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30 Los Angeles, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 28–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:57am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Graduated from masters program
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I have been a very lucky guy. Growing up in an interesting place called Shanghai, I have always enjoyed the depth of Chinese culture while being exposed to the Western charm the city has to offer -- you can take a walk in the French quarter in a late afternoon, windowshop all the boutiques, chat with friends at a cozy cafe, perhaps Chinese food for dinner, and then after all that, go to have a drink at a live jazz club.

I love travelling, and have lived briefly in London, Beijing, Melbourne, San Francisco besides Los Angeles. I came to LA seven years ago for graduate school. I love the cultural diversity and good weather. I also enjoy being openly gay in an accepting environment. But at the same time, I still find it a bit difficult to find people whom I can click with at a deeper level. You can't start a converstion with someone while driving; bars are often too loud, so I am turning to Cupid for new directions.

I live a very dynamic and balanced life. I enjoy going to movies, theatres, concerts and exhibits. I love cooking as well as trying new restaurants. I am recently obsessed with Modernist Cuisine.

I am kind of a political junkie and care a lot about what’s happening around the world. I have a very busy schedule at work but enjoy spending time volunteering for LGBT non-profits. I think life would be a lot easier if we can be less ego-centric and willing to land each other a hand.

I am not an artist, but I have a very creative mind. I love fresh thoughts and new ideas, an interesting home design piece can totally make me smile.

I love to wake up on a Saturday morning seeing my boyfriend lying next to me. I will kiss his forehead with a smile on my face.

I love to share, and that includes my life…

So drop me a line if you find anything I said above caught your eyes. Let's have a conversation and take it from there. Maybe we will both be surprised!
What I’m doing with my life
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born adventurist; professional communications strategist; amateur gay rights activist; entrepreneur in training...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making coffee
Carrying a conversation
Reading maps and figuring out shortcuts
Random facts
Selecting gifts
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile.
My eyes (has been a controversial one).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Le Petit Prince; A Single Man; Chinese Poems from Tang Dynasty; I also read a lot of news. My daily routine is LA Times, New York Times, whatever people post on Facebook, Business of Fashion and Monocle Magazine on weekends.

Movies: A Single Man; Midnight in Paris; All About My Mother; In the Mood for Love; Man of My Life; all things made by Francois Ozon, and many more.

Music: Classical, Jazz, Musical, American Pop, French Chanson. Adore Mozart as much as Gaga.

Food: Resataurant Target list for this year, raise your hand if you are interested.
1. Trois Mec
2. Orsa & Winston
3. Red Medicine
4. Noma (long shot)
5. Farm House (brunch)
6. Los Balcones

Things I love to cook:
Coq au vin
Eggs in many style
Brussel sprouts
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends and family
iPhone (Histamatic App)
Good conversation
Learning new things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I did right today and where I fucked up...
Why some people are just so angry, mean and hateful...
How can I change the world a little bit...
The things I'd love to do with mon Petit Prince.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Work out at the gym, go home, fix myself a light dinner and relax with a glass of wine on my patio.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I prefer to tell you in person.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. think a heartfelt conversation under the blanket is as exciting as what happens after, well, or maybe before. actually persisted reading through my profile and are still awake. describe yourself as romantic, sweet, intelligent and/or gracious.