I grew up in a working class, Irish Catholic, coastal town outside of Boston, a kind of town that doesn't exist anymore. From the time I was young, I wanted to leave. On family trips to the city, I would wish that I lived in one of the run down brownstones that lined the southeast expressway. I went to college at Boston University, then moved to New York. Other than graduate school in Los Angeles and a year in Italy, I’ve lived here ever since.
I like a dry sense of humor. I like people who have a bit of an edge—who aren’t too sensitive, moral, or easily offended. Who will make fun of me, and whom I can make fun of. I want to be with people who are idealistic and ethical; who are passionate, interested, creative, engaged with the world, who read, and who believe that one of the great experiences in life is to be transformed by art, whatever your art of choice is.
I like people whose lives are characterized more by living than consuming. I think--at least I’m pretty sure--that all the traits I just listed describe me as well.
Things I love (family and Friends not included):
Spending time with my children.
The light in New York City, especially in the late afternoon.
One or two friends, a bar, and drinks.
Northern New England.
Walking long distances.
Skating outside in Winter.
Red Wine, Whiskey.
Things I like:
Baseball. The Red Sox. But I'm an unapologetic fair weather fan--why be tortured?
Exercise. I might say I love to exercise, but it takes so much time. It's always a conflict. That takes it down a notch.
Cooking. Again, I might have said I love it. But when you're very good at one thing, it's hard to do something else and experience a lot of failures. Which is what cooking has been for me. Too many failures to love it. Actually, maybe I don't even like it.
Things I Don't Like:
Towns that maintain a falsely rural or otherwise nostalgic veneer, like Princeton, NJ or Lincoln, MA.
When I stop at green lights or drive through red lights, both of which I do with alarming frequency.
Artists: Ingres, my favorite , if I had to choose just one.
Andy Warhol (the more I look at him, the better he gets.)
Christopher Williams, Ed Ruscha, Lyubov Popova, Alice Neel, Tomma Abts, Kerry James Marshall, Meredith Frampton.
Books: My favorite book is probably Camera Lucida, by Roland Barthes. I read Lydia Davis recently, and think she's brilliant. I also love John Donne, Theodor Dreiser, Marcel Proust, Henry James, Wallace Stevens, Elizabeth Bishop, Flannery O'Connor, Roman Jakobsen, Luis Aragon, and so many others.
Movies: L’Atalante, M, Grand Illusion, The Big Lebowski, The Awful Truth, Late Spring, Grizzly Man
Food: Mexican, Indian, and Italian are probably my favorites, but I like most cuisines. I'll eat anything once. And unless I'm deluding myself, I'm a pretty good cook when I have the time. I like to make things from scratch, and have finally conquered the pie crust, which was hard.
And I would prefer to avoid long online exchanges, and meet as soon as possible. There's so much you don't pick up about a person unless you meet face to face. Let's make this as much like the real world as possible.