Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
By way of introduction, read all or part of the following keeping
in mind that humor and seriousness are not contradictory. I'm quite
humorous, curious, sometimes intense and creative, generally open
and relaxed, very approachable, receptive and responsive. I'm
attracted to rather than intimidated, (as is sometimes mentioned in
profiles), by a woman's 'muchness' -- intelligence, competence,
creativity, curiosity, expressiveness, femininity, and emotional
and physical strength, openness and vulnerability.
Neither race, ethnicity, education, height, or religion (unless
fundamentalist or orthodox) are deal breakers. I've had close
loving relations with women of varied backgrounds. If you're
heatfull, mindful, feminine, and strong, I'd love to explore the
possibility of either friendship or coupling.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm very independent and self directed. I've had a life long
fascination with the "Who am I" - the wonderful depth, scope and
mystery of the self and life which I've pursued through a range of
personal experience (art, nature, and intimacy - details when we
connect); and my early work in inter-group relations utilizing
experiential methods dealing with racial, religious, ethnic, and
geographical prejudice; and later a non-diagnostic approach working
with individuals and small groups in terms of personal
I've known what it is to love, cherish, nurture, and celebrate
friend or lover, and seek either of those possibilities. Sadly, the
truth is that many live defensively in avoidance of disappointment.
Nothing in my experience deters me from once again seeking the joy
of love - an easy flow of conversation, the bubbling warmth of
laughter and finding humor in the moment, the singular feeling of
being-at-home-together, relaxed and caring, passionate and intense,
the sanctuary of tenderness and touch, and the affinity of shared
presence being visible each to the other. Do you have the courage
(the root apparently means "to have heart" to say yes to life and
love, or at least sharing and friendship?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
... finding humor in the moment, listening, appreciating and
celebrating your bright mind, buoyant spirit, deep feelings, energy
and strength. The contemporary woman capable of flexing her mind
and muscles is a turn on not an intimidation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... my receptivity, ease, sometimes intensity, and my openness. And
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My taste in the arts and culture ranges wide and deep. Maybe I'll
add some specifics (see above) or just ask. Other than being
audience, I'd love to have a Honey once again with whom to dance
cheek to cheek, salsa, or swing... And since I love being outdoors
and especially seeing the Moon's journey across the heavens through
the month from month to month, I generally bike to these 'hives' of
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
... my mind, my heart, humor, laughter, curiosity, and joy in
nurturing and loving (this is a circle not a line, each equally
available from my center)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Given the existential reality that we're just passing thorough,
what greater priority is there than love, friendship, and creative
living. I'm fascinated by our current explorations into reality
from the Big Bang to dark matter and energy, the evolution of life,
and the mystery of consciousness. Have you seen images from the
Hubble telescope yet wondered that 93% of the universe supposedly
isn't visible? And what about that 3 pound entity known as the most
complex object in the known universe - the human brain.....
I also wonder at the basic absence of human contact on these sites;
that members seem to believe they can achieve friendship or romance
from a digital display. Even a single meeting is a lesson in the
distinction between a living, animated person and a two dimensional
computer display. It seems many don't learn from experience and
prefer their digital fantasy to the living reality of a person's
presence. Even openness to conversation is relatively rare. What
I've learned from my work isn't that people aren't sincere about
their desires but that they're busy being who they are and can't
get there from where that is. As long as the priority remains to
defend one's self or maintain the comforting illusion of a
fictional ideal, there's no actual place for a vibrant living
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... at a performance or museum. With you it might include dancing,
snuggling at home, preparing a meal together or watching a film....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm disappointed that this process has settled on what is known as
the lowest common denominator. A profile is an invitation. If
someone gives it the respect of their attention coupled with a
thoughtful or felt response, they usually deserve a reply, even if
it's a "Not interested", "Not attracted", "Unavailable",
"Interested but can't make it". Rejection isn't an excuse for
indifference, insensitivity, reduction of others (equally aware and
feeling humans) since it's delusional to ignore that it's 98% of
what takes place and to use it to excuse a non-reply because one
doesn't want to hurt someone's feelings. I'm not referring to junk
emails. It's a disrespect of one's self to claim YOU'RE sincere and
caring while treating others as objects of your priority - what
Martin Buber called "I/It" rather than "I/Thou".
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you appreciate a guy capable of making you laugh, stimulating
your mind, and who truly admires a contemporary woman who radiates
with the joy of realizing her personal potential as a bright,
buoyant, attractive, well toned, playful, feminine and fit,
creative being. Affinity is a wonderful gift, neither threatening
or intimidating, to appreciate and be appreciated as friend or
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