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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
6' 3" (1.91m)
Body Type
Dropped out of Post grad
Has dogs
My self-summary
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Hey all! I'm new to this online dating thing. And I must say a bit skeptical. How do I self-summarize?
Thoughtful, intelligent, caring, etc, etc. Oh, and sarcastic :) Really, I'm not good at blowing my own horn but I am honest so ask me anything.

After being on this site for a few months (and only once thinking of deleting my profile) I've realized that I should write a bit more, so here goes:

I was born and raised in Kansas by a dad who was born and raised in Brooklyn, so I think I'm a mix of a loud, large east coast personality and simple Midwestern values. I can be intense but am also very laid back. I've been in Austin for 5 years. I moved here mostly because I realized I had been in Kansas my whole life and that seemed ridiculous. I had a job I didn't enjoy and needed to change my surroundings. I love everything about Austin except the traffic and the 110 degree summers. I work in retail as a manager so my schedules a bit wonky at times. I love the music scene but I find myself going out less and less, partly because it has changed and partly because I have. But if a band I love is in town I'll be there. As far as relationships, I'm a serial monogamist. I guess what that means to me is that I only date one woman at a time, whether its a FWB situation or an actual relationship. I've had one of each since I've been in Austin, neither of which worked out obviously but I made two very good friends. I'm friends with all my ex's but one (only 5 total) and thats how I like it to be. Start as friends, and if it ends, end as friends. I've never cheated on anyone and I'm not about to start. My relationships have typically lasted 2-3 years. I really have no expectations going into this, and I can't really say I know what (or who) I'm looking for. Usually I meet a woman and it clicks, which is why I'm skeptical of online dating. I think I'm better in person than on paper, and I'm assuming you are too, but of course that isn't exactly how this always works. My resume has not always got me an interview, but I've got every job I've ever interviewed for. And that's what this kind of feels like. If you haven't figured it out by now -- I'm honest to a fault and ok with that.

I'm currently working on getting back in better shape physically. Its hard to believe but I played college football until injuries got the better of me. Then a few years ago I was in a car wreck and had to have my hip reconstructed. So running and biking are out. I have a stretching routine which is probably like simple yoga so I'd like to learn some more. And when its not too hot I love to hike. These things are much more fun with a partner. I gained some weight when I was laid up and am determined to lose it by the end of the year. Not looking for a gym buddy but a walking/hiking partner would be nice.

I love travel, which to me means road trips. I've never had a passport but I have seen a lot of this country. I'd love to travel the world, I've simply never been financially able to. Which is fine, there's still lots of the US I've yet to see. This year I went to DC and back with a swing through N. Carolina. This fall it's NM to Colorado.

Winter update....New Mexico was amazing. I camped for 3 nights at a state park called Sugarite Canyon. I want to go back, so my spring road trip might be NM to Arizona to southern Utah and my favorite place in the world, Zion Canyon National Park.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living it. Besides work, I hang with my friends. On my own I read a lot and also write. And I play music. I love road trips and when I get time off I like to hit the road.
I’m really good at
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Listening, communicating, having fun, being cool :) I'm comfortable in most any social situation.

I'm a pretty good writer but I don't do it often enough. I'm going to remedy that.

Keeping a beat. I can play drums ok, but I'm a terrible dancer. I've never understood that about myself.

Leading a team. I'm a natural leader. I think its because I'm honest and direct.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My friendly manner, my eyes, my voice. Oh yeah, that I have dreads.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books- too many to list. Orwell, not 1984 and Animal Farm but his nonfiction like Homage to Catalonia. Went to Spain to cover the Spanish Civil War and ended up joining the war (on the side of the Anarchists) . I love Hunter S. Thompson and have since Johnny Dep was on 21 Jump Street. (Meaning, I hate that it took Johnny Depp playing him for this amazing writer to get his due. I discovered him in college and his political essays changed my life.) It's shameful but I just last year read Great Gatsby. I read that Hunter once sat down and typed out that entire book because he wanted to know what it felt like to write a great book. Oh yeah, I'm supposed to be talking about myself.....I read a lot. Lately I've been obsessed with reading the sailing adventures of Thor Heyerdahl. He built wooden and reed rafts and sailed them across oceans. He tried to prove that humans have been sailing all over the world for thousands of years. In other words, Christopher Columbus didn't "discover" America.
Movies - Smart comedies like Big Lebowski (I consider it smart -- the dialogue is genius). Documentaries. Goofy stuff. I love John Candy in almost everything he did, Uncle Buck is a favorite. I'll watch almost anything if I'm with good company.
Music - Rolling Stones, Black Crows, The Who, Hanks, Sr. and III, Neil Young, Johny Cash. Love rock n roll and anything real.
Food - Not much I don't like. Indian food and BBQ top the list. I am allergic to shellfish, and not much of a sushi fan. I will only eat seafood if I am near the sea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, friends, books, music, dogs, travel.
Oh, and food, clothing, shelter. I've actually done without the first 6 things at different times in my life. Except friends, I've always had good friends.

After reading many other profiles I realize how boring my answer to this question is. How about 6 things I could live without but simply don't want to:

Caffeine, peanut butter, sex, Bourbon, hiking, vehicle. Again, I've lived without all of these at certain times in my life. Except peanut butter. I always have peanut butter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People-- what motivates them, what drives them to make choices.....maybe this is why I write. And why I studied anthropology in college.

My next trip. I enjoy planning a road trip almost as much as going on one.

Sometimes I'm thinking about what I'm thinking about. I'm mostly present and in the moment so I'm usually thinking about whatever I happen to be doing. Otherwise it could be anything from my laundry that needs to be done to the nature of the universe and our place in it. I'm inquisitive by nature so I think a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playin music with my friends.....or at home watching a movie with my dog :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm still looking for that special lady who will blow me away. Thought I'd given up but here I am doing something I never thought I'd do - filling out an online dating questionnaire.
You should message me if
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You want to. Unless I'm offended, which is next to impossible, I'll write back. At least once anyway. Seems like the polite thing to do :)

I think I've determined that the kind of women I'm interested in would be the ones who wouldn't be afraid to break the ice and write me first. I've been surprised how somewhat traditional online dating is in that way. I'm not saying I wont write first, if your profile strikes me in one way or another I have no problem telling you so. I'm just very impressed by women who are direct and confident enough to write me first.

I don't quite get where this silly website comes up with the personality traits it assigns to us. For instance, it says I'm "more sloppy" than average. What the f does that mean? And how did it decide this. I'm no neat freak, but I certainly don't consider myself "sloppy". I'm actually quite precise in many of my activities. It also says I'm "less romantic" and "less lawful". I'm quite romantic and have never been arrested. Wtf.