Well, like most people I suppose the spark is important, or at least a nice way to start. The problem with a spark can be it can cause a flash fire that burns out too quickly.
Someone who is independent, that can take care of themselves.. and not be a total wreck when I'm away with work... Sadly, there are times I have to go away for extended periods of time sometimes over half a year.. It sucks, but the anticipation of coming home is amazing.
I am not looking to change someone or have them try and change me.. We are both grown ups, and should be able to appreciate the differences without going crazy. I am not saying that expressing a dislike for something, is bad... I really prefer to discuss differences..
I love learning about people, what influences them, why they think the way they do.. I do have a nasty habit at times playing devils advocate, just to mix up a conversation.. it often results in laughter...