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56 M New York, NY

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Judaism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
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Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
INTRO. REGARDING INVITATIONS: It seems to me sensible to learn from experience and to remind ourselves of what real life contact is all about. Meeting strangers to dine or have 'coffee' can't avoid being an artificial spotlighted audition. So called 'first impressions' tend to be dominated by one's expectations and projections resulting from the impact of the digital process. I've found that sharing an activity that each of us would want to do anyhow serves two purposes - no time is wasted despite the outcome since it's a choice we both would desire; 2nd) it shifts attention to the activity allowing each to hopefully get passed the digital filters and actually get a relaxed sense of one another for better or worse.
I'm trained to be perceptive and prefer to express my appreciation of a profile separate from any question of compatibility as either friends or possible lovers, which short of face to face contact usually remains illusory. I don't believe we're drawn to one another merely because we find someone superficially attractive. Many fit that bill. When we look at actual friends or couples it's clearly evident that the 'chemistry' of human connection is about personal presence, the joy of seeing I to I, and mutual affinity. Sharing gives that process a chance. When i appreciate a profile, I extend myself. It's the most realistic way I know of determining our potential affinity. Only one or two meetings with members reveals that reliance on the profiles or photos is largely an illusion except when there's an absence of any appeal whatsoever.

I've experienced hardship and vulnerability yet it remains secondary to the joy of human friendship and intimacy. I'm up for both. I'm enough of a 'bad boy' to ruffle your feathers by not treating you as a generic cliche or as a fragile figurine. For better or worse, the following expresses who I am.

I'm warm, loving and curious, find humor in the moment and joy in sharing be it friendship or coupling. I enjoy being outdoors on a mountain trail or biking through Manhattan. Giving you my attention, cherishing your lively spirit, feeling your energy, appreciating your bright and creative mind, well toned body, and expressive presence would be a singular gift. Being visible to one another is an invitation not a threat. Hopefully you're at ease with your initiative, open to the feeling of being-at-home-together, playful, and curious regarding mind and heart and this fascinating universe that's our homeland.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a very independent and self directed person with a life long fascination with the "Who am I..." regarding our human reality. I've explored this both personally and professionally, creatively and 'academically'. Although I continue to do so my deepest motivation is to once again find the joy of what I call shared presence - that mutual affinity of warmth and laughter, an easy flow of conversation, the feeling of being-at-home-together. Having the opportunity to appreciate, admire, nurture, celebrate, and cherish deepens and realizes the fullness that I miss.
Apparently, unlike many people, neither hurt, disappointment or vulnerability has ever lessened my desire for the singular fulfillment of intimate sharing. I understand that many people shy away from that kind of risk. For myself, existential realities are not deterrents to joy.
Consider exploring with me the potential of friendship or coupling....

I continue to enjoy being creative through photography and writing, and my frequent pursuit of the arts that this generous city constantly offers. My tastes are very universal from modern dance to ballet to flamenco and tap; from Bach to Debussy, Bartok, Reich, Piazolla and Pink Floyd; from the musical "Lady Day" to Shakespeare and Shaw; from Monet to Rene Magritte and Dali; to dancing from salsa to swing to cheek to cheek....
I’m really good at
... finding humor in the moment, listening, appreciating and celebrating your bright mind, buoyant spirit, deep feelings, energy and strength. The contemporary woman capable of flexing her mind and muscles is a turn on not an intimidation.
The first things people usually notice about me
... my receptivity, ease, sometimes intensity, and my openness. And there's laughter
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My taste in the arts and culture ranges wide and deep. Maybe I'll add some specifics (see above) or just ask. Other than being audience, I'd love to have a Honey once again with whom to dance cheek to cheek, salsa, or swing... And since I love being outdoors and especially seeing the Moon's journey across the heavens through the month from month to month, I generally bike to these 'hives' of creative activity.
The six things I could never do without
... my mind, my heart, humor, laughter, curiosity, and joy in nurturing and loving (this is a circle not a line, each equally available from my center)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Given the existential reality that we're just passing thorough, what greater priority is there than love, friendship, and creative living. I'm fascinated by our current explorations into reality from the Big Bang to dark matter and energy, the evolution of life, and the mystery of consciousness. Have you seen images from the Hubble telescope yet wondered that 93% of the universe supposedly isn't visible? And what about that 3 pound entity known as the most complex object in the known universe - the human brain.....
I also wonder at the basic absence of human contact on these sites; that members seem to believe they can achieve friendship or romance from a digital display. Even a single meeting is a lesson in the distinction between a living, animated person and a two dimensional computer display. It seems many don't learn from experience and prefer their digital fantasy to the living reality of a person's presence. Even openness to conversation is relatively rare. What I've learned from my work isn't that people aren't sincere about their desires but that they're busy being who they are and can't get there from where that is. As long as the priority remains to defend one's self or maintain the comforting illusion of a fictional ideal, there's no actual place for a vibrant living person.
On a typical Friday night I am
... at a performance or museum. With you it might include dancing, snuggling at home, preparing a meal together or watching a film....
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 48–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
... you appreciate a guy capable of making you laugh, stimulating your mind, and who truly admires a contemporary woman who radiates with the joy of realizing her personal potential as a bright, buoyant, attractive, well toned, playful, feminine and fit, creative being. This is a gift, neither threatening or intimidating, to appreciate and be appreciated as friend or lover.