Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hey all! I'm new to this online dating thing. And I must say a bit
skeptical. How do I self-summarize?
Thoughtful, intelligent, caring, etc, etc. Oh, and sarcastic :)
Really, I'm not good at blowing my own horn but I am honest so ask
After being on this site for a few months (and only once thinking
of deleting my profile) I've realized that I should write a bit
more, so here goes:
I was born and raised in Kansas by a dad who was born and raised in
Brooklyn, so I think I'm a mix of a loud, large east coast
personality and simple Midwestern values. I can be intense but am
also very laid back. I've been in Austin for 5 years. I moved here
mostly because I realized I had been in Kansas my whole life and
that seemed ridiculous. I had a job I didn't enjoy and needed to
change my surroundings. I love everything about Austin except the
traffic and the 110 degree summers. I work in retail as a manager
so my schedules a bit wonky at times. I love the music scene but I
find myself going out less and less, partly because it has changed
and partly because I have. But if a band I love is in town I'll be
there. As far as relationships, I'm a serial monogamist. I guess
what that means to me is that I only date one woman at a time,
whether its a FWB situation or an actual relationship. I've had one
of each since I've been in Austin, neither of which worked out
obviously but I made two very good friends. I'm friends with all my
ex's but one (only 5 total) and thats how I like it to be. Start as
friends, and if it ends, end as friends. I've never cheated on
anyone and I'm not about to start. My relationships have typically
lasted 2-3 years. I really have no expectations going into this,
and I can't really say I know what (or who) I'm looking for.
Usually I meet a woman and it clicks, which is why I'm skeptical of
online dating. I think I'm better in person than on paper, and I'm
assuming you are too, but of course that isn't exactly how this
always works. My resume has not always got me an interview, but
I've got every job I've ever interviewed for. And that's what this
kind of feels like. If you haven't figured it out by now -- I'm
honest to a fault and ok with that.
I'm currently working on getting back in better shape physically.
Its hard to believe but I played college football until injuries
got the better of me. Then a few years ago I was in a car wreck and
had to have my hip reconstructed. So running and biking are out. I
have a stretching routine which is probably like simple yoga so I'd
like to learn some more. And when its not too hot I love to hike.
These things are much more fun with a partner. I gained some weight
when I was laid up and am determined to lose it by the end of the
year. Not looking for a gym buddy but a walking/hiking partner
would be nice.
I love travel, which to me means road trips. I've never had a
passport but I have seen a lot of this country. I'd love to travel
the world, I've simply never been financially able to. Which is
fine, there's still lots of the US I've yet to see. This year I
went to DC and back with a swing through N. Carolina. This fall
it's NM to Colorado.
Winter update....New Mexico was amazing. I camped for 3 nights at a
state park called Sugarite Canyon. I want to go back, so my spring
road trip might be NM to Arizona to southern Utah and my favorite
place in the world, Zion Canyon National Park.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it. Besides work, I hang with my friends. On my own I read a
lot and also write. And I play music. I love road trips and when I
get time off I like to hit the road.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, communicating, having fun, being cool :) I'm comfortable
in most any social situation.
I'm a pretty good writer but I don't do it often enough. I'm going
to remedy that.
Keeping a beat. I can play drums ok, but I'm a terrible dancer.
I've never understood that about myself.
Leading a team. I'm a natural leader. I think its because I'm
honest and direct.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My friendly manner, my eyes, my voice. Oh yeah, that I have dreads.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books- too many to list. Orwell, not 1984 and Animal Farm but his
nonfiction like Homage to Catalonia. Went to Spain to cover the
Spanish Civil War and ended up joining the war (on the side of the
Anarchists) . I love Hunter S. Thompson and have since Johnny Dep
was on 21 Jump Street. (Meaning, I hate that it took Johnny Depp
playing him for this amazing writer to get his due. I discovered
him in college and his political essays changed my life.) It's
shameful but I just last year read Great Gatsby. I read that Hunter
once sat down and typed out that entire book because he wanted to
know what it felt like to write a great book. Oh yeah, I'm supposed
to be talking about myself.....I read a lot. Lately I've been
obsessed with reading the sailing adventures of Thor Heyerdahl. He
built wooden and reed rafts and sailed them across oceans. He tried
to prove that humans have been sailing all over the world for
thousands of years. In other words, Christopher Columbus didn't
Movies - Smart comedies like Big Lebowski (I consider it smart --
the dialogue is genius). Documentaries. Goofy stuff. I love John
Candy in almost everything he did, Uncle Buck is a favorite. I'll
watch almost anything if I'm with good company.
Music - Rolling Stones, Black Crows, The Who, Hanks, Sr. and III,
Neil Young, Johny Cash. Love rock n roll and anything real.
Food - Not much I don't like. Indian food and BBQ top the list. I
am allergic to shellfish, and not much of a sushi fan. I will only
eat seafood if I am near the sea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, friends, books, music, dogs, travel.
Oh, and food, clothing, shelter. I've actually done without the
first 6 things at different times in my life. Except friends, I've
always had good friends.
After reading many other profiles I realize how boring my answer to
this question is. How about 6 things I could live without but
simply don't want to:
Caffeine, peanut butter, sex, Bourbon, hiking, vehicle. Again, I've
lived without all of these at certain times in my life. Except
peanut butter. I always have peanut butter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People-- what motivates them, what drives them to make
choices.....maybe this is why I write. And why I studied
anthropology in college.
My next trip. I enjoy planning a road trip almost as much as going
Sometimes I'm thinking about what I'm thinking about. I'm mostly
present and in the moment so I'm usually thinking about whatever I
happen to be doing. Otherwise it could be anything from my laundry
that needs to be done to the nature of the universe and our place
in it. I'm inquisitive by nature so I think a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playin music with my friends.....or at home watching a movie with
my dog :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm still looking for that special lady who will blow me away.
Thought I'd given up but here I am doing something I never thought
I'd do - filling out an online dating questionnaire.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to. Unless I'm offended, which is next to impossible, I'll
write back. At least once anyway. Seems like the polite thing to do
I think I've determined that the kind of women I'm interested in
would be the ones who wouldn't be afraid to break the ice and write
me first. I've been surprised how somewhat traditional online
dating is in that way. I'm not saying I wont write first, if your
profile strikes me in one way or another I have no problem telling
you so. I'm just very impressed by women who are direct and
confident enough to write me first.
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