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caringandsmart

38 M Toronto, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 2
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other
Sign
Aquarius
Education
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
after a few really amazing long-term loving relationships, I'm now really jaded and down on the whole idea of perfect monogamous forever love. marriage seems to involve a measure of ownership and possession that sparks jealousy and emotional dependence, and I'm done with that for now.

seeing a few people at the moment, and growing loving friendships with them that currently involve sex. if they start getting possessive or jealous or weird they will likely change into loving friendships that don't have sex. as much as I enjoy sex I also enjoy being self-directed at the moment, and don't need any weird drama in my life.

I am also a naturally loving and caring person, and I value my friendships highly. I'm jaded about traditional approaches to relationships, not about my ability to love.

The things that are most important to me in the world are music, learning, and building caring and stable relationships with smart, thoughtful, and caring people.

I just went back to school to study education, and still working in the film industry to pay bills and satisfy my film-addiction doing props and set construction. I'm a drummer and dj, I like records and have a pretty good collection, and music is the most important and consistent thing in my life.

I've also spent a lot of time thinking about gender, as I don't fit a lot of the traditional ways that people are male. I won't expect you to fit into all of the traditional ways people are female. I don't like gender stereotypes, and I don't like gender double-standards. There's no post-gender world, yet, but I'm working towards that in my personal life. If you want a man who will always open the door for you and pay for everything every time we go out, I'm not for you, because I think that's bullshit. If women are equally capable of doing everything a man can do in the workplace, (and they are), why can't they open a door?

I also want it to become ok for men to not be assholes and still be respected. Some women encourage bad behaviour from men around them at the same time as they complain about not being able to meet a good one. If you want to date a sensitive man who will listen to you and understand your complex feelings, that's me, but I expect the same in return - sometimes I get emotional about life and I'm gonna cry about it, and if that offends your sensibility of what a real man should be, then I'm not the one for you. I've run into this a few times over the past year and it really bugs me. I'm a strong person and I know who I am, but life is intense and sometimes upsetting. I'm trying to live a real, honest life, and embracing and experiencing all of its complexities, joys and tragedies. I'm working on getting the balance right, and I'm not going to let society's ideas of male-ness get in my way. But I'm happy to rough you up in the bedroom, if you like that sort of thing.

I'm a good guy, I can't help but be honest. If you are for real, we could talk. And I guess succinct is not a strength of mine ...
What I’m doing with my life
kingston in the winters and toronto in the summers, gotta work in film to support my student habit. I like learning ... and education is the best cuz you learn and think about everything.
I like riding my bike in the summer and skating in the winter. skating's the best ever.
I’m really good at
drumming, dj'ing, carpentry and fixing things, photography, writing, talking, discussing, teaching, being a friend, seeing and enjoying beauty
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
music ... all the good stuff.
funk/soul/good disco/hiphop/hardcore/punk/rock/idm/folk/alt country/classic country/psych
I know that's a weird list, but it's overwhelming to list a bunch of bands right now. come over and listen to my records with me and we can talk about it.
My record collection is really good and I love it!
The six things I could never do without
drums. records. radio, but only community radio and cbc 1, 2 and 90.3. nature time. my good friends. my bike.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
life. people. music and its effect on us. education and research. love and relationships.
On a typical Friday night I am
out with friends at a bar or seeing music. or having one or a few people over for dinner ... I love to cook for people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Apparently I'm not very private.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
you're interesting, preferably artistic in some way (but I have always had a thing for math geeks)
you're honest with yourself and me about who you are and what you want, and you think about that.
you care deeply for those lovely people who cross your path.
you realize that change is the only constant in life.