: ME WANT FOOOOOODDD (please tell me you get that reference)! Anything, as long as there is no mayonnaise in it. Thai food is my favorite. I like vegan food and stews. Really, I just love food. Cheese, please!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Some sort of visual aid, intellectually stimulating conversation, music and instruments, my books, some sort of fabric or fiber to manipulate, something to draw or write on.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones. Numbers. Neat color combinations. My role as a multiracial biological female in our society, third-wave feminism, and the black community. Classism. Religion. How capitalism aids isolationism and why we pride ourselves on building walls against those who are not like us, even if they simply do not have the same recreational habits that we do. Expanding my sexual horizons (look out! here come the dick pics!) Finding a balance between being funny and obnoxious. How to show my loved ones that I care about them. Wondering why I ask so many questions and never have any answers. Food. Squats and lunges. Naps.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
happy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I own Basic Instict 2. I watched it and I didn't hate it.

I'm kind of repulsed by steampunk and Burning Man. I tried to like them, I really did! I'M SORRY IF THAT MAKES ME A JUDGMENTAL PRICK, OKAY????!!!!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Mainly, if you want a romantic or platonic adventure partner who's a total blank slate when it comes to knowing what to do for fun in this town.

You don't put too much clout on the "Personality" segment of OKC profiles, because you understand that people are dynamic or are maybe just too lazy to update that shit all the time???

If you'd like to discuss the following: intersectional feminism, interracial politics, the correlation between spirituality, art, and science, gnosis, the fact that the more you know the lonelier you feel, making clothes, anthropology (specifically archaeology!), the overwhelming feeling wanting to break out of your skin and unlock all the secrets of the universe, of symbolism, new music, tea, and the idea that art is life, and life is art.

Especially message me if you're not necessarily into monogamy, or you are into monogamy but think we would be pretty awesome friends. Or you're not into monogamy and think we would be awesome friends. Or you're into monogamy. Or you don't care about labeling relationships. Or whatever. None of that made sense. Message me if you're open-minded.

Especially ESPECIALLY message me if you can flip the switch between very heavy and humorous subjects without missing a beat, find a certain kind of joy in wordplay as a form of self expression, or are amused by the most droll or awkward of things.