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56 M Carmel-by-the-Sea, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 12
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an 8-to-5 working, Big Sur-hiking, Carmel Beach-running, hybrid-driving, tree-hugging, organic-food eating, hyphen-using, bleeding-heart liberal who loves being the dad of a sixteen-year-old daughter (most of the time). Life is good but -- you know how it is -- would be that much more wonderful with a special someone to share it with. We are creatures of love.
What I’m doing with my life
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Enjoying life in the sweet spot: living in beautiful Carmel, an easy walk to the beach, working at a job I enjoy that allows me to live in comfort, appreciating the next couple of years with my daughter before she is off to college... life is good.

Learning how to love, and getting better and better at it -- better at loving the people in my life.

Understanding myself better, deepening my understanding of life.

Appreciating the little things.

Plotting my next adventure.

Finding ways to be of service that fit with my time and capacities.

Feeling less egotistical, more ephemeral.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty good at making people laugh. Once I get to know a person, I'm pretty empathetic. I'm athletic, and love to run on the beach, get out in the woods or chaparral on a hike, or out on the water in a canoe or a kayak. I feel a deep connection to the natural world, and have been known to transport stranded earthworms to safety after a storm. I'm good at teaching. I used to teach college part-time; I miss it. I love movies, and can recall scenes from movies I have seen much better than I can recall scenes from own life.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told that I have very blue eyes, and that people notice that about me. People say I have a nice voice. I think people often notice that I'm a little awkward socially around them, until I get to know them better. I can find small talk exhausting. (Why make small talk when we can make large talk?) I was a philosophy major in college and studied political theory in graduate school; I've been known to overintellectualize.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Curling up with a good book is one of life's pleasures. I'm just finishing the Rabbit trilogy, by John Updike, and starting The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives, by Leonard Mlodinow (highly recommend it!). The closest thing I have to a bible is Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind, by Shunryu Suzuki. I enjoy reading lots of different books -- whatever catches my fancy. I love to prowl around used book stores. I'm a surfer of news sites, and use breaks during the work day to check out the news online: New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Slate, Salon, Politico, Climate Progress... a couple of dozen sites that have great reporting and interesting columns. The Internet is an amazing thing. Still, there's nothing like a lazy morning with the Sunday New York Times.

In movies, I gravitate toward foreign films, independent films, small films. Recently saw "Her" and "The Grand Budapest Hotel" -- as it happens, films by two of my favorite directors these days.

I like most kinds of music. Lately I've been listening to Bastille, Fun, Death Cab for Cutie...

I like Thai food, Mexican, sushi... mostly Asian vegetarian dishes. I don't eat meat, though it's delicious. I suppose I'm a pescatarian -- I eat salmon a couple of times a month -- and try to buy local and organically grown foods whenever I can.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my daughter
my Buddhist practice
loving relationships
being in nature
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I used to spend a lot of time thinking about the meaning of life, but nowadays I think much more about how my daughter is doing, and how I'm doing as her dad. (I think we're both doing pretty well, knock on wood.) I also think much more about how to live a good life. I think about the crazy politics of this country a lot, but am somewhat heartened when I imagine that the politics of most other democracies probably look pretty crazy to the folks in those countries, too. And the Daily Show helps me laugh it off. I think about the wellbeing of this small planet, and how to live lightly on the earth. So, to sum up: parenting, politics, the planet, and how to live a good life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Okay, it's a typical Friday night as I write this. I made dinner for my daughter and me and after dinner we strolled around town and ended up down at the beach. Now we're back home and feeling cozy as she reads a book and I type away. On daughterless Fridays I'm often out to dinner with a friend and then to a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am really bad with names -- I mean embarrassingly bad. I think it's because when I first meet somebody I am focused so much on making conversation that I don't pay enough attention to their name. Fortunately, this fault of mine has the benefit that it never bothers me if someone forgets my name.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. think we have something in common, and feel there might be some attraction. I take seriously that line from Pascal: "The heart has reasons that reason knows not of."