Trust,honesty and loyalty is a must. Hidden agenda's and hang-ups. Well, check them at the door. If you are looking for a meal ticket. They are out there. I am not that guy. Meaning I can't provide the entire package it has to be a effort of 2 people coming together. I live on a fixed income and have kids still in school. They come 1st, however there is room for that special person. I ran a good race for 30 years. I guess if it was perfect, then I wouldn't be here. Done with the rat race. In a relationship two people have to work together to be one. When that stops, the relationship fails. So you have to be yoked and stay yoked as equals. I don't have anything left to prove to anyone...other than proving to myself I can enjoy life. If someone special comes along then that is a bonus. Having school age kids and a ex there is drama. If you say there isn't then you are lying. I am learning to deal with it...it isn't a perfect world. Did the family man for 30 years, so this life change is a little different, as I have no close family other than my kids and most close friends are out of state. If you have a over needy family...pass me by, as I draw a line of responsibility at mom, dad and kids, not aunts, uncles brothers and sisters...been there done that. Disaster.
Bottom-line...Trust, honesty and loyalty. I want to eventually have long term relationship with my best friend...Seems that process is still in place since I last dated in the 70's-80's some different things now to consider, since most have kids now. Though I can tell you. Had more fun hanging out than in a date structure. Appearance, is a important factor. Not looking for a barbie doll 10. However Faith, hygiene, heavy drinking, drugs, HWP is a matter I will not compromise on.
Side Note: The sanctity of marriage has been destroyed. Not saying there are not reasons for it and why it happens. It is just been made to easy. While at this time I have no plans to remarry. If it were to happen in today's world. There would be a prenuptial.
Fyi: Not the hunter fisherman type. Not that I can't do it. Just find little enjoyment in it. Camping, hiking, trips and photography is more my style. Nature is a connect for me. Bucket list, Ballroom dancing, learning to swim, east coast and England/Scotland trip, cruise, missionary trip. I don't like to fly ( one to many trips from hell). Once upon a time. I could sing fairly well (Cash Blood).
If you have made it this far in my profile. Some would say. What a Ass. On the contrary...I just know what I won't do again. At 56. I am to old for games, selfishness or anymore tire tracks. While faith is important. There is no where in the Bible that requires you not to have fun.