seeing a few people at the moment, and growing loving friendships with them that currently involve sex. if they start getting possessive or jealous or weird they will likely change into loving friendships that don't have sex. as much as I enjoy sex I also enjoy being self-directed at the moment, and don't need any weird drama in my life.
I am also a naturally loving and caring person, and I value my friendships highly. I'm jaded about traditional approaches to relationships, not about my ability to love.
The things that are most important to me in the world are music, learning, and building caring and stable relationships with smart, thoughtful, and caring people.
I just went back to school to study education, and still working in the film industry to pay bills and satisfy my film-addiction doing props and set construction. I'm a drummer and dj, I like records and have a pretty good collection, and music is the most important and consistent thing in my life.
I've also spent a lot of time thinking about gender, as I don't fit a lot of the traditional ways that people are male. I won't expect you to fit into all of the traditional ways people are female. I don't like gender stereotypes, and I don't like gender double-standards. There's no post-gender world, yet, but I'm working towards that in my personal life. If you want a man who will always open the door for you and pay for everything every time we go out, I'm not for you, because I think that's bullshit. If women are equally capable of doing everything a man can do in the workplace, (and they are), why can't they open a door?
I also want it to become ok for men to not be assholes and still be respected. Some women encourage bad behaviour from men around them at the same time as they complain about not being able to meet a good one. If you want to date a sensitive man who will listen to you and understand your complex feelings, that's me, but I expect the same in return - sometimes I get emotional about life and I'm gonna cry about it, and if that offends your sensibility of what a real man should be, then I'm not the one for you. I've run into this a few times over the past year and it really bugs me. I'm a strong person and I know who I am, but life is intense and sometimes upsetting. I'm trying to live a real, honest life, and embracing and experiencing all of its complexities, joys and tragedies. I'm working on getting the balance right, and I'm not going to let society's ideas of male-ness get in my way. But I'm happy to rough you up in the bedroom, if you like that sort of thing.
I'm a good guy, I can't help but be honest. If you are for real, we could talk. And I guess succinct is not a strength of mine ...