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61 M Portland, OR

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  • Ages 50–68
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Aug 6
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Twenty-two years growing up in Portland, then thirty-eight years in LA & SF & the East Bay as a Californian, & now back in Portland to resume life. One marriage, three grown children. Many jobs, now retired, writing creative nonfiction as a vocation.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing books (as yet unpublished), reading, listening to music, appreciating all forms of art, communicating with & continuing to parent my children. Taking pleasure in life that offers such a range of them.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communicating in words, listening, paying attention, digesting, comprehending, trying to understand, occasionally failing, trying again from a slightly different angle.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably that I'm bald, then perhaps the slightly wry smile of expectation & the ear cocked to listen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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WRITERS: Henry James, Marcel Proust, James Joyce, Franz Kafka, William Faulkner, Giacomo Casanova, Ford Madox Ford. I especially love memoirs & autobiographies, old & new, & have a large collection of them at home (or rather in boxes waiting to be unpacked when I find a permanent Portland home).

MOVIES: One-Eyed Jacks, The American Friend, Mean Streets, McCabe & Mrs Miller, Shampoo, The Conversation, The Private Life of Sherlock Holmes, Jackie Brown, Punch-Drunk Love, Twilight Samurai. Directors: Scorsese, Coppola, Polanski, Hawkes, Ford, Welles, Sturges, the Coen bros, Terrence Malick, Errol Morris, Paul Thomas Anderson, Wes Anderson.

TV SHOWS: Saturday Night Live (1970s incarnation especially), The Wire, Breaking Bad (I do however hate TV commercials, & so only watch shows on disk or Netflix), The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, The Chappelle Show (especially the Charlie Murphy segments).

MUSIC: Elvis Costello, Richard Thompson, Joni Mitchell, Springsteen, early electric Bob Dylan, Stevie Wonder's first five independent albums, Aretha Franklin, Bonnie Raitt, blues, gospel, country (Hank Williams is king), The National, Okkervil River, Iron & Wine, James Blake & other contemporary bands my kids turn me on to, Kanye West being the latest & fondest such acquisition.

FOOD: omelets (because you can put many interesting things in them), most things involving bacon, most ethnic foods, lots of spices & flavors, low carb (I don't do snack foods, soda pop, or high carb pigouts, though popcorn slathered with butter is a must while watching movies).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My mom (I know, I know, but when she goes she'll take a little piece of my heart with her)
My three kids
My dearest friends
Literature & all forms of human expression
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Art (the only thing human cultures invariably produce that has no apparent survival value).

Sex: I'm fascinated by its curious hold on the imagination beyond its obvious value in propagating the species (Savage Love is my favorite newspaper column on my favorite subject). Once in my life I'd love to know what the sex life of a bonobo's like.

Love: How is it that in spite of being wired for random sex like bonobos we have a penchant for falling in love with each other & pairing off? It makes no sense, & yet we know it happens, we've felt it, we've fallen in & out of love, but do we understand it? Can we say what it really amounts to? Yet we devoutly wish for it to happen again....
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm retired, so there's no typical Friday night routine, though I like to watch movies on Netflix with friends & family on weekends because those who're working are generally free then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like women with hair under their arms ... there, I said it.
You should message me if
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you think F. Scott Fitzgerald was wrong when he said There are no second acts in American lives.

I'll lighten up if you will.