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carmeleditor

56 M Carmel-by-the-Sea, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 1:50pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Politics / Government
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Okay), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm an 8-to-5 working, Big Sur-hiking, hybrid-driving, tree-hugging, organic-food eating, hyphen-using, bleeding-heart liberal who loves being the dad of a sixteen-year-old daughter (most of the time). Life is good but -- you know how it is -- would be that much more wonderful with a special someone to share it with. We are creatures of love.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying life in the sweet spot: living in beautiful Carmel, an easy walk to the beach, working at a job I enjoy that allows me to live in comfort, appreciating the next couple of years with my daughter before she is launched... life is good. The ancient Greeks thought that famous adventurer Ulysses -- another man in his fifties -- represented the height of manhood, and now I can see their point. Turns out all the experiences I've had up till now -- serving in the Army, living in Germany and Italy, hitchhiking around Europe, college in Ohio, a brief stint studying to be a Zen Buddhist priest, graduate school at UC Berkeley, teaching college, staying at home with my daughter, helping out at her school and now at our church, working as an editor -- they've all added up to something. I've grown, and my understanding of life is richer and deeper for it. Not only that, but all this time I've been learning how to love, and have gotten better and better at it -- better at loving the people in my life. My understanding of love is richer and deeper, too. I'm looking forward to lots more adventures. But also, more and more, I feel like our main purpose for being here is to take care of one another, and so I try to find ways to be of service that fit with my time and capacities. I'm feeling less egotistical, more ephemeral.
I’m really good at
I'm pretty good at making people laugh. Once I get to know a person, I'm pretty empathetic. I'm athletic, and love to run on the beach, get out in the woods or chaparral on a hike, or out on the water in a canoe or a kayak. I feel a deep connection to the natural world, and have been known to transport stranded earthworms to safety after a storm. I'm good at teaching. I used to teach college part-time; I miss it. I love movies, and can recall scenes from movies I have seen much better than I can recall scenes from own life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told that I have very blue eyes, and that people notice that about me. People say I have a nice voice. I think people often notice that I'm a little awkward socially around them, until I get to know them better. I can find small talk exhausting. (Why make small talk when we can make large talk?) I was a philosophy major in college and studied political theory in graduate school; I've been known to overintellectualize.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Curling up with a good book is one of life's pleasures. I'm just finishing the Rabbit trilogy, by John Updike, and starting The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives, by Leonard Mlodinow (highly recommend it!). The closest thing I have to a bible is Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind, by Shunryu Suzuki. I enjoy reading lots of different books -- whatever catches my fancy. I love to prowl around used book stores. I'm a surfer of news sites, and use breaks during the work day to check out the news online: New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Slate, Salon, Politico, Climate Progress... a couple of dozen sites that have great reporting and interesting columns. The Internet is an amazing thing. Still, there's nothing like a lazy morning with the Sunday New York Times.

In movies, I gravitate toward foreign films, independent films, small films.

I like most kinds of music. Lately I've been listening to Bastille, Fun, Death Cab for Cutie...

I like Thai food, Mexican, sushi... mostly Asian vegetarian dishes. I don't eat meat, though it's delicious. I suppose I'm a pescatarian -- I eat salmon a couple of times a month -- and try to buy local and organically grown foods whenever I can.
The six things I could never do without
(1) I was a stay-at-home dad, and these days my relationship with my daughter is the most important thing in my life. (2) To borrow a phrase from Thomas Jefferson, I could not live without books. (3) My relationships with friends, parents and siblings is a big part of my life. (4) It is hard for me to imagine living a satisfying life without meaningful work. I'm lucky to have a good job, where I get to use (some of) my talents. (5) Living in a place that is abundant in natural beauty is something I am thankful for every day. I can't imagine not being able to get out in nature to hike or kayak or canoe. (6) And last, but not least, life is much richer, more meaningful and beautiful when it is shared with a partner.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I used to spend a lot of time thinking about the meaning of life, but nowadays I think much more about how my daughter is doing, and how I'm doing as her dad. (I think we're both doing pretty well, knock on wood.) I also think much more about how to live a good life. I think about the crazy politics of this country a lot, but am somewhat heartened when I imagine that the politics of most other democracies probably look pretty crazy to the folks in those countries, too. And the Daily Show helps me laugh it off. So, to sum up: thinking about parenting, how to live a good life, and politics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Okay, it's a typical Friday night as I write this. I made dinner for my daughter and me and after dinner we strolled around town and ended up down at the beach. Now we're back home and feeling cozy as she reads a book and I type away. On daughterless Fridays I'm often out to dinner with a friend and then to a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am really bad with names -- I mean embarrassingly bad. I think it's because when I first meet somebody I am focused so much on making conversation that I don't pay enough attention to their name. Fortunately, this fault of mine has the benefit that it never bothers me if someone forgets my name.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...you think we have something in common, and feel there might be some attraction. I take seriously that line from Pascal: "The heart has reasons that reason knows not of."