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39 F Washington, DC

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 38–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Today – 5:52am
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Dislikes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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George Eliot said, “What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other?” Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do one thing every day that scares you.” Taken together, those statements pretty much sum up my approach to living.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Roller derby is an important part of my life. In addition to skating, I lift weights a couple times a week for cross training and run when I can squeeze it in. I plan to compete in my first powerlifting meet sometime this year. When the weather's nice, I like hiking and being outside.

I trained to be a poet, teacher, social scientist and nonprofit manager. I have a day job that is none of those vocations but combines little pieces of all four in ways that challenge and fulfill me most of the time.

I write a blog about the intersection of physical and emotional health. My three-part philosophy is: 1) Fear and shame are terrible motivators. 2) Honesty and emotional risk are the tools for overcoming fear and shame. 3) Love is the most powerful motivator of all.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the big picture while keeping track of the details. Solving problems. Balancing the creative and the analytical, the idealistic and the pragmatic, the abstract and the concrete.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably the red lipstick and knee socks if it's bout day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books are extremely important to me, and I tend to read mostly contemporary and classic fiction. I like indie and classic rock, bluegrass, folk. I don't watch tv or movies very often, mostly because I don't have time and would rather read or write when I do have free time.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Journal, sneakers, skates, books, laptop, coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why life can't be more like a 19th century novel.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably at roller derby practice or resting up for Saturday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Between skating and cross training, I don't have a lot of free time. Sometimes in the early stages of dating, guys think my crowded schedule means I'm not interested or that I'm emotionally unavailable. If I'm not interested, I'll just tell you that. I don't believe in wasting anybody's time being coy. I will make room in my life for the right person, and I'm worth the scheduling challenges. I might not be available to lie on the couch with you every night and watch tv, but when we are together you'll have my full attention.

The match questions: I answered most of them five years ago in the months before and after my divorce, and I think I've evolved a bit since then. Some of the edges are softer. Also, this isn't private, but it's worth saying...although I've never had a strong desire to have children, I am fine with dating someone who already has them.
You should message me if
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You're physically active, intellectually curious and emotionally healthy. You are interested in long term commitment but not interested in settling into a life of boring complacency. You want to teach me how to jam skate.